my good friend was in a fatal car crash last week and didnt make it... I found out today and I don't know how to deal with this. I have dealt with many deaths in my life, although I am only 20. I have had a basestfriend kill herself, and many family members pass on, and still others close to me, go in other ways. But for some reason, I can't cry, I cant scream, i can't be mad, oreven feel, it's like im empty. i just want to get something out. its like i feel so deeply about this, that i cant feel...

Dear Tears,
I'm sorry you have to deal with yet another big loss in your life. From what you describe, it almost sounds like you've reached your capacity for grieving, but give it time for the shock to wear off. I can't say anything to change what you're feeling or make it better, but I want you to know someone hears you. Take care,
Tintx

There isn't a WAY to grieve. Don't worry that your not crying. Maybe for some reason your at peace with it knowing that your friend is ok now. I used to talk to my friend that died and it made me feel comfortable, almost like he was listening. Then one day a peace came over me and it was all ok. Start a journal, sometimes that helps to get out feelings or feelings that you seem to have put in your subconcious. Sorry that you have lost someone else. ^i^

I'm so sorry. Don't go through this alone. Maybe some grief counseling?

Thank you to all of you. It means a lot that you all replied to my post. I don't feel so alone. I have been able to write a tiny bit about how i feel about the whole situation and i feel a little comforted knowing shes not in pain or anything. I know it will take time... Thank you again... ~tears

Boy do I know how you feel. My dad died and there I was, a daddy's girl, but FOUR MONTHS had gone by and I still hadn't cried. I really needed to in my case. It's like there was a dam there holding them back and they really needed to flow.

So, (please don't laugh!) I found a copy of the movie "Beaches" w/Bette Midler and found a time when I would be alone for a few hours and watched that movie.
And I swear to God it really worked.

Three years later I have no problem crying.
(I also now cry at Hallmark commercials, schmaltzy family shows, etc but hey, it sure did really work...)
:angel:

Wow, you have been through a lot for being so young. I also lost a best friend in high school to a car accident which I'm sure lots of people have also. It really just takes time but you never actually get over it. Just remember that everything happens for a reason and you have to just move on with your life. :) Hang in there.

i have the same siutaion my 19 year old friend died 2 months ago of cancer, i mean i used to be best freinds with this kid , but havent tlaked to him in liek 3 months, i feel so bad for nto talkign to him more recently before he died, and i havent cried havent doen anythign it still hasnt hit me that hes dead, its a blank feeling when i think about him

My best friend commit suicide when I was 19, that was 10 years ago. I never have stopped thinking about it and wondering why, but it does get easier - now I'm married with two little kids... so there is a purpose for you here.. focus on your future and let the pain just settle into your body to get back to it when your ready. There is no right way to feel. Let it make you stronger and LOVE others MORE!!!

my friend died about 3 years ago. i felt the same way. but it wasn't becasue i was at peace. i don't know why. it was horrible though because i remember how much i looked up to him and how much i liked him. i remember the last time he came to my house. i was only 15 so i had a curfew and he came over real late but for some reason my mom let me go out and me and him went up to the school and we kissed. i miss him. he killed himself and no one seen it coming. i understand how you're feeling.