Hello,
Ok here is my situation....I'm 17 and I want to switch to another form of birthcontrol.... But my mother says there is no way I'm switching to the patch or pill......Now does my mother get to make the final decision on what birthcontrol i get to use? And my next shot is November 22 three months after that Is when I'm suppose to go again but I'll be 18....Can I decide for myself if I wan't to discontinue with birthcontrol after I'm 18? My mother told me that after I'm 18 im no longer on her medical insurance unless im a student but I'm homeschooled...I just want to make sure that once I'm 18 I can decide for myself if I want to continue with birthcontrol??? Thanks! :confused:

That's up to you and your mom. Is there a reason why you want to change? Is there a reason why she don't want to you change? I would talk to your mom about it, and talk to your doctor about it. Maybe your doctor can talk to your mom and help her to see your point of view. What it comes down to is it is YOUR body, and you can do as you please with your health. Are you going to college? that is what the insurance will look at as to your being in school. If not, then you will be off your parents' insurance (probably) and you can get your b/c another way (your own insurance, health dept ect) so it will be only up to you.
best of luck

When you are 18, there is nothing that your mother can say or do. Most likely, your mother wouldn't even be able to consult with your doctor for anything (since you won't be a minor) due to privacy acts.

You are doing the right thing by switching to another form of b/c because that shot is horrible.

Well I'm on the Depo shot.....I have heard so many horrible things about it and It's scared me.....I also have alot of hairloss and I have gained a total of 60 pounds while on it..(I have only lost 20 of it) Just knowing that so many people hate it and have had so many problems trying to get pregnant....I with no problem in the future. And If when I'm 18 its my decision if I want birthcontrol or not then I would like to feel better about switching without my mother having a say in it!...Thanks very much!

Just curious, but why is your mother so adamant that you stay on Depo and not go to the pill or the patch?

well she says that she can't trust me on the pill because I might forget to take it. With the patch she doesn't trust it. I hope that when I'm 18 that she will not be able to make the decision on if I should stay on Birthcontrol or not. I would like to make my own decision. She also says that if I want to see my boyfriend that I have to be on birthcontrol and if I decide not to then I can't see him....Now he lives in Georgia and I live in Virginia and we only see eachother like every 3-6 months. Thanks.

I don't know how long it will be before you reach 18, but I would just sit tight and stay on the Depo until you reach 18 and then change. Reason I say that is this-your mother put you on Depo/discussed w/your doctor about putting you on Depo. That tells me right there that if you changed bc methods, your mother would have the right to still get info from your doctor regarding your medical records since you are still a minor-in this case, that info would be what kind of bc are you on, are you still on Depo, etc....

That's just my reasoning/point of view. I could be wrong. But I would stick it out until you get 18, that is if you don't develop any really serious health problems. I know that's probably not the answer you want to hear. But just the do the best you can right now, and when you turn 18, then you're own your own.

IMO, all that weight gain (sorry, not trying to sound rude) would alarm me if I was a mother. But I can also understand your mother's concern though about you forgetting to take the pill. I couldn't even remember to take them when I was in my late 20's!!!

If you want off, tell her about the FDA's new warning that came out yesterday or the day before. Depo is being given a black box warning (the strongest FDA warning) because it causes osteoporosis. They say it should now only be given to women who can't take other birth control.

It sounds like when you turn 18 you will be switching your b/c. Be prepared to flip the bill though. Some of these pills can be pricy. I'm on seasonal, and I have to pay for it myself, no insureance im paying about 115.00 for a 3month pkt. Which isnt to bad if you do the math, but b/c can be a financial burden.

She sounds like she wants it her way or no way. And it will be up to you to remember to take it your pills. Once you've been taking 'em for a while you ultimatly remember "oh yeah gotta take that"

do some reseach on what you think would be best for you. talk to you doc about the patch and other pills! good luck!

One thing your mother is right about - the patch. I've had a lot of friends get pregnant on it and they were using it like they were supposed to!

Just to let you know, the depo shot causes depression so once you quit taking it, you'll start to feel emotionally better.