gracesufficient
11-18-2004, 10:17 AM
I hope this post is appropriate, but this is for all those who have had a miscarriage....I want to share with you one thing I did to help with greif....
The past few months I have really been dealing with grief (our baby would have been born in September). It seems to really be hitting me, and with the holidays coming up I am really starting to notice how I have this kind of "hole" in my family. You know when you are pregnant you look forward to certain firsts with your child, and Christmas is my favorite time of the year. Anyway, I was at the mall last night feeling sorry for myself basically, when I decided to "commemorate" the loss of my child buy buying a gift for a needy child. Our mall has a "gift tree", where you can take a tag of a large tree in the mall with the "wishes" of a child who's family can't afford gifts. Anyway, I went shopping for a 4 year old girl who wanted jeans and shirts for Christmas. It was so rewarding and it felt like the perfect way to change mourning into joy. If any of you have the oppurtunity to find a way to do this... to give back in memory of your baby, I would stongly encourage it. This isn't the first year I have done this, but this year held all new meaning for me. It was awesome. I went home and told my husband about it, and he wants to do that on his own this weekend as his own form of "therapy".
Don't know if this really helps anyone, but it sure helped me snap out of my greif-stricken mood.
Merry (early) Christmas!
The past few months I have really been dealing with grief (our baby would have been born in September). It seems to really be hitting me, and with the holidays coming up I am really starting to notice how I have this kind of "hole" in my family. You know when you are pregnant you look forward to certain firsts with your child, and Christmas is my favorite time of the year. Anyway, I was at the mall last night feeling sorry for myself basically, when I decided to "commemorate" the loss of my child buy buying a gift for a needy child. Our mall has a "gift tree", where you can take a tag of a large tree in the mall with the "wishes" of a child who's family can't afford gifts. Anyway, I went shopping for a 4 year old girl who wanted jeans and shirts for Christmas. It was so rewarding and it felt like the perfect way to change mourning into joy. If any of you have the oppurtunity to find a way to do this... to give back in memory of your baby, I would stongly encourage it. This isn't the first year I have done this, but this year held all new meaning for me. It was awesome. I went home and told my husband about it, and he wants to do that on his own this weekend as his own form of "therapy".
Don't know if this really helps anyone, but it sure helped me snap out of my greif-stricken mood.
Merry (early) Christmas!