hey all i have a question my baby boy will be 2 months old tomorrow when i go to the doctor she always tells me you cant spoil a baby well i dont hold my baby all the time but since i have a large house and me and hubbys room is on one side babys is on the other so after he was born we got a bassinet and put it n our room for him to sleep was easier since i had a ceaserian well now i try to put him in his crib in his room during the day and its like as soon as he sees he is alone he crys he also has a play pen in the living room ill put him down he will be awake and fine but its like as soon as i walk out he crys. just like i got my tubes tide last week my mom kept him that night he kept her up like all night and cried alot when i got him he slept and was fine same with my hubby if he watches him he gets whinny alot and with me he is a great baby dont cry much sleeps pretty much all night so is he spoiled? so is this normal? :confused: undefined

You absolutely cannot spoil a baby that young! Babies that age cry because they have needs and that is their only way of communicating those needs. Those needs include human touch and maternal companionship. These are necessary in the early months for the baby to feel secure and safe. Some babies are more cuddly than others. My son was held and played with constantly (we lived with my parents at the time. He always had someone's undivided attention!) for the first 6 months of his life. He slept in bed with me and was rarely left alone. Now he is healthy, happy, well adjusted, and extremely social. He also entertains himself very well and is a very independent kid at 17 months.

I don't think you need to worry about spoiling children until around a year old. Some a little earlier or later. It depends on the child. But definitely not at two months! And the fact that he is sleeping so well at night is better than many babies that age!

Keep up the good work.

I totally agree with Kelly! Not only is the cuddling and holding good for him, but trust me when I say they grow fast and when he is older you will miss this! I think that when our children are walking out the door to college or down the aisle we are all more likely going to be wishing we had spent more time cuddling and rocking, not that we hadn't "spoiled" them so much! Enjoy your baby as much as you can while he is still little!

Nancy

Hi toddandjennie, I totally agree as well. A baby that young can not be spoiled and they only use crying or fussing to let you know that they need something.

I have a feeling that when someone else watches the baby when you aren't there, it's not because you've spoiled it, it's more likely that your baby isn't satified with the way that others do things because he's used to the way that YOU do things right down to the way that you may feel to him. It may just be the way that you hold him, you talk to him, you even smell to him. A baby knows it's mother in many ways and depends on her for everything and I'm sure that's all it is. Your baby will get better this way as he grows older I'm sure. Hang in there and keep lovin' and cuddlin' that baby as much as you can!

Some people call that spoiled, but hey, your son hasnt learned that he is going to be ok and that just because he cant see or feel you that you are there and he is still ok. You are the queen of his world and about the only person he trusts right now, so he is going to cry with other people. Mostly all babies do. The best way to handle it is to go on and leave his sight, but talk to him from where you are, and also use the Feberizing technique used for getting babies to learn to sleep on their own...leave the room, and dont rush in as soon as he cries, do what you need to do but return in five minutes to calm him down....or less, but each time you leave, increase the amount of time between you going back into the room. I used this method for my daughter so now if I need to leave her in my room while i go to the bathroom, she won't raise much of a fuss for about 10-15 minutes...unless of course she's sleepy, hurting, upset, or whatever. But normally she just squeals at my voice until she sees me come back in, then she starts laughing.

But your son is only two months, so go easy on him, it gets better.

No you can't spoil that baby! I remember my daughter was always a bit fussy in the evening and I read somewhere that holding them for extended periods helped that so I did. I would just put her on my chest and watch TV and it was heaven on earth. Slow down and enjoy it and smell his sweetness while that angel's so tiny.

I would usually rock my babies in a quiet room until they fell asleep and then put them in their beds. When they were a bit older than yours, they make awaken and stir and fuss a minute or two but by then they were so exhausted they just fell asleep.

Good luck==it continues to get easier
Paula