mel1977
12-12-2004, 03:24 AM
I don't know why but the last week or so I have really been craving a smoke. I don't think I will give in, but I don't understand it. I am guessing probably b/c of my upcoming surgery with stress and all. I just wish this would go away for me. I went to hubby's Xmas party last night, and it was the first time I have gone "out" and not smoked, the first time I was not outside with the rest of the smokers. But, I just can't get over this feeling. Anyone else feel this way after quitting? I am coming up on two months. Thanks.
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Deda
12-12-2004, 04:41 AM
Hi Mel--
I think most of us have gone through that a few times after we quit. I know I did. But don't throw a good 2 month quit out the door, that you worked so hard to achieve. You would regret it tremendously. :( Were you spending a lot of time at that party thinking about going out to smoke, and how much you missed it? Just think...some of those poor people outside are probably wishing they had what you have, a good solid quit! Be prepared for those times in the future. Take along some gum, hard candy, go dance up a storm with your hubby, or engage in conversation with the non smokers, since that's what you are now. If things get too bad, then up and leave. :nono: It's funny, but tonight my husband and I were out walking, and we passed this one house where there were 2 women sitting in the garage smoking, (door was opened), and they were talking, kicking back, and just for maybe 5 seconds, I remembered how much I used to enjoy that too. Not just the smoking, but being outside, engaged in chit chat with a friend, smoking and all. But when I think of that, I try to get those thoughts out of my head. I then try to think of something else, that's my past, and I don't want to go there anymore. I look forward to next year being able to celebrate my 2 year anniversary, and someday 3 yrs, 4, 5 years, and on and on. :) You're lucky in that your hubby doesn't smoke, right? Didn't you once quit for 5 years before? And in time, your cravings will be a lot less than what they are now. At 2 months quit, I was still thinking about it a little more, now I rarely think about it. You will get there too. And good for you that you didn't give in! :)
Deda
I think most of us have gone through that a few times after we quit. I know I did. But don't throw a good 2 month quit out the door, that you worked so hard to achieve. You would regret it tremendously. :( Were you spending a lot of time at that party thinking about going out to smoke, and how much you missed it? Just think...some of those poor people outside are probably wishing they had what you have, a good solid quit! Be prepared for those times in the future. Take along some gum, hard candy, go dance up a storm with your hubby, or engage in conversation with the non smokers, since that's what you are now. If things get too bad, then up and leave. :nono: It's funny, but tonight my husband and I were out walking, and we passed this one house where there were 2 women sitting in the garage smoking, (door was opened), and they were talking, kicking back, and just for maybe 5 seconds, I remembered how much I used to enjoy that too. Not just the smoking, but being outside, engaged in chit chat with a friend, smoking and all. But when I think of that, I try to get those thoughts out of my head. I then try to think of something else, that's my past, and I don't want to go there anymore. I look forward to next year being able to celebrate my 2 year anniversary, and someday 3 yrs, 4, 5 years, and on and on. :) You're lucky in that your hubby doesn't smoke, right? Didn't you once quit for 5 years before? And in time, your cravings will be a lot less than what they are now. At 2 months quit, I was still thinking about it a little more, now I rarely think about it. You will get there too. And good for you that you didn't give in! :)
Deda
mel1977
12-12-2004, 05:03 AM
Ah, have never quit in my life, heck, never even cut back. I smoked a little over ten years. Hubby used to smoke, but never as much or as long as I did, and he had quit here and there. Sometimes he still wants one, infact, he told me that not long ago he had one at work. He said if I ever did have one out, that it would be okay as long as I left it at just that night. But, I of course will do everything in my power NOT to do that.
Actually, I didnt' think about it much last night at all! That was the strange thing, but of course, it would have been different if they had been allowed to smoke inside. I get the cravings at the oddest times-I will just be sitting here on the couch and BAM! I want a smoke.
The hardest time will be when I see my best friend. She smokes, used to be my smoking buddy-and I have not seen her since I quit. That will be a challenge.
I wouldn't start again anyway, I have a spinal fusion on Wed, and I can't risk it not healing due to smoking. Besides, I think it would really only be hard if she and I went out sometime, later on down the road after I heal. But, then whose to say I won't just hate the smell even more by then? I will be bed bound for a week and house bound for some time after that. Not too concerned about starting up again. I just get these feelings here and there, and they suck. Thank you though so much for your words, gets my head going in the right direction again!
Actually, I didnt' think about it much last night at all! That was the strange thing, but of course, it would have been different if they had been allowed to smoke inside. I get the cravings at the oddest times-I will just be sitting here on the couch and BAM! I want a smoke.
The hardest time will be when I see my best friend. She smokes, used to be my smoking buddy-and I have not seen her since I quit. That will be a challenge.
I wouldn't start again anyway, I have a spinal fusion on Wed, and I can't risk it not healing due to smoking. Besides, I think it would really only be hard if she and I went out sometime, later on down the road after I heal. But, then whose to say I won't just hate the smell even more by then? I will be bed bound for a week and house bound for some time after that. Not too concerned about starting up again. I just get these feelings here and there, and they suck. Thank you though so much for your words, gets my head going in the right direction again!
Deda
12-12-2004, 05:21 AM
Oh, you're welcome Mel, that's what this board is for. :) I think I had you mixed up with another poster that I chatted with on here recently, who had quit for 5 years and is now quitting again.
Yes, I know those cravings just sneak up on us sometimes out of nowhere. But, that was more in the beginning for me. And it still does happen every now and then. They don't last long at all though. Now, your hubby having that one cig, wow, that for me would just blow it all to heck. I know, because it's happened to me SO many times in the past. (I've quit at least 10 x) They say we're only a cig away from a pack a day...you better believe it Mel!
Do you know, out of all of my girlfriends, only a couple are left that smoke, and I don't see them very often. We mainly talk on the phone. But most of my friends are non smokers, and now it's so nice to go to their house, and not have to be embarrassed and say, "I'm going to go outside and smoke". :o Or sit there for hours and suffer. :( It's so nice to be like them now,,, in the majority!
Yes, you are right, you don't need to be smoking before surgery, a very bad idea. (or AFTER) It's so wonderful that you have quit over 2 months before you go in there. :)
take care girl...
Deda
Yes, I know those cravings just sneak up on us sometimes out of nowhere. But, that was more in the beginning for me. And it still does happen every now and then. They don't last long at all though. Now, your hubby having that one cig, wow, that for me would just blow it all to heck. I know, because it's happened to me SO many times in the past. (I've quit at least 10 x) They say we're only a cig away from a pack a day...you better believe it Mel!
Do you know, out of all of my girlfriends, only a couple are left that smoke, and I don't see them very often. We mainly talk on the phone. But most of my friends are non smokers, and now it's so nice to go to their house, and not have to be embarrassed and say, "I'm going to go outside and smoke". :o Or sit there for hours and suffer. :( It's so nice to be like them now,,, in the majority!
Yes, you are right, you don't need to be smoking before surgery, a very bad idea. (or AFTER) It's so wonderful that you have quit over 2 months before you go in there. :)
take care girl...
Deda
mel1977
12-12-2004, 05:12 PM
hehe, you know, I was at a gas station the other day getting a soda, and I saw some horoscope lighters, one with a scorpio which is mine and I actually went to grab it! Then it dawned on me-DUH, you don't smoke anymore!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I got a good giggle out of that one.
Deda
12-14-2004, 02:38 AM
:nono: NO BUYING NEW LIGHTERS, MEL! :nono:
just a friendly little reminder...LOL
Deda :D
just a friendly little reminder...LOL
Deda :D