ok, i have this friend of mine who i believe has an eating disorder. see, she comes to school and shes always like," i didnt eat breakfast this morning, and i didnt eat dinner last night, i dont think im gonna eat lunch today either". and it wasnt a real concern of mine till i realized its been going on for about 2 months. i tell her to eat and she still refuses. me and another of my friends have consulted a therapist but we're still waiting to hear back from her, yet in the meantime i thought i would bring it up with you guys. so if any of you have had past experince with a situation like mine or if you know something that could help, plz let me know. thxz.

I was your friend in high school, I was a anorexic/bulemic. Luckily I had a dear friend who cared enough to put me on the spot, she confronted me and made me eat something at lunch,even if it was just a couple pieces of bread. Then if I would go directly to the bathroom afterward she would follow me in there. It's may seem like a lot to do but you almost have to babysit them. Also if you are active in any sports, go to your coach....that's what my girlfriend did. If not a coach, then a teacher or professor you think would help. This went on with me for 6 months or so before someone stepped in. I had lost 47 lbs in a 3 month time perod and looked like death warmed over. If there is anyway you could confide in her parents or at least make them aware, that may also help. She may be upset with you at first but she'll look back 10 years from now, as I do and be more than greatful for it. I would not be sitting here writing this to you if I hadn't had a friend who cared enough to put herself out on a line.

sometimes confronting her, and trying to make her eat will make her do it more. She sees all the attention you are giving her. Maybe she doesnt even realize that it's attention she wants. It could be too that she is just crying out for your help, but maybe if you keep saying to her " your getting too skinny you need to eat", or even just " why arent you eating anything" I know It would make me do it more, because thats means people are noticing me getting thinner and thats good in the eyes of a person with an ED. One time in the bigining of my eating disorder my mom, and I were talking about it. Not about me, but just ingeneral. She said to me " Purging doesnt even make you loose weight, it just makes you sick." I stopped after that for awhile and went to a healthy diet all because my mom said that it wont make you skinny, itll just make you sick. Give your friend love and care, not attention. Im not saying you were or anything. just always remember alot of people with ED's like to hear that they are loosing weight and that means what they are doing is working, just be careful how you word things. Its also best for you to sit her down and really show your concern for her. Good luck

thxz much u guys. hopefully this will work out. great advice!

Don't take this personally, and I know a lot of people will disagree but I don't think its right to get teachers involved. It may make your friend feel like she can't trust you and then she will hide things from you and you won't be able to help her at all. People with eating disorders can only get better if they want to. No one can force them too. Its hard but thats the way it is.

All you can do is let her know you're there to talk to, not discuss weight or food or anything related around her. The amount of my friends that argue with me about not eating and then go on to say how fat they are when they are a clothes size smaller (some of them) and all the tormenting discussions they've had about people with EDs being stupid bla bla bla and I have been forced to sit and listen and not correct them on the many occasions they are wrong. It makes me withdraw into myself and dislike them. Guide your friend alongside ehr, to not push her or pull her into recovery. Cliched, I know, but just be there for her.
Sorry I couldn't be of more help, I just wanted to give my two cents!

Emily xx

Uhhhh. Ok I don't think forcing her to eat is the trick. I am ana, right now. I am starving myself. It's very, very phsycological. Don't start telling everyone or getting anyone involved. Trust me, she'll probably flip and totally screw your friendship. This is a very, very fragile situation. And you really shouldn't start making her eat and forcing her to stuff food in her face. It would probably be best to get your Mother to talk to her Mother. Then her Mom can get her into rehab. Don't take it into your own hands.
Hope this Helps......

Uhhh, ok DO NOT force her to eat! lol. That doesn't solve anything. Trust me, it doesn't. Anyone could sit me down with a piece of lettuce or a sandwhich and shove it down my throat, you know what it would do for me? Piss me off.lol. It doesn't correct the physcological problems. Last year my friend flipped on me for not eating. I got really pissed off because she threatened to call my Mom. Don't put her on the spot, talk to your mother, and only your mother (dont get everyone involved) and have her talk to your friands mom. That way there her mom can get her into rehab.
Hope this helps! :)

hahaha, forcing people to eat does ****. Sorry but those are the facts......... If someone forced a burger down my throat I would get pissed as hell.

Yea I wouldn't get the teachers involved either. You have to remember most people just don't understand an ED. Not even my mom.

Im 14 and bulimic. i hate eating in front of ppl. CAN"T STAND IT! my friends thought it would be a good idea to force me to eat which isn't. when ppl force me to help fattening foods i get so pissed off at them its not even funny. its like they want me to get fat, even tho they r only trying to help, but the bad side of my ED always tells me "they want u to get fat!!"...it sux crap! i love my friends to death, and i know they love me, but they just dont understand!

I can't believe she's so open with her plans to not eat. Me and the people I know are all so secretive about it all. I'm not trying to make a judgment here, but could she be either starving for attention or crying for help?