so my mom died last dec. ( the 17th) in the hospital from seizure/stroke. it's now a year later and i am fine and can do things that we used to do last christmas season with her and my state of mind is stable and what not.. but my dad and sister are really taking it hard..... and it's driving me nuts. so my sister is usually a little cranky and short tempered usually but lately she has been much worse and constantly bickering and picking fights with my dad. she tries to pick fights with me to but i just walk away. so my dad and sister are fighting and i don't know what to do to keep the peace.. do u have any ideas? i would appreciate anything u have to offer cause if this keeps up christmas this year is gonna be horrible.

thanks
elise

This must be tough on you,(((REMOVED)))

If you don't think you can have a conversation with them, I would sit down and write a letter to each of them. Let them know that it hurts you to see them act this way and say "Do you honestly think Mom would want us to be this way towards each other? Or do you think she'd want us to be close like a family should?"... I guess it all depends on your situation. I don't really know how close your family is. But if your mom wanted to see everyone happy, not fighting.... then just find a way to remind them of that. And definitely tell them to keep in mind that we never know what the future brings, one day we're here and the next day we may not be... and if that were the case, would either of them want to be remembered that way... I hope it all works out for you and your family. Times can be tough for those who lost loved ones, especially around the holidays... but the key is to stick together and talk about it, holding it in and covering it up will only make things worse. Good luck Elise, my thoughts are with you.

both comments are good. jesus is the only way. my situation was similar. my sister and i were almost torn apart from my mothers death. i'm a christian and didn't have a big problem with my mom dying. i mean, she accepted jesus so she experiencing the ultimate goal in life, heaven. anyway, pray for them and try to get them to church. jesus changed my life after 26 years. i wish i wouldn't have waited. good luck. jason