A guy whom I had been dating a short while passed away when we were 15. I still think about him daily... And I visit his grave every November 16th... and I never forget a birthday... Or the anniversery of our first date... I've been thinking lately about writting a short letter to his mom (I only met her twice, I doubt she'd even remember me) just telling her how wonderful her son was, and how big of an impact he made on my life during the short time I knew him (about a year)... He died 7 years ago. Is it 'too late' to send a letter? Would I just be stiring up painful memories, or would it mean something to know that 7 years later someone still remembers him and what a wonderful person he was?

I think that would be a GREAT idea! How thoughtful of you to want to do that. I think that would be a good thing for the mom and probably for you too. This time of year might be hard for her, so now would be a perfect time. I don't think it would upset her since it has been a while since his death. Good idea!

I know if I was in the mom shoes, it would make me proud to know that someone thought my son was a wonderful person.

def, send that letter! his mother will cry, but its been 7 years... she wants to hear something wonderful like this. and wow, you're truly a good girlfriend, i know girls who dont remember me 2 years later, haha. keep your head up darlin....

Kes1321,

What a wonderful person he must have been to leave such a place in your heart in a brief time.

Its never to late to follow your heart. There is a reason this has come to your mind. Maybe you will be the messenger that his mother needs.

Yes I agree, write it! Its never too late.

I agree too. I lost my only sister just over a year ago and if someone sent me a letter like that I would LOVE it. It would make me cry but it would also make me so happy to know how much someone else loves her too, that she made an impact on their life...that someone still thinks of her, that she's not forgotten. Please, do send the letter....I'm sure it will make his mother so happy to know how much you thought of him and that he meant something to you. It would be such a wonderful gift for her and I'm sure it will make her heart feel lighter.

Willow

I oftened wondered the same thing. When I was in middle school I fell for a guy named John and had a huge crush on him up until high school. HIm and I were friends and he used to come over all the time and him and I would go to the movies. He got into the wrong crowd and commited suicide and I have missed him so deeply. I am 33 now so it's been alot of years but I think about him at least once a week. I can still see his big beautiful brown eyes. I often wondered about writing his mother or sister. I didn't know how it would come across either. Let us know if you get a reply. Good luck