why do people get cancer.
my mom was only 64 years old. she was married at the age of 14 and had 6 childern, 13 grandchildern, 12 1/2 great grandchildern. she made her family all the most important thing in her life, she has worked in the health field for over 40 years, and always did things for others. she was diagnosed with small cell carcamolia.
the doctor said she didnt get it from smoking. but that she got it from working in her yard. which my mom loved to do. that was one of the things that made her very happy.
they found the tumor in early oct and by dec 1 she was gone. no one really expected her to go that fast. she had so many plans.
she was hoping to get all of the family back together again for one last christmas. we havent been together for some many years.
if there is anything to learn from cancer it is to live each day as it is your last never put anything off.
and to show all of your family just how much you love them,
life is to short to bicker or argue. also dont put off seeing your family no matter what problems you think you have, it gets to me when people will say i'll call them tomorrow. no call them today you might not have a tomorrow.
never ever say ill do it tomorrow, because there may never be a tomorrow.
i have two neices that both have had cervical cancer. both only in thier early 20's. both were pregnant when they found it and had to wait until their babys are born to do anything.
i think cancer is a horrible disease, i know they are finding cures for some of them but it is a shame that they cant cure all of them. or better yet not have it exist at all,
i have learned never take life for granted. it is just way to short.
love eachother and forget what ever you think they have said or done to you to upset you. they might not be there tomorrow. please tell your family that you love them and give them a hug

I had cancer when I was a teenager, it taught me (eventually) to be strong, and that pain, no matter how bad, is temporary. At least I am no longer afraid of needles! :p I am lucky, I was cured, and have had no recurrences. I have 2 kids now, and I guess I never expected to be here to get married and have children. Im glad I did, but I know that someday I could get cancer again. I used to be afraid, but you know what, someone said on a tv show one time "we are all here to meet the same, eventual goal: dying". We all will die. Some of us will die very young, some of us will live to be very old. There are so many ways to die, and it is all out of our hands.

I find it helps to view death as a natural transition, Im not religious, but I definately believe in some way, we keep going, and that for most of us, it will be a positive transition. I think we need to just live in the moment, plan for the future, but know that you could die tomorrow. My aunt just went to a funeral, her friend, a mother of 4, just died in a car accident. She left behind 2 teenagers and 2 small children. I am very sorry for her kids. I know my biggest fear is leaving my daughters, but I have no control over it. I just try to stay positive, it can be so awful, losing someone, but we cannot control it. So I give it all to fate, and try not to worry :(easier said than done).And the one thing I cannot fathom surviving: losing one of my children. I know people lost their kids sometimes, and I know they do manage to keep going, but after what I have come to realize about a mother's love, I do not see how they do it! It is definately my greatest fear.

be brave.
be strong.
fight back.
stand tall.
chin up.
laughter rules.
my heart hurts.
it is okay to feel.
if in pain, you are still alive.
the smallest touch and smile...can cure the worst disease. heartache.
there is more power in our fingertips than we know.
love is channeled thru my hands...when i touch someone, anyone.
i need to make people laugh.
you can count on me.
i will NOT give up.
all it takes is one tini tiny shred of HOPE!
HOPE ROCKS!
i know every corner of my body.
i know my muscles.
i know my heart rate.
i know when i've had enough.
i know when i can take more.
cancer taught me it is just as important to receive...and give.
cancer taught me...the patients dont necessarily suffer the greatest.
it taught me compassion.
it taught me forgiveness.
it taught my how to WEED out the bs.
it taught me how to focus.
it taught me we are all alone.
and i am okay with this...
it taught me who i was...and who i will become.
it taught me, i can NEVER give up.
and HOPE is all we have.
it taught me to endure.

ENDURE~!

To all, thank you for the above, I do know about the cancer and being scared of dying, I had a scare just this past October, I am ok and my family was right by my side. I will not be able to have children due to the hyst. but my life is more important, besides my brothers and sisters have enough kids to take care of me when I get old. You are right, family is very important, I have 7 brothers and 6 sisters, although we did lose a sister a couple of years ago, I know God has a purpose for each of us. I am only 35 and lost my mom in 95 and my dad 01 and sister in 02, the youngest brother lives with me now he is only 17 and I do not know what I would do if something ever happened to him. Anyway just saying thanks.
Jeanette

CuteKitty and others-
Your post really does make people think...its amazing that you can put things into perspective like that. Its really great to see other people making the best of things. It hopefully makes others more aware of the realities of the world. Maybe your being late to work last Tuesday wasnt so bad...ya know? Well thanks for that post.

I was very young only 8 when my Dad first was diagnosed with cancer eight years ago. For the past 8 years i have lived through so much pain with him. I have had to grow up faster than a lot of others and cope with more than a lot of people have to cope with in their whole lives. I suffered depression and have had many problems.

However, if it wasn't for what ive been through I wouldn't be the person i am now. As much as some days i hate God for what he is putting me and my family through i firmly belive that God does everything for a reason. Right now that is something that is hard to cling onto he is taking my Dad away and i am supposed to be positive and strong.

The poem on here was really good and really made me think. I can really associate with the line about being alone. Even though there are people around me i do feel very alone. My friends were all really caring when i told them that my dads cancer was back but now it feels like they have forgotton.

I think cancer makes people strong and all i can say is that we must try and hold onto something good in something so horrible.

I got cancer when I was 12 (now 24), at that time I didn't really realise how bad it was luckily. It did teach me to really appreciate being well and healthy. I also now have no fear of death which I guess is a good thing. I think it's also taught me just how easy it is to end up gone and nothing can be taken for granted. Also, like someone mentioned above, I have no fear of needles although recently i've been fearing hospitals, not badly enough to stop me going should I need too thankfully but still, I don't fancy going back to one any time soon. :D All I can say is, it's a horrible disease and can be soul destroying and very demoralising, I wouldn't wish it on anyone.

THANKS FOR ALL THE REPLYS,
CANCER IS A VERY SCAREY DISEASE, YOU DONT REALLY UNDERSTAND IT UNTIL IT HAPPENS TO YOU OR SOMEONE YOU LOVE AND CARE ABOUT.
FUNNY HOW YOU SEE ON THE TV AND NEWSPAPER ALL THE THINGS THAT CAN CAUSE YOU TO HAVE CANCER BUT PEOPLE STILL DO THEM.
AND HOW PEOPLE GET UP SET IF YOU ASK THEM NICLEY NOT TO SMOKE IN YOUR HOUSE. I MEAN IT IS MY HOUSE AFTER ALL. BUT THEY STILL DO IT.
THEY SAY THEY CAN CURE MOST CANCERS, DO ANY OF YOU KNOW OF ONE THAT THEY CAN CURE? I HAVE SEEN SO MANY PEOPLE THAT HAVE DIED OF CANCER OR HAVE HAD SURGERY AND THEN THEY TURN AROUND AND GET IT AGAIN.
WHY DOES CANCER HIT THE YOUNG. WELL OK WHY DOES IT HAVE TO HIT ANYONE FOR THAT MATTER.
BUT THE YOUNG HAVENT EVEN HAD A CHANCE TO LIVE YET.
AND WHY IS IT THAT PEOPLE WHO HAVE GOTTEN CANCER STILL SMOKE.
COME ON HAVENT THEY LEARNED ANYTHING YET.
I HAVE CANCER MANY DIFFERENT TYPES RUNNING THROUGH MY FAMILY RIGHT NOW. HITTING THE YOUNG AND OLDER,
ALL I CAN SAY IS LIVE YOUR LIFE TO THE FULLEST AND DONT LET LITTLE THINGS GETS YOU DOWN.
YOU CANT SIT AND WORRY ABOUT YESTERDAY OR TOMORROW. JUST TRY TO LIVE FOR TODAY, AND FOR GOODNESS SAKE BE HAPPY!
LOVE YOUR FRIENDS AND FAMILY AS MUCH AS YOU CAN, AND NEVER EVER GO AWAY MAD AT THEM. ALWAYS TELL THEM THAT YOU LOVE THEM. NEVER KNOW WHEN IT WILL BE THE LAST TIME.
MY MOM COULDNT TALK IN THE END BUT I KNEW SHE LOVED ME SHE TRIED TO SAY IT BUT I JUST KNEW.
I AM SO GLAD I GOT BACK IN TIME.
ANYWAYS THANKS FOR ALL OF YOU THAT WROTE BACK TO THIS.
IT IS GREAT TO SEE WHAT CANCER HAS TAUGHT ALL OF YOU.
CUTEKITTY :wave: