Dief
12-20-2004, 10:32 PM
Hey, My names becky. Im posting on my boyfriends account to try to help him see some sense. My boyfriend is an insomniac, He will only sleep when im with him and stays awake when im away. This is affecting his alchohol consumption greatly. I am really worried about him, he tells me not to because i dont know what it was like before i met him. I recently found out that it is also affecting him on a psychological level. I found this out when for two days he wouldnt speak, not just to me to anyone. I managed to help him talk, while he cried in my arms on my bed. The only thing he said was "i dont want to hear them anymore..." Then the next morning he woke up as if there was nothing wrong. I dont know what to do, I have never loved anyone as much as i love him and it hurts me to see him this way. Please someone suggest something, anything.
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hrt1
12-21-2004, 04:48 AM
Hi. Sorry to hear youre dealing with this.
How is the insomniac effecting his alcohol comsumption?
Does he seem depressed? Insomnia can be a symptom of depression.
Did you ask him what he meant when he said he didnt want to hear them anymore? Who are "they"? If hes hearing voices in his head, and hes going two days without speaking, he has more serious problems than the insomnia. He needs to speak to a psychiatrist and/or psychologist. The odd behavior may be a symptom of not sleeping, but it may be a lot more than just that.
Also, prolonged insomnia can be a symptom of several other health related problems. At the very least, he needs to see a doctor and be honest and forthright with his issues.
I wish I could be more encouraging, but he cant just ignore this and hope it goes away. Let us know whats happening.
How is the insomniac effecting his alcohol comsumption?
Does he seem depressed? Insomnia can be a symptom of depression.
Did you ask him what he meant when he said he didnt want to hear them anymore? Who are "they"? If hes hearing voices in his head, and hes going two days without speaking, he has more serious problems than the insomnia. He needs to speak to a psychiatrist and/or psychologist. The odd behavior may be a symptom of not sleeping, but it may be a lot more than just that.
Also, prolonged insomnia can be a symptom of several other health related problems. At the very least, he needs to see a doctor and be honest and forthright with his issues.
I wish I could be more encouraging, but he cant just ignore this and hope it goes away. Let us know whats happening.
shawn20k
12-21-2004, 05:17 AM
Ok I dont want to sound off the wall but maybe he is demon- possessed (I may be wrong, but maybe not) if so the only way I know off for people to drive out demons is through God, go to church and tell the preacher the situation. I am a Christian and the prayer team off my church has driven demons out of people on mission trips. If this is not the situation find out what is and maybe he will need to go to a psychologist for awhile. Some people reading this will think Im weird but whatever things happen, Im just realistic. Good Luck
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zilea
12-22-2004, 09:08 AM
Personally, I doubt he's demon possessed.
There's a particular form of depression which involves not only classic depression symptoms but also hearing voices.
With my own depression, the way I speak to myself is very abusive. It feels like I am two people, and seeing as I refer to myself as "you", not :I" (e.g: "You are a fat ugly *****," not "I am a fat ugly *****") it feels like the abusive voice is someone else, so that's what he could have been referring to. Or he could have meant he didn't want to hear the tings he tells himself anymore.
If he is hearing voices of course there's the possibility of schizoaffective disorder or schizoprenia (sp?). I'm no psychiatrist but I thought people with those disorders could pretty much get on with life normally unless they're suffering from hallucinations or if the voices they hear take over their attention too much..? And if they do suffer from either of those things, I think the symptoms would be different from the ones your boyfriend is experiencing.
I do think he has a form of depression and is self-medicating with the alcohol. His insomnia may be an unrelated problem, or part of the depression. Insomnia and depression often feed off eachother.
Well it seems I've managed to crap on a lot when I can't really provide you with the answer you want; what to do or say to him.
Perhaps there are facilities you can use such as websites, phone lines, professionals in the area pf psychology that you can consult?
Try explaining to your boyfriend that you know he's not doing so well, and you want him to get help, because you know that he's in pain and it's hurting you to see him in pain because you love him so much. Stress to him that he deserves to feel better, and nobody deserves to be in the pain that you KNOW he is in.
Maybe you could ask your boyfriend to attend a counselling session with you. Tell him that he doesn't need to go and spill his guts to somebody he's never met. In counselling things come slowly and build up until you've just gushed all your secrets out. Then you may close off to protect yourself from feeling vulnerable. If he does go to counselling, make sure he finds a counsellor who he's happy with. And if he does go, don't be worried if he doesn't make progress at first, or if it's slow. It's an old cliche but things often have to get worse before they get better.
I'm sorry I couldn't be of more help. I hope things get better, please let us know what happens.
Zizzi.
There's a particular form of depression which involves not only classic depression symptoms but also hearing voices.
With my own depression, the way I speak to myself is very abusive. It feels like I am two people, and seeing as I refer to myself as "you", not :I" (e.g: "You are a fat ugly *****," not "I am a fat ugly *****") it feels like the abusive voice is someone else, so that's what he could have been referring to. Or he could have meant he didn't want to hear the tings he tells himself anymore.
If he is hearing voices of course there's the possibility of schizoaffective disorder or schizoprenia (sp?). I'm no psychiatrist but I thought people with those disorders could pretty much get on with life normally unless they're suffering from hallucinations or if the voices they hear take over their attention too much..? And if they do suffer from either of those things, I think the symptoms would be different from the ones your boyfriend is experiencing.
I do think he has a form of depression and is self-medicating with the alcohol. His insomnia may be an unrelated problem, or part of the depression. Insomnia and depression often feed off eachother.
Well it seems I've managed to crap on a lot when I can't really provide you with the answer you want; what to do or say to him.
Perhaps there are facilities you can use such as websites, phone lines, professionals in the area pf psychology that you can consult?
Try explaining to your boyfriend that you know he's not doing so well, and you want him to get help, because you know that he's in pain and it's hurting you to see him in pain because you love him so much. Stress to him that he deserves to feel better, and nobody deserves to be in the pain that you KNOW he is in.
Maybe you could ask your boyfriend to attend a counselling session with you. Tell him that he doesn't need to go and spill his guts to somebody he's never met. In counselling things come slowly and build up until you've just gushed all your secrets out. Then you may close off to protect yourself from feeling vulnerable. If he does go to counselling, make sure he finds a counsellor who he's happy with. And if he does go, don't be worried if he doesn't make progress at first, or if it's slow. It's an old cliche but things often have to get worse before they get better.
I'm sorry I couldn't be of more help. I hope things get better, please let us know what happens.
Zizzi.