bre200789
12-27-2004, 06:37 PM
Hello Everyone, my boyfriend smokes and I have been telling him that I want him to quit. He says that he does want to quit, but he hasn't made much of an effort. We have been going out for almost a year now, and i really love him and care about him, i just want him to quit now, so he still has a chance to quit, instead of being addicted for life. He always says that he doesn't see why I want him to quit so bad, it's like hello! Do you know what kind of stuff cigarretts can do to you? He was like my lungs are strong, and i said they won't be for long if you keep smoking like this. If anyone can please help me, like tell me some stuff to say to him, or anything that could even possibly help him quit, please respond. Oh, by the way, he's only 18,
but he's been smoking for about 4 years.
Bre
but he's been smoking for about 4 years.
Bre
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bre200789
12-29-2004, 10:19 PM
Is anybody going to reply??
toneighty
12-30-2004, 09:46 PM
Quitting is up to him. You/I/we would like him to quit but it really is up to him. Reflecting on when I was 18, I could not give you any help to make him quit. He needs/wants to do it himself.
Jay232
01-06-2005, 05:34 PM
My boyfriend willingly told me he wants to quit, but like yours he's been shy to jump into it. But what I did was take control. It's not easy, but everytime he picked up a cigarette, I yanked it out of his mouth and took his pack away from him until he was shaking so badly from withdrawls. I hated to do it, but I got him to cut back ALOT. Maybe this could help??
bre200789
01-20-2005, 05:57 PM
Hey guys thanks for your advice. Jay232, I've already tried that, it worked for a while, but then he got mad at me. So now he has refrained from smoking around me, but he does it at work and college still. Well gotta run, thanks again guys.
patrick1351
01-21-2005, 01:55 PM
BRE
I applaud you for being smart enough at your age to know the dangers of smoking, unfortunately your boyfriend wont and will not understand the dangers do to being young and invincible in his mind. You dont have to smoke for 20 or 30 years for bad things to happen, and thats what young smokers need to hear and see. I started smoking at around 18 and am now 44 and have just quit 16 days ago, and people have been telling me the dangers of smoking for all those years, I figured at my age I am no longer invincible and need to quit before it gets me. Keep up the good work on him and hopefully he will realize he not invincible either.
I applaud you for being smart enough at your age to know the dangers of smoking, unfortunately your boyfriend wont and will not understand the dangers do to being young and invincible in his mind. You dont have to smoke for 20 or 30 years for bad things to happen, and thats what young smokers need to hear and see. I started smoking at around 18 and am now 44 and have just quit 16 days ago, and people have been telling me the dangers of smoking for all those years, I figured at my age I am no longer invincible and need to quit before it gets me. Keep up the good work on him and hopefully he will realize he not invincible either.
Jay232
02-18-2005, 07:19 PM
I've been gone for almost a month, I really didn't think there would be more replies here.
Currently my bf has picked back up. I broke down and threw a fit about it the other day, I told him that if he wanted to die then to go ahead but to keep me out of it.
He tried to throw his cigarrettes away after that, but I wouldn't let him. I told him I knew that trick since he's done it before. He'll throw them away, destroy them, whatever, but he'll just want to buy another pack the next day.
He's cutting back again, but I'm beginning to lose hope that he will ever see the dangers as I see them.
I won't give up... but I'm afraid my efforts will weaken.
Currently my bf has picked back up. I broke down and threw a fit about it the other day, I told him that if he wanted to die then to go ahead but to keep me out of it.
He tried to throw his cigarrettes away after that, but I wouldn't let him. I told him I knew that trick since he's done it before. He'll throw them away, destroy them, whatever, but he'll just want to buy another pack the next day.
He's cutting back again, but I'm beginning to lose hope that he will ever see the dangers as I see them.
I won't give up... but I'm afraid my efforts will weaken.