copa929
12-29-2004, 02:32 PM
My boyfriend went to the health department because we thought he had an infection. They went ahead and did an STD test. His symptoms were very close to that of Chlamydia so, even though his test results do not come back for a week, they gave him the medication to treat it. The only girl he has ever touched in a sexual manner is myself, and that is vise versa as well (I've only been with him). Here comes the confusing part..
We're both virgins. That being said, we've had oral sex. There was only one time where his penis could have been exposed to my vaginal secretions, but I feel that is very unlikely (he came into contact with my vulva). I was going to be tested at the health department, too, to see if I have it, but the problem is that the only way they will test is by swabbing. Unfortunately, I have a severe panic disorder. I have not been able to eat or sleep for the past two days because of this, and am constantly hyperventalating and passing out to the point where I can't even drive my vehicle safely. The health department said it could be tested through a urine sample, but the facility won't do it. They told me to go to Planned Parenthood. So I checked the website and it says they do urine testing for it, but upon calling it, I learned that no planned parenthood in my state will do this. Is it even possible? Where can I get it done? I would like to get it done ASAP seeing as though I am an emotional wreck and if this doesn't get resolved soon, I will most likely be hospitalized.
I called some gynecologists and most will not allow me to make an appointment (I'm a minor), most are backed up all the way until March, and others have told me that a urine test isn't possible.
Someone please help me. I don't know what to do. Everyone is telling me different things and I can't talk to my family about this. I can't stop crying.
Is there anything else that he could have that could be misdiagnosed as chlamydia? I don't understand how we could have it.
We're both virgins. That being said, we've had oral sex. There was only one time where his penis could have been exposed to my vaginal secretions, but I feel that is very unlikely (he came into contact with my vulva). I was going to be tested at the health department, too, to see if I have it, but the problem is that the only way they will test is by swabbing. Unfortunately, I have a severe panic disorder. I have not been able to eat or sleep for the past two days because of this, and am constantly hyperventalating and passing out to the point where I can't even drive my vehicle safely. The health department said it could be tested through a urine sample, but the facility won't do it. They told me to go to Planned Parenthood. So I checked the website and it says they do urine testing for it, but upon calling it, I learned that no planned parenthood in my state will do this. Is it even possible? Where can I get it done? I would like to get it done ASAP seeing as though I am an emotional wreck and if this doesn't get resolved soon, I will most likely be hospitalized.
I called some gynecologists and most will not allow me to make an appointment (I'm a minor), most are backed up all the way until March, and others have told me that a urine test isn't possible.
Someone please help me. I don't know what to do. Everyone is telling me different things and I can't talk to my family about this. I can't stop crying.
Is there anything else that he could have that could be misdiagnosed as chlamydia? I don't understand how we could have it.
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susieq0726
12-29-2004, 03:01 PM
Chlamydia is an STD. The only way you can get it is through sexual intercourse with someone that has it. If the two of you are virgins, there is no way either of you have it.
If I were you, I wouldn't panic over this until he gets his tests results back. Men/boys can get other types of irritations on their genitals. Is your boyfriend circumcised? If not, he could have an infection that men get when they are not cut.
In addition, chlamydia normally doesn't show any symptoms to a male unless it's gotten very bad.
Wait til his test results come back - You don't want to worry about this if there's nothing wrong.
If I were you, I wouldn't panic over this until he gets his tests results back. Men/boys can get other types of irritations on their genitals. Is your boyfriend circumcised? If not, he could have an infection that men get when they are not cut.
In addition, chlamydia normally doesn't show any symptoms to a male unless it's gotten very bad.
Wait til his test results come back - You don't want to worry about this if there's nothing wrong.
copa929
12-29-2004, 03:36 PM
He is circumsized.
So there is no way we could have it? The woman at the health department pretty much said it must be me who gave it to him. She said I could have been born with it but I wasn't a vaginal birth, so I am under the assumption even if my mother did have it, that transmission would be rare? Is there any way possible that either of us could have gotten it by another means other than sex? I have an oral fixation. I put alot of things in my mouth (pens, fingers, cell phone antennas) throughout the day. The woman said I could have picked it up from that?
If it's another kind of infection, not STD related I guess, is there any way I could get it? I'm trying very hard to not dwell over this but I feel as though I need to prepare myself as much as possible for whatever outcome there is. I'm really protective over my body.As much as I hate to be this stubborn, I just can't have a doctor touch me. I'm not emotionally stable enough.
So there is no way we could have it? The woman at the health department pretty much said it must be me who gave it to him. She said I could have been born with it but I wasn't a vaginal birth, so I am under the assumption even if my mother did have it, that transmission would be rare? Is there any way possible that either of us could have gotten it by another means other than sex? I have an oral fixation. I put alot of things in my mouth (pens, fingers, cell phone antennas) throughout the day. The woman said I could have picked it up from that?
If it's another kind of infection, not STD related I guess, is there any way I could get it? I'm trying very hard to not dwell over this but I feel as though I need to prepare myself as much as possible for whatever outcome there is. I'm really protective over my body.As much as I hate to be this stubborn, I just can't have a doctor touch me. I'm not emotionally stable enough.
susieq0726
12-29-2004, 04:07 PM
Well if you're sexually active, you need to start having regular pap smears and annual visits to your GYN. When you become active, you are opening yourself up to possible infections, and also, a GYN can test for cervical cancer. These exams should be done once a year, and could maybe some day save your life. If you explain to the doctor about your panic attacks, they should be sensitive to your needs and proceed with care.
As far as the chlamydia goes, (and if someone at a health clinic told you that you could get it any other way than sexual contact - needs to be fired) this is a STD It can only be contracted through sexual intercourse and not by sticking a pen in your mouth. It can be passed from mother to baby, but it usually causes an infection to the babies eyes. (You would have known it by now)
I am not sure what your boyfriend has, but if neither one of you have had sexual intercourse, it's not chlamydia.
What are some of your boyfriend's symptoms? I am not a doctor, but what made him think he had chlamydia?
As far as the chlamydia goes, (and if someone at a health clinic told you that you could get it any other way than sexual contact - needs to be fired) this is a STD It can only be contracted through sexual intercourse and not by sticking a pen in your mouth. It can be passed from mother to baby, but it usually causes an infection to the babies eyes. (You would have known it by now)
I am not sure what your boyfriend has, but if neither one of you have had sexual intercourse, it's not chlamydia.
What are some of your boyfriend's symptoms? I am not a doctor, but what made him think he had chlamydia?
copa929
12-29-2004, 04:41 PM
One of the main reasons why I have not had traditional sex yet is because I can't handle the responsibility of going to the gynecologist. I understand that most females go once they turn 18, so I have been trying to avoid any activity that would speed up the process, if that makes sense.
He said he felt like his testicles were swollen to a minor extent and noticed a change in penile discharge (I'm not exactly what the change was, but I believe it was of a milky-ish like quality?). I believe he also mentioned that the tip of his penis was redder than usual. He also had one or two bumps around that region but they could have been infected hairs from shaving or tweezing the hairs out, I suppose. I have never seen them personally, but that is how he described them. His mother is a nurse (both my parents, too, but we do not have open relationships) and they were looking up all possible disagnoses and that was one that his symptoms fell into, I believe.
I'm sorry I sound really stupid. Sex is a very taboo subject in my family and I try to educate myself as much as possible, but it's hard when I hear so many different things from different sources.
He said he felt like his testicles were swollen to a minor extent and noticed a change in penile discharge (I'm not exactly what the change was, but I believe it was of a milky-ish like quality?). I believe he also mentioned that the tip of his penis was redder than usual. He also had one or two bumps around that region but they could have been infected hairs from shaving or tweezing the hairs out, I suppose. I have never seen them personally, but that is how he described them. His mother is a nurse (both my parents, too, but we do not have open relationships) and they were looking up all possible disagnoses and that was one that his symptoms fell into, I believe.
I'm sorry I sound really stupid. Sex is a very taboo subject in my family and I try to educate myself as much as possible, but it's hard when I hear so many different things from different sources.
susieq0726
12-29-2004, 04:48 PM
You don't sound stupid at all. It's good that you are being responsible and taking the steps to protect yourself.
I do find it odd that the health facility tested him for STD's if he told them he never had sex before. Well, on second thought, I suppose he could have contracted herpes from oral sex, but you would have had to have a cold sore on your mouth. And even at that it would be a different strain of herpes.
I have no idea what he may have. It may be a simple urinary tract infection. I would wait until his test results are back and if his problem hasn't cleared up, he will need to go back to the doctor.
I do find it odd that the health facility tested him for STD's if he told them he never had sex before. Well, on second thought, I suppose he could have contracted herpes from oral sex, but you would have had to have a cold sore on your mouth. And even at that it would be a different strain of herpes.
I have no idea what he may have. It may be a simple urinary tract infection. I would wait until his test results are back and if his problem hasn't cleared up, he will need to go back to the doctor.
Magnetic
12-29-2004, 06:22 PM
It is too early for you to be so worried. Wait for his test results which, I suspect, will be negative for chlamydia. He may have a mild case of epididymitus or prostatitis, for example.
However, what is your great concern about a swab test? What ever discomfort or embarassment you will undergo surely has to be less than the mental torment you are putting yourself under!
A final thought is that if he is positive is that he cheated on you. If he is positive, you may be able to get antibiotics from his doctor without being tested if he identifies you as one of his partners.
However, what is your great concern about a swab test? What ever discomfort or embarassment you will undergo surely has to be less than the mental torment you are putting yourself under!
A final thought is that if he is positive is that he cheated on you. If he is positive, you may be able to get antibiotics from his doctor without being tested if he identifies you as one of his partners.
copa929
12-29-2004, 06:31 PM
I was abused when I was much younger, which is what most of my issues with panic stems from. If somebody brushes against me accidently or touches my arm when they talk to me, 50% of the time I will start to panic. I also am overly modest (lack of a better term). I wear turtlenecks in the summer, for example. I cannot get into a swimsuit. I cannot change in front of my friends like most girls can. The idea of disrobing in front of someone I am not very close to is almost worth than death (to be completely honest, I sometimes will cry when in an intimate situation in which my clothes are being coaxed off). When I told all of this to the nurse practictioner (spelling?) at the health department, she basically just reiterated that the test wouldn't hurt. But I'd definitely take pain over panic.
If he does test positive, do you think the health department would give me medication without being tested (we can't go to GPs or anything of that sort. We have no money.)?
If he does test positive, do you think the health department would give me medication without being tested (we can't go to GPs or anything of that sort. We have no money.)?
susieq0726
12-30-2004, 02:06 PM
I don't know if the clinic will give you meds without seeing you. They might, you will have to ask.
But the bigger question is this: If he does have chlamydia, he has probably cheated on you and had sex with someone else. You need to think about that after the results come back, but DON'T JUMP TO CONCLUSIONS. Wait til the results are in.
But the bigger question is this: If he does have chlamydia, he has probably cheated on you and had sex with someone else. You need to think about that after the results come back, but DON'T JUMP TO CONCLUSIONS. Wait til the results are in.