I was newly diagnosed with H last year. I have hsv 1 orally and genitally.
I caught it from my husband who has had outbreaks orally since he was a child. I have had a really hard time with be diagnosed I started to have panick attacks. I am just curious if this is a normal thing to happen. Before I was diagnosed I was a very care free person and would go anywhere and do anything, Now I have such bad anxiety I have a herd time leaving the house sometimes. Not only do have to deal with H I also have the iconvienience of panic disorder :(

It seems that about 80% of the population of the US has hsv-1 orally. They say that about 25% have some type of genital herpes. So you are not alone by any means, and in fact in one way you are in an overwhelming majority! Lots of people deal with this--try not to get panicked. Read the garlic oil thread and the Happy Couples thread; they'll help.

Your story is mine exactly. And I have anxiety like crazy. I've also had a constant ob for the last year because of it. So I envy you and everyone else who has only had one or two. I feel for you and know what you're going through. I'm just now starting to feel less like a walking plague. :) You just gotta remember that you are human first, and that H is just one small part of you - not the whole of you. Someone wise told me that and I found it to be a helpful reminder. Maybe you could see a psychologist/therapist about it. I do. And don't be shy about telling them that you have H... they've heard it all and they're glad to help you.

It's easy to say but you should try to relax. You are married and as your husband also has herpes, I would hope he would understand and be able to support you. With HSV1 you shouldn't see too many oral outbreaks once your body gets used to the virus (these days I get at most 1 a year, I've had this for a while) and chances are you won't get any genital HSV1 outbreaks at all, and if you do they will be mild and very infrequent. Of course the mental effect of herpes is usually worse than the physical effect - but you're not alone - you're married to someone who has the exact same virus! It's very common, and it's very manageable, and I know you feel bad now - I felt awful when I got genital HSV1, but now, it's OK, I can cope with it.

I hope it works out for you.

Well, I wish I had a husband or a boyfriend. My ex had herpes and it helped me a lot and now I am single again, I cry all the time, I feel lonely and scared to tell anyone because I do get outbreaks and I would be terrified to transmit it to a non H guy asymptomatically and I believe the type I have Type 2 is easily tranmittable, so I pray and I try to get by that is all I can do. If I had a choice, there is no way in hell I would want this. No one can paint a pretty picture of it...It is a permanent STD and I have it genitally - a hard price to pay for loving someone. Sorry I am just down today

If you have HSV1 on your genitals, do the o/b's occur less frequently? I've never had a cold sore in my life as far as I know, but I experience tingling and itching/burning on my genitals monthly...with my period and also get little bumps from time to time. I'm just not sure what HSV1 looks like on the genitals as compared to HSV2.

I generally get an ob right before my period, however not every month.
I do not get huge painful blisters but rather a redness and itchy feeling
almost like the start of a yeast infection. My ob is usually gone before my period ends and that is o.k. i guess because I DONT LIKE SEX DURING THAT TIME ANYWAY :p . I am rather depressed about the whole thing but there is not much I can do. This is something that will NEVER go away. I am trying very hard not to resent my husband :confused: . I am very physically fit and try very hard to keep my health in tip top shape but It makes me sick when
people say you are so beautiful and healthy why are you depressed.
I cant tell anyone. I dont want to upset my husband by talking to him because then he will feel bad. I know he couldnt help it but I cant help my feelings. I even scared to let my gynecologist see me because I am scared he will see my disease even thogh he knows I have it, I am scared it will be inside all broken out :o . I am not taken anything for outbreaks. I am hoping they will lessen with time. :yawn:

Hey. I have oral and genital hsv 1. And I am on medication for anxiety and depression. YOU definitly are NOT alone..... :)

Flutterby...your symptoms sound somewhat the same as mine. Maybe this means I have HSV1 as well...guess I'll never know for sure unless I get tested. I know how you feel about the HSV...I've had some really depressing days and still cry about it sometimes. I got it from a guy that I dated for 2 months...wasn't even really in love with him. I was recently separated from my husband when I got it. I've had to start my single life again with what I think is HSV..and I'm still not even really sure if that's what it is. :confused: Just realize that there are tons of people out there that have this...we're not alone. You have a husband who loves you...you should share your feelings with him...you're so lucky to have that. I'm envious. Be happy...you are healthy and you have love! :)