vonee
01-06-2005, 07:45 AM
Okay here is the problem! I have a treadmill, smith machine, stairstepper, free weights......everything necessary to loose this weight that I've gained the past 5 months! What triggered me to stop was my husband's son that is 22 now and he stays up all night and sleeps all day! I like to work out in the a.m. cause that's the best time to I think. Anyways, it was 10:30 a.m. and I had my music on and on the treadmill,like I did everyday prior also! I looked good, felt good and never felt sick! Well he and I got into a very heated argument and ever since then I have barely worked out, been eating all the time and have gained probably bout 30-35 lbs.! Lost alot of muscle.....it's all covered in a layer of fat! So how can I get past this and start working out again? My husband won't make him get out on his own......his son is such a baby!!!! For real, I'm not kiddin when I say that! I mean the argument was really bad and I was yelling at him and he said that I am coming between his relationship with his dad! Well, I'm not responsible for his relationship with his dad! Anyways, anybody have some advice they would like to give me about this to maybe help me get out of this stooper that I'm in and start working out again..........I'm really out of shape and need advice asap!!! Thanks in advance............Christina
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01-06-2005, 04:09 PM
husband's son that is 22 now and he stays up all night and sleeps all day!
That's not your fault. I'd tell him to just deal with it.
That's not your fault. I'd tell him to just deal with it.
vonee
01-06-2005, 04:39 PM
Yes I think so too! I told him that it wasn't my fault he stayed up all night and slept all day and he just started yellin back at me and I went to his dad and his dad yelled at him, but ever since then it's been really hard for me to continue doing anything that I enjoy because of his son being here. I think he should move out and find his own life, but that's not my call.......I could go on, but it's too crazy of a story and this isn't the forum for that, but I know that if I don't get this weight back off I'm never going to be happy about myself again and be comfortable in my own skin.......ya know!!!! Ugh!!! Maybe I should just do my thing and not let him get in my way anymore????? You think?????
~Summer~
01-06-2005, 05:25 PM
Sounds like maybe you are an emotional eater, that certain instances trigger you to eat when you're not really hungery- and that has caused you to gain weight. Motivation can be a tough thing, it's just as difficult to pull it out of the closet along with the weight equipment. Do this, every time you reach for something to eat- stop & question yourself. Ask yourself if you are truley hungry, or if you are eating to compfort yourself. It can be difficult to descern sometimes, but if you stop yourself everytime, you may be able to put down the snack food & decide if you're doing it to feed your body, or feed your emotions. Emotional eating can form really bad habits, it can really make you loose track of when your body needs to eat- because you only eat when your emotions are triggered. Any time you feel that you are eating just to compfort yourself, try to put the snack down & use that energy you would have spent on eating- and use that energy to work out instead. I know how extra weight can make you feel- it really is depressing at times, but just try to remain positive of how happy you will feel when you loose the weight that you want to. Weight loss can be a really gratifying thing because we did it OURSELVES, and no matter what- no one else did it for you, you accomplished this all on your own. Try to remain positive & don't let emotions get in the way of your progress. Take it one day at a time & you will succeed. If you ever back track, don't consider it a failure...remember, there is allways a NEW day when you wake up in the morning, so if one day you fail, you have another sunrise to wake up to and start again!
vonee
01-07-2005, 07:30 AM
:wave: Hi Summer! Thankyou so much for your advice and you are so right about me being an emotional eater! I've been battling this since I can't even remember, but it's been a real struggle! I am going to do just as you said, stop and ask myself if I'm really hungry. Most of the time, I'm not!!!! But I will eat anyways........I sometimes have trouble with bulimia, but I've gotten a grip on that over the years........so today I will do my thing on my treadmill and do some other exercises as well and not look for anything negative to stop me! What you said really made so much sense to me! It's nice to have someone that understands and supports me and gives me positive advice to help to motivate me.........Thankyou....... :D
vonee
01-07-2005, 07:34 AM
Have you ever done pilates'? My daughter is going to give me her vhs of pilates', she is taking it for a class at college and she really loves it.....have any input?
~Summer~
01-07-2005, 04:47 PM
Hi Ravyn :)
No problem! Yeah, I have struggled with that myself quite a bit, and it really does help just to stop & question...I found out that there were many of times I was not hungry, but eating anyway- and it can be so easy (and habit forming) to just munch on a snack because of boredome or anything for that matter. After a week or two of doing this, your body will start to send you hunger cues, letting you know for sure when you are hungry. I've also had friends that always nick picked at me for not eating sometimes (because I wasn't hungry) so naturally to avoid any comments I would eat when they did. I started realizing that I don't need to follow their schedual, they can nick pick all they want- but now I only eat when my body tells me I need something. Good Luck with your weight loss goals, and just remember that you can do it! It doesn't have to be a "rush, rush" effort either...take your time with it, take weeks at a time...Just by making simple cut backs & only eating when the body is truley hungery, not even increasing my activity level, I was able to loose about 30 pounds in 6 months. So I know it can be done, and it doesn't have to be some kind of diet from hell either- just make a few cut backs daily & within a month you should see some kind of result. Try & find out what your weakness foods are & eliminate them. For me it was a liguid, I would consume anywhere from 1 to 2, 2 liters of Coke a day. Mostly for the energy from caffeine & perhaps the sugar as well. I completly stopped that & switched to diet coke (still not the healthiest, but it does have Zero calories). I guess I just totaled up the calories I was drinking & that figured out to be 1,000 calories a day, just in liquids (not even including anything I ate that day)! So, for starting out- I would just try to find an unhealthy snack or drink you consume daily & try to eliminate it- it really makes a difference in the long run!
Good Luck & keep us posted on your progress!
No problem! Yeah, I have struggled with that myself quite a bit, and it really does help just to stop & question...I found out that there were many of times I was not hungry, but eating anyway- and it can be so easy (and habit forming) to just munch on a snack because of boredome or anything for that matter. After a week or two of doing this, your body will start to send you hunger cues, letting you know for sure when you are hungry. I've also had friends that always nick picked at me for not eating sometimes (because I wasn't hungry) so naturally to avoid any comments I would eat when they did. I started realizing that I don't need to follow their schedual, they can nick pick all they want- but now I only eat when my body tells me I need something. Good Luck with your weight loss goals, and just remember that you can do it! It doesn't have to be a "rush, rush" effort either...take your time with it, take weeks at a time...Just by making simple cut backs & only eating when the body is truley hungery, not even increasing my activity level, I was able to loose about 30 pounds in 6 months. So I know it can be done, and it doesn't have to be some kind of diet from hell either- just make a few cut backs daily & within a month you should see some kind of result. Try & find out what your weakness foods are & eliminate them. For me it was a liguid, I would consume anywhere from 1 to 2, 2 liters of Coke a day. Mostly for the energy from caffeine & perhaps the sugar as well. I completly stopped that & switched to diet coke (still not the healthiest, but it does have Zero calories). I guess I just totaled up the calories I was drinking & that figured out to be 1,000 calories a day, just in liquids (not even including anything I ate that day)! So, for starting out- I would just try to find an unhealthy snack or drink you consume daily & try to eliminate it- it really makes a difference in the long run!
Good Luck & keep us posted on your progress!
vonee
01-08-2005, 07:21 AM
:yawn: Oh guess what I did and didn't do yesterday? I didn't exercise, drank 1/2 bottle of wine and 10 little snicker snack candy bars, a hershey candy bar, bout 6 pieces of bread! Ugh! I messed up really bad, but I'm going to try to do better today! I don't know why I did that! But what you said helped me, so keep tellin me k?
~Summer~
01-08-2005, 02:56 PM
He he, that's fine - it's still important not to deprive yourself, so, if you only have about 1 slip up a week it really won't hurt you in the long run. That's why most people give up dieting & exercise...just 1 thrown off day will get you thinking that you've sabatoged all progress- but that's no the case! You can make up for it, just make sure you always pick back up the next day! You wouldn't beleive the dent I put in our left over halloween candy - but as long as you can pick back up those days will not take away your progress!
vonee
01-10-2005, 08:27 AM
You give me such good advice.... :wave: I thankyou.....for real!!!
Yesterday I worked out for 3 hours total! I'm so proud of myself! I felt really good when I finished and I can really feel it in my muscles this morning! Have you ever heard of fitday.com? Well, I found this and it's free! It's so cool :cool: LOL!!! It tells you everything about what you've ate, how many calories eaten and burned, it is so much help!!! :D
I did an analysis of what I ate the other day in total when I told you about the little candy bars and OMG!!! That day, I ate over 8,000 calories and well my fat intake? OMG! That was a real wake up call!!!!! So yesterday, I had in total calories 1800,which isn't good either, but it's way better than the other!!!!! :nono: So.....I'm gonna get my shiat together and keep exercising, eating better, way better and I'm determined to get this 60 lbs. OFF! YES, OFF! I'm glad your helping me Summer, I really do appreciate ya!!!!! :D
Yesterday I worked out for 3 hours total! I'm so proud of myself! I felt really good when I finished and I can really feel it in my muscles this morning! Have you ever heard of fitday.com? Well, I found this and it's free! It's so cool :cool: LOL!!! It tells you everything about what you've ate, how many calories eaten and burned, it is so much help!!! :D
I did an analysis of what I ate the other day in total when I told you about the little candy bars and OMG!!! That day, I ate over 8,000 calories and well my fat intake? OMG! That was a real wake up call!!!!! So yesterday, I had in total calories 1800,which isn't good either, but it's way better than the other!!!!! :nono: So.....I'm gonna get my shiat together and keep exercising, eating better, way better and I'm determined to get this 60 lbs. OFF! YES, OFF! I'm glad your helping me Summer, I really do appreciate ya!!!!! :D
~Summer~
01-10-2005, 10:32 PM
Yeah, I've heard of fitday, I haven't used it - just because I normally write down cals in this journal I have for workouts. If you go here:
http://www.self.com/health/nutrition/calculators/calories
You can figure out how many calories you should be eating per day based on your age, weight, and activity levels - I found that site pretty helpful when figuring how much I need to reduce my cals to (by subtracting 500 from the total they give you).
Oh I know, it's amazing how many calories are in junk food...geeez just take a piece of any kind of pie & you can expect it to total the cals of a huge buffet meal! That's another reason why it's important to try and eat healthy, you can eat large amounts of healthy food because most of the cals are so low - but trying to cut calories & surviving off junk food will have you starving, because you just can't eat the same portions.
It might be best to try and eliminate any junk foods you have around the house, they are so easy to snack on- and so not worth it! Maybe pick up some yogurt & granola bars (or if there is any kind of healthy snack you enjoy).
Another thing that helped me was to eat very very slow - it takes your stomach 20 minutes to tell the brain that it's full...so taking my time eating, even when it's just a snack has also helped big time.
Keep up the great work, and remember, don't kill yourself in the beginning with 3 hour workouts - trust me, it will kill your motivation after about a week or 2. Try maybe 1 hour a day to start out with...that way you're more likely to stick to it...then, maybe after 2 weeks, you'll probably just naturally increase your time working out because you'll start to find that the workouts are getting easier & you'll love the feeling it gives you.
Great Job, keep me posted!
P.S. I don't know if we're allowed to post other message boards on here or not, but here is a great weight loss community I found. There are lots of differant categories for posting, divided in areas like: age groups, diet groups, exercise, weight loss successes, support - just about anything. Everyone there is really helpful and SO encouraging. Here it is:
http://www.3fatchicks.com/forum/
http://www.self.com/health/nutrition/calculators/calories
You can figure out how many calories you should be eating per day based on your age, weight, and activity levels - I found that site pretty helpful when figuring how much I need to reduce my cals to (by subtracting 500 from the total they give you).
Oh I know, it's amazing how many calories are in junk food...geeez just take a piece of any kind of pie & you can expect it to total the cals of a huge buffet meal! That's another reason why it's important to try and eat healthy, you can eat large amounts of healthy food because most of the cals are so low - but trying to cut calories & surviving off junk food will have you starving, because you just can't eat the same portions.
It might be best to try and eliminate any junk foods you have around the house, they are so easy to snack on- and so not worth it! Maybe pick up some yogurt & granola bars (or if there is any kind of healthy snack you enjoy).
Another thing that helped me was to eat very very slow - it takes your stomach 20 minutes to tell the brain that it's full...so taking my time eating, even when it's just a snack has also helped big time.
Keep up the great work, and remember, don't kill yourself in the beginning with 3 hour workouts - trust me, it will kill your motivation after about a week or 2. Try maybe 1 hour a day to start out with...that way you're more likely to stick to it...then, maybe after 2 weeks, you'll probably just naturally increase your time working out because you'll start to find that the workouts are getting easier & you'll love the feeling it gives you.
Great Job, keep me posted!
P.S. I don't know if we're allowed to post other message boards on here or not, but here is a great weight loss community I found. There are lots of differant categories for posting, divided in areas like: age groups, diet groups, exercise, weight loss successes, support - just about anything. Everyone there is really helpful and SO encouraging. Here it is:
http://www.3fatchicks.com/forum/
vonee
01-21-2005, 07:11 AM
:rolleyes: Well haven't worked out yet! But I'm eating better, alot better. I've cut butter and all other fats, bad fats out of my diet, so that's a good thing.........I just am so disappointed in myself for how I've let myself go this past year and a half. Life changes maybe, probably! Anyways, I'm not motivated at all, and when I look in the mirror the disappointment is so overwelming I just want to hide..........Something is wrong with this picture. :confused:
Haulin200
01-21-2005, 03:32 PM
Stop Buying exscuses, and make it happen.
j.rutledge
01-22-2005, 05:57 AM
Well if he's 22, he needs to move out and get a place of his own...but that's my own personal opinion ;) Your a head of the household, you should not have to comform to the comforts of a 22 year old living at home with his parents. An alternative would be to get a CD player. Hope that helps.
vonee
01-24-2005, 07:00 AM
Yep you are right that I am full of excuses and I am realizing that. Thanks for reminding me I guess.......... :D It's alright for somebody to tell me that. And well as far as me being a head of this household? I guess I am somewhat but not like I would like to be. I don't know, his son is 22 but he is very immature for his age. I mean his momma and daddy have babied all there boys to where they can't even function in the real world. It's really sad........I don't not like him, I just think that he intimidates his dad. I've told my husband this, but he just looks at me with a look of he knows that I'm right but he's too weak to stand up for himself about pretty much everything. It's crazy.....but gettin back to me making excuses? Yeah, I know........So if I want to change I guess I'd better get up off my bootie and just exercise regardless if he is asleep or not. If he can't handle it, oh well. He'll just have to get over it!
j.rutledge
01-24-2005, 03:29 PM
You go girl!