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rach12

01-10-2005, 01:40 AM

I went to the e.r. for a uti. They did a U/s to see the baby's hb. They could not find one. I went today to my obgyn and he did a Vaginal u/s. The baby did not make it past 8 weeks. I am supposed to be 11. I have not had any cramping or spoting. they are doing blood work and on wed will let me know my options. Please keep me in your prayers.

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mommaboyz

01-10-2005, 01:52 AM

My heart goes out to you and you are in my prayers. Be strong and get some rest til then.

cattieos

01-10-2005, 01:56 AM

I am so sorry for your loss. I will keep you in my prayers, please let us know how you are doing.

hunnybun1504

01-10-2005, 01:59 AM

oh sweetheart thats terrible :-( stay strong, we know you can be, and were here to help support you...my heart is aching for you, im so sorry.

laurabelle1317

01-10-2005, 09:05 AM

Rachel,

I am so sorry! I was so sad to see this post! I remember when we were both ttc (well I am still trying) and was happy to hear that you had were pregnant. I am truly sorry that this occured. I wish I had better words of comfort to say. I give my best to you and dh.

~Laura~

nyxin

01-10-2005, 11:07 AM

I am very sorry to hear that. i went through a M/C last March. i know all the mental anguish it can cause. you will here 1,000 different things that are supposed to make you feel better. take them with a grain of salt and take time to really grieve over this. take all the time you need. again i am sorry.

hope5756

01-10-2005, 11:21 AM

I too am very sorry about your m/c. It was one of the hardest things that i have ever had to go through. And i had to do it twice. But it is true about everyone telling you what will make you feel better. You really do need to take them with a grain of salt otherwise it will make you go insane. Dont let anyone tell you that you should be over the greaving period at any point. There WILL be a time when the sadness will be less, but you and i know that we will NEVER forget the little one that we have lost. But one thing i do want you to know is that just because you did have a m/c it in no way means that it was your fault, infact miscarrages happen more often then we all know. I hope this time for you is not to discouraging, and I hope you do try again. When ever that might be. I will be thinking of you so keep me posted.

jmcummins3

01-10-2005, 11:54 AM

I am so sorry for your loss. I don't have anything more to add than everyone here has already wrote, except that you will be in my prayers.

Mary0114

01-10-2005, 01:19 PM

I am very sorry. It will take time to heal from this. If you feel in the near future a support group could help you, I encourage you to join if you feel the need. Some women need it, some don't. Some get pregnant again right away ( like I did) because they are determined and angry and a variety of emotions. People who have never lost a baby will say things to you that may seem weird or unkind. Just remember that they don't know. I pray for you.

kierrasmommy

01-10-2005, 01:31 PM

Rach,
I'm so sorry for you hun. (((HUGS))) I know how tough this is. There are so many wonderful books out there that deal with miscarriage and I truly believe they are very helpful to understanding the whole emotional process that you are going through now and to come. I agree with what everyone else has said, take the time YOU need to grieve. Just like snowflakes are alike, but no 2 are exactly the same...same goes for people who unfortunately have to go through this process. Yes, they are going through dealing with the loss of thier baby through miscarriage , but no 2 people will feel or endure the exact same journey. I am thinking about you. Take care.

packerfan4ever

01-10-2005, 02:44 PM

Rachel,
You bet we will all be praying and pulling for you. Get plenty of rest and hang in there...we all know it's easier said than done. Thank you for coming on here and sharing this with us. We are all here for you!

Spanish

01-10-2005, 03:18 PM

Oh Hun. I'm so sorry to hear your news. I can't add anything more to what the others have said except to say that my heart aches for you and you're in my thoughts.

Spanish

sammieP

01-10-2005, 05:08 PM

Oh Rach - i was with you on the ttc board - i am so sorry for you and dh, i will keep you both in my thoughts and pray you get some good news.

I really am terribly sorry, take care and i will be thinking of you lots <<HUGGS>>

thomps11

01-10-2005, 05:29 PM

Thinking of you...

In my prayers as you go thru this very tough time.

Thomps11

JodyC

01-10-2005, 06:10 PM

I am so sorry for your loss. You will be in my prayers tonight.

BEcca1978

01-10-2005, 07:22 PM

I am so sorry for your loss. You are in my prayers hon. God Bless.

rach12

01-11-2005, 03:57 AM

tHANK YOU ALL SO VERY MUCH. iT IS HARD WITHOUT MY FAMILY HERE BUt dh and I are going to be okay. I just want to have the D&C done so I can start to heal. Maybe in a few months I will be on here or the TTC board again. I hope you all have wonderful pregnancy with healthy babies.

Teloda

03-15-2005, 03:34 PM

I just had my first ultrasound and the doctor told me that my baby is about 7 weeks, when I should be 10 weeks, I asked if it was possible if I concieved at a later date, but he said no, he didn't exactly tell me if my baby was dead, just that it is small I am getting a second oppinion, I also have no spotting or cramping, and all my symtoms are still indicating that I am pregnant. I don't know what to feel or do.

tamaraheiner

03-15-2005, 04:40 PM

i don't understand. if you are not ten weeks, but seven, then it must be possible that you conceived at another date. what does the doctor mean? do baby's ever sit in hiberation for three weeks and then get going?

let us know what happens.