Hi. I am 36 year old female. I have had this lump outside of my anus, left sided for maybe 2 years now, or a little less. It swells when I have a big bm, but it never goes away. Sometimes when I press it , it feels hard. I have put ice there before and it will get smaller but not going away. It itches, burns, etc. and I stay constipated quite a bit. Sometimes I notice a brown streak on the left side of my underwear. Doctors have looked at it and felt it, but none seem to be too worried. My gyno said it was a little hard but didn't comment on if i needed it checked. ER doctor said once it was probably a hemmoroid.

I just need to know what a hemmoriod looks like, and feels like and if it ever goes away, or what. My mother said she had them after having kids, and the doctor told her to stick hers back up in there, but I would be afraid to try this.

Please help. It is very embarressing and I don't even want to have sex with my husband anymore, afraid that he will feel it.

Thanks.