CutXHere
01-14-2005, 01:53 AM
I've had my boyfriend for about 4 months and we had sex two months into it. We had sex two times with a condom and the third time we tryed it without a condom, which was very stupid. After we had done it he said that there was sperm on the outside of the condom like it had run down to the base of his penis. I got really paranoid when I was talking to my mum about getting STDs. And it got me thinking. In a privious relationship he had not used a condom with the girl and she got pregnant but had a miscariage cause of her drug abuse. After we did it for the forth time he told me that he has these sort of bumps on his down there, but he got it checked out by a doctor and said it was perfectly normal. And On Tuesday I go to get my blood test. My mum doesn't know that I'm not a virgin and I'm scared that she will find out that her 16 year old daughter has been lying to her this whole time. So my questions are how should I go about telling her? How long do the test results take? Is there any way she could not find out? How do they go about these tests? Thanks.
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Dream0n83
01-14-2005, 02:01 AM
If he has bumps around his penis it sounds like it could possibily be herpes. I dont want to scare you. Herpes isnt life threatning. I have herpes. Not sure where I contracted it.
You may not have anything. have you noticed any bumps in your private area? and burning during urination?
Usually they do what is called a cultural swab if you have and "bumps/sores" exposed. they just use a cotton swab and send it to a lab. Otherwise there are blood tests. If you get a bloodtest make sure you let them know you want herpes to be looked for as well. Most tests dont include that i've heard.
Sure your b/f went to the doctor but did his doctor do a swab of his bumps? if not i'd have him go back and get double checked! And no more unprotected sex till you know for sure! Tell him you wanna see papers b4 anymore sex.
Besides you should be using condoms, you dont wanna baby at 16, or a disease! Please be careful!
You may not have anything. have you noticed any bumps in your private area? and burning during urination?
Usually they do what is called a cultural swab if you have and "bumps/sores" exposed. they just use a cotton swab and send it to a lab. Otherwise there are blood tests. If you get a bloodtest make sure you let them know you want herpes to be looked for as well. Most tests dont include that i've heard.
Sure your b/f went to the doctor but did his doctor do a swab of his bumps? if not i'd have him go back and get double checked! And no more unprotected sex till you know for sure! Tell him you wanna see papers b4 anymore sex.
Besides you should be using condoms, you dont wanna baby at 16, or a disease! Please be careful!
CutXHere
01-14-2005, 02:10 AM
I don't have any bumps down there. And there's no buring when I go to the bathroom. What are the treatments for herpes? He said that he had the bumps before he had sex and he lost his virginity to his girlfriend before me.
victoria48
01-14-2005, 10:26 AM
I might be wrong but I am guessing that from some of the terms you have used, you are in the UK.
In the UK, you can have free tests carried out at your doctor's surgery or at an STD clinic. The clinics are sometimes better as your notes stay confidential and do not get passed to your GP. You will find a Sexual Health clinic in just about every major city hospital.
You should really get vaginal swabs taken, which will test for things like Chlamydia and Gonorrhea as well as a blood test which will test for HIV and Hepatitis.
When I had my tests carried out, the results of the blood tests were ready in 24 hours but the swabs took about a week.
Unless you are 100% certain that you and your boyfriend have no STD's and he is totally faithful to you, don't risk unprotected sex.
In the UK, you can have free tests carried out at your doctor's surgery or at an STD clinic. The clinics are sometimes better as your notes stay confidential and do not get passed to your GP. You will find a Sexual Health clinic in just about every major city hospital.
You should really get vaginal swabs taken, which will test for things like Chlamydia and Gonorrhea as well as a blood test which will test for HIV and Hepatitis.
When I had my tests carried out, the results of the blood tests were ready in 24 hours but the swabs took about a week.
Unless you are 100% certain that you and your boyfriend have no STD's and he is totally faithful to you, don't risk unprotected sex.
Regina21
01-14-2005, 12:12 PM
I highly doubt your mom would think bad of you if you were to be honest with her. The thing is your maturing into a young woman and your not a baby anymore. That's the reality that my mom had to come to terms with. Except I was 18 when I lost my virginity. She was shocked and had no idea why I was suddenly asking her to take me to a Gyno because she thought that it wasn't necessary and it was painful to lie to her and try to make up some story. I had to come clean with my mom because given the fact that I thought I was old enough to start having sex which is a big deal, I thought I should at least be mature enough to be honest with her. I was scared out of my mind because coming from mexican parents...they can be a little less understanding. But I was her daughter and she loved me no less. It was alot easier in the end because if I had questions she was always there to help and give me the best possible advice. If something went wrong, I wouldn't have to go behind her back to a womens clinic and keep it on the down low worrying about how and when she would find out. This way I could come to her and let her know what was going on. I think it's only best if your tell your mom as soon as possible. She may take it a little shockingly at first, but then again mom's are amazing and can surprise the life out of you. She may just be understanding like alot of them are. Good luck though!