Ok I am 25, single mom of a 6.5 year old little girl. Its hard enough to find a guy that wants more then just sex from you when you have a child, especially though college. Anyway I found out I had chlamydia (spelling) and it was treated, then my doctor said I have herpes which seemed like the end of the world at the time. I took some meds and it went away and hasn't returned I don't think. Then I find out I have warts too. After not having an outbreak of any kind for over a year I guess I just blew off the fact that I had it. I got really drunk and slept with this guy and I got pregnant again. We aren't offically together but hes getting better with the idea of a baby, I really want to be with him but I have this feeling he wont be willing if he knows I have any kind of STD. I have no idea how to tell him, plus I don't even know if I have herpes. I thought I had an OB when I first found out I was pregnant and that doctor said I just had a yeast infection and asked me if the other doctor was sure it was Herpes. So as of right now I don't even know if I have it.

I am having a few warts right now and the doctor said theres nothing you can do in pregnancy. But why not, they can't even be froze off? He doesn't expalin anything. I also have a few red patches right now and I don't know if thats warts starting or herpes of if I have a yeast infections again, I called the doctor just now but my doctor is gone so they are reluctant to let me see someone else. I thought its important to get them cultured right away? Why are doctors so unwilling to help? And what do I do about the guy issue? I am 3.5 months, so I am assuming whatever I have I have already given to him? Help!

I think first you need to talk to him. He has a right to know, even if he doesn't react the way you'd want. He doesn't necessarily have it, and he should get tested and then you should take measures to protect him. Read a recently bumped-up thread called "Happy Couples" for ideas of how to do this. There are also many ideas of how to talk to someone. You should have as much information on herpes as you can get, so that you can calm his fears with facts. I suggest that you read around on this site as much as possible. You need to know more, and so does he.

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This is just my opinion. BUT, remember how you felt when you were diagnosed with these things, these stds.. well now you might have given them to someone else and they didnt even know! THEY HAVE A RIGHT TO KNOW. This issue makes me so upset because dont you see that this is why herpes and stds are so common, I know you said U might not have herpes, but u DO have warts.... so even if he just got that.. YOU knew. Everyone makes mistakes.... BUT he has a right to know if the sex was mutual. Im sorry for sounding so harsh... if I do... but this is one of the reasons why stds are such a huge issue, becaue people neglet to warn or tell people... Take responsibility!

for one thing I have read on as much of these posts as I can and if anything it confuses me more! There are so many conflictig stories. And as for mutual sex, well the first time wasn't, I was so drunk and he took advantage and never wated to use any protection. He has never asked if I have anything or wanted to be safe.