please don't say I told you so. I'm sure many of you may recall a few months ago I was having a tough time with my "Screamer Boss." Believe me, I have wanted, attemped to search on...but after working 11 to 13 hours every day I am whipped and in pain...plus the stress keeps me insecure now. This job since October 2003 has completely changed my life. I have no life. Once my boss found out that I had fibro she mentioned to the VP, who I am friends with that I am now an insurance liability and since than she has done every thing mean to drive me out. Constant screaming and mental abuse. Believe me you could never imagine. I know I couldn't have. The funny thing is that everyone else in the company truly loves my compassion to look out for everyone, bring out a smile when their down....go the extra mile and have so many wonderful friends there. At our Annual Christmas party that I run, there were 10 case of 24 cokes in my care from shopping at Cosco for 100 + people....also the honeybacked ham store, etc. This was all done on my own. I wasn't able to carry the soda's in and asked if I could get some help. The comes out and starts yelling at me that this is my job and do not take her employees away from what they should be doing. I was just so tired after shopping all day with a $249 budget for over 100 people and make it unbelievable. Finally one of the guys said to Linda, you cannot expect her to carry all of that heavy stuff into the building. She said, well tell her to take one can at a time. He proceed to start taking them in and my wicked stepmother started screaming at me that I should have been faster on my feet. She was so angry that I didn't carry it in ....she figured payback was yet to come. Well it did....she gave eachof the people at the party a $100 gift cheque...how do I know...I followed behind her reminding her to give each person from my list a cheque and marking it off my list. All names were marked off but mine....she purposely didn't give me one. It was just hurtful. She said that I didn't deserve one because I took longer getting back to set up. The beltway was shut down in both directions, I called her and she didn't belueve during the middle of the day. I tried to make her understand there was very little you could do in one day with about 250 people on a 250 budget. She wanted sit down, meat, shrimp, sushi, cheese platters, fruit platters....veggies...desserts....stop my the honey backed ham store and rob a few hams or buy very small ones with the left over budget. All in all she did feel I deserved one because she was in one of those mental break downs. I had worked so hard 5pm until 12 mindnight and not one penny.

Please support me everyone and help keep my strenght.They are basically telling me I have two more weeks left. I will not resign, they will have to fire me. I have worked many late nights and never got paid. Linda is so bitter because i commented to a coworker who asked how I was spending it...that I didn't get one. Linda did not want that know that she had decided I would not get one. It got back to her and she went crazy :jester: about it. She called me into her office and said she had something for me. I said no thanks and and she threw it at me and hit me in the face. I simply picked it up and said I'm sure my daughter will like this.

Well I'm getting sleepy :yawn: ...another long and bad :( feeling dayI have ahead of me....

Annie honey, you know how you handle people who are ugly on the inside?

You be as sticky mushy over the top corny sweet to them as you can. I know it's tough, but your spirit is brighter and stronger than your screaming meamie boss. When some one is shouting, the first thing you can ask them, is "what are you afraid of?". People who show anger and come at you shouting and yelling are, usually, deep down, afraid, of something.

I had a boss like yours, only she was a he, and he was so cruel, I know what you mean, but only at the time, I didn't know how karma works so I quit when I couldn't take it any more. He was very cruel. We couldn't keep any personal items like pictures on our desks, we couldn't leave the office for lunch, he ordered it in for us, only of course after we fixed his for him and brought it to his desk. He favored the other "young" girl in the office and she kept getting raises while I did not. I called in sick one day and he told me over the phone that I was probably hung over from coming in late and drunk the night before. Ain't he a sweetie? So, I quit. Stuck his keys to the office under the door and that was that. I did find out later though that the pretty "young" girl and her sister-in-law (who was also working there) were stealing money from him. It was a used car business and part of our job was to receive money for car and repair payments, and log them into the computer. Well apparetnly these girls were stashing a little to the side for themselves while receiving the payments! LOL There was my karma! Oh, one other thing he did to me. He hired this new girl, said we needed extra help. Had me train her, and then he called me into his office to tell me that he was letting me go and the girl that I had been training was my replacement! YIKES! I should have let him fire me, I could have gotten unemployment. But quitting that job lead me to my wonderful job as a waitress at CrackerBarrel for nine years where I still to this day have friends who are like family to me. I still go in the store, back in the kitchen and visit everyone I used to work with. I'm lucky.

But really, I know it is so hard to work for someone who is awful. You sound like you like your job, but just can't stand your boss. It is so stressful to be unhappy at work. Try try try to cover her with kindness. I used to use that tactic when I waited on a guest who was grumpy or fussy. I'd kill them with kindness, and it usually put them in a good mood, or it drove them nuts they couldn't get to me, they stopped being mean. They just eat their food and left my station! LOL

So use karma, give out and get back. You will give her nothing to yell at you for if you embrace her yelling and be so nice to her, she can't stand it! LOL She may not stop yelling, some people just have to yell, but I'll bet you everything if she yells at you and you don't respond with anything but kindness and smiles, it'll make her wonder. And you'll be the better person for it, and I promise you, you will be able to handle her screaming tantrums a lot better when you bounce a smile back at her. I promise you! Try it and let me know how it works. Remember when she screams, just smile and don't react to how she is trying to make you feel. When you act flustered or bothered by her actions, you are doing exactly what she expects you to do, and you are giving her your power.

Take back your power, and flash her a big old smile. Hopefully she'll leave you alone and go about her business, but I'm telling you "killing them with kindness" definately works. I've seen it in action too many times not to know that it doesn't. It'll be hard, cuz you're first reaction is to either yell back, or show her that her yelling has bothered you, or her actions toward you has bothered you, but like I said, if you do, you are giving her your power. She is trying to hurt you, don't let her. If you feel hurt, let it go later, but not infront of her, because then she is robbing you of your spirit. Be nice and ask "is there anything else I can do for you"? What ever is icky sticky sweet. You can't lose.

K?

Love ya lots!
tk

P.S. Right, do NOT quit, let her fire you so you can at least get unemployment. But honestly, I wouldn't want to work for someone like that, and unless she plans on moving somewhere else, maybe you should open the newspaper and look for something else. This situation will just make you sick. Unless my plan works and she lets up on you. I'll be hoping for that result. Let's hope it works and she leaves you alone, and goes home and yells at her husband! LOL (is that being insensitive on my part?)