I'm sure many of you may recall a few months ago I was having a tough time with my "Screamer Boss." Believe me, I have wanted and attemped to search ....but after working 11 to 13 hours every day I am whipped and in pain...plus the stress keeps me insecure now. I have now been with this job since October 2003 and it has completely changed my life. I have no life. Once my boss found out that I had fibro everything went downhill...she mentioned it to the VP, who I am friends with, that I am now an insurance liability. Since than she has done everything possible to drive me out. Constant screaming and mental abuse. The funny thing is that everyone else in the company truly loves my compassion to look out for everyone, bring out a smile when their down....go the extra mile ...planning events, managing the office, EA for President, VP and running HR now. I have so many wonderful friends here. At our Annual Christmas party there were 10 - 24 cases cokes in my car from shopping at Cosco for 100 + people....also the honeybacked ham store, etc. This was all done on my own. The soda's were too difficult to carry in, so I asked if I could get some help. Several people were only too happy to help, when along comes the boss...yelling that this is my job and do not take her employees away from what they should be doing. I was just so tired after shopping all day with a $249 budget for over 100 people ....she called Cosco several times asking how much I had spent, having me count and add up the items...putting things back. One of the fellows at work who was helping told her that it was impossible for me to unload everything after only having ONE day to do everything and the party was at 5:00pm. She was so angry that I didn't carry it in ....she figured payback was yet to come. Well it did....she gave each employee and consultant at the party a $100 gift cheque...how do I know...it was my responsibility to follow behind her, reminding her to give each person from my list a cheque and marking it off for accounting purposes. All names were marked off but mine (yes she did see it)....she purposely didn't give me one. It was just hurtful. I tried to make her understand there was very little you could do in one day with about so many people on a 250 budget. She wanted sit down meat, shrimp, sushi, cheese platters, fruit platters....veggies...desserts....stop my the honey backed ham store for 2 hams and 4 lb. of turkey or buy very small ones with the left over budget. All in all she did not feel that I deserved one. I had worked so hard 5pm until 12 midnight and not even hourly pay.

Basically I am being told that I have two more weeks left. I will not resign, they will have to fire me. I have worked many late nights and never got paid. She is so bitter because i commented to a coworker who asked how I was spending my "gift cheque"...I replied that I didn't get one. She did not want that known. It got back to her and she went crazy :jester: about it. To make herself look good she in turn called me into her office the next day (after being told) said she had something for me. I said no thanks and and she threw it at me and hit me in the face. I'm sure she didn't mean to hit me in the face...but she did throw it with anger. At first I wasn't going to take it...but instead I simply picked it up and said I'm sure my daughter will like this.

I can see it's going to be a tough road....thanks for your support....Annie :rolleyes:

hi annie, that is so awful. i feel so sorry for you. i had someone leave me out like that before. im here if you need a chat x

Hello Annie,

I'm too much of a lady to say what I think of "her". I wish you the very best.

Chin up and keep posting if you can.

Best wishes,

goldenwings :angel:

dear annie,
there will always be people in this world who have so much hate in them they must hurt others in order to "feel better". do not take her behavior personally. it really has nothing to do with you. you are just the gentlest person at work in her eyes so that makes you fair game for her cruelty. do not stop being a good, loving person. never let the haters of our world turn you away from your loving nature.
you do not need the accolades of this woman or her lousy check. you know your worth! you are priceless! those you work with see you as you truly are. we here see your pure heart. have you ever had to baby sit a petulant child? perhaps you could use the same techniques with this overgrown child you work for? i have found ignoring the outburst of an out of control human works. i just turn and walk away. if they holler at me to come back i turn, smile, and say i will return when you have control of your mouth. what can she do, fire you? are you documenting these outbursts? write it all down. later you may choose to sue your company for not complying with the peoples with disabilities act. be sure your company has documentation of your disability so that when, and if the time comes you will have all the power in your corner. document, document, document! date, time, words said. you just may end up owning the company and then you can fire her!
there are laws to protect you from harassment at work. does this woman have a boss she must answer to? if so go over this womans head and report her. what can she do, yell at you more for ratting her out? she is already doing that! she is the liability to her company. her behavior is cause for a lawsuit.
you and only you decide your worth. never forget that. no one has the power to make you useless, except you. and you know better!! i have two shoulders and you are always welcome to lean on them. they are very strong. i know because i use them every day!
peace,
bluelakelady