tchrchgo
01-26-2005, 01:59 PM
I am so wracked with guilt and upset at myself right now.
I have been such a terrible wife and mother. One of my sons is 2.5 yrs old, and is becoming very sensitive and aware of emotional turbulence. I was angry at my husband this morning, and spoke harshly to him, and my son said, "you're angry with daddy." And he kept saying it. Another time I had yelled at his brother who started crying and my son sid, 'Why did you do that?" I really want to stop my angry ways and be a better mother, wife and person.
I just hope it's not too late and I haven't scarred my kids for life. I want them to have a happy childhood, I hope I can still give them that if I work to change myself now.
I also know I am not a very happy person or friend- and I want to be someone other people want to know.
Thanks for listening.
I have been such a terrible wife and mother. One of my sons is 2.5 yrs old, and is becoming very sensitive and aware of emotional turbulence. I was angry at my husband this morning, and spoke harshly to him, and my son said, "you're angry with daddy." And he kept saying it. Another time I had yelled at his brother who started crying and my son sid, 'Why did you do that?" I really want to stop my angry ways and be a better mother, wife and person.
I just hope it's not too late and I haven't scarred my kids for life. I want them to have a happy childhood, I hope I can still give them that if I work to change myself now.
I also know I am not a very happy person or friend- and I want to be someone other people want to know.
Thanks for listening.
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kiehn
01-27-2005, 01:03 PM
Hi there
Isnt it amazing how our children can help us to see things so
clearly. All parents make mistakes it's how we handle them that
our children will learn to handle their own, so you can relax
knowing you're actually teaching your children an important lesson
right now. Dont let them think anger is bad let them know there are
better ways to deal with it and you're going to learn how. I once read of a
family that never allowed their children to see their mistakes they were
the perfect parent in their childs eyes. Their child committed suiside
because he wasnt perfect like his parents and didnt know how to handle
lifes problems.
Your desire to change is the first step and most important step. Now
it's a matter of determining what would be most help for you. Whether
it be individual counseling, a parent class, antidepressant, reading books
on anger, parenting etc. It's trial and error, sometimes a combo of a few
things but hang in there you're already on the right path. K
Isnt it amazing how our children can help us to see things so
clearly. All parents make mistakes it's how we handle them that
our children will learn to handle their own, so you can relax
knowing you're actually teaching your children an important lesson
right now. Dont let them think anger is bad let them know there are
better ways to deal with it and you're going to learn how. I once read of a
family that never allowed their children to see their mistakes they were
the perfect parent in their childs eyes. Their child committed suiside
because he wasnt perfect like his parents and didnt know how to handle
lifes problems.
Your desire to change is the first step and most important step. Now
it's a matter of determining what would be most help for you. Whether
it be individual counseling, a parent class, antidepressant, reading books
on anger, parenting etc. It's trial and error, sometimes a combo of a few
things but hang in there you're already on the right path. K
zilea
01-30-2005, 06:48 AM
Sorry I'm not that good at helping but I know what it's like to be brought up by anger and it isn't good, so I applaud you on wanting to make a change. I'd recommend counselling and possibly group therapy, they can be a lot of help. Sorry I don't really know what to say but good luck