Hello, I am new to these boards and I am currently seeking some help. I really need any information you can give.

My mom is in the hospital right now with about 10 machines hooked up to her.

Background info.
She was diagnosed with Ovarian Cancer on October 31. She was in Stage 4 when diagnosed. She then went onto getting chemotheropy treatments for about 8 months. The doctor said that all the cancer was gone... so she was off chemo for about a month and a half. However, she had to be rushed to the emergency room about one week ago. The cancer has returned. This time it is much worse, if that is possible. She had to wait to get transfered into another, better hospital. Probably the best in the state of Colorado for her situation. While waiting for three days, she started to get these really bad headaches... couldn't move or anything. She finally gets a spot in the hospital, and the night she arrives in the new hospital, she started to look at my dad like she didn't know who he was... then she lost conscience... the next thing we know is that she is getting brain surgery. The surgery was to drain blood in the brain... it was creating so much pressure, that it was pushing the brain to one side. They believe the cancer may have spread to the brain and liver, but the doctors aren't sure at this moment. they thought it was an aneurysm but it was not. She should have woken up by now, the doctor says... reason they think she hasn't woken is because is has spread to the spreading to the liver/bile ducts... ? They are still running tests... she still hasn't woken up yet... and now she is hooked up to about 10 machines. I really hope she wakes up. She responds to touch, when I touch her hand she squeezed it very very hard as she held my hand.


I really need any information you can give me. I don't understand how the cancer can spread that fast when they said it was all gone??? I don't understand this at all. I feel like I'm going to lose her.

[This message has been edited by Cristina (edited 08-06-2003).]

Dear Christina

My heart goes out to you - i lost my mum to ovarian cancer over 7 seven years ago, aged 48, and it is a devasting disease. She have three doses of chemo, 2 ops and I will never forget how ill she looked.

All I can do is send you and your mum my heartfelt love as from reading your message I feel that it would be much better for to tackle the surgeons and keep pounding at them to find out what they did etc.

When my mum was diagnosed my family and I got no support or response from the surgeons whatsoever and even now I am still angry at the way families are treated during and after the event.

Aagin, please keep talking to your mum and going in to see her no matter how much it upsets you as I know that she is aware you are there and will take great comfort knowing that you are there for her.

May the lord bless you and your family and your mum and please if you want to talk to me privately you can email me on lynn_kiss@hotmail.com.

Keep smiling and praying and I will too.

God bless.

xxx

Hi Cristina,
My heart goes out to you in this difficult struggle. Tomorrow a person dear to me will be having surgery to see if she might have ovarian cancer, and I'm just trying to stay optimistic until we see what the surgeons say.

There are so many things in medicine that are not absolute... and so many ways in which the human body can respond. Sometimes it can be quite miraculous, and then there are the other times.

Hold your mom's hand, squeeze it lovingly, and treasure every moment you have together. Today is my mom's birthday, but she has been gone for 15 years... Seems like yesterday.
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My heart goes way out to ya as wel!!!!!!!! My bestest friend has OC, it's been 5 years7 mos. She does well, She is an awesome person, mom friend etc. She taught me more about everything She has 2 kids. She just keeps going and is evry open and honest I have chronic pain and she is truley the only one who understands. Take Care, THERESA

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pain from cervical radiculopathy, spondy, permanent nerve damage, c5/6 buldging dics, DDD,nerve root lesions, anxiety.depression from chronic pain or vice versa. current meds,oxycontin 2 40's twice a day, oxyir for B/T, xanax, paxil, estratest, synthroid, phenergran.

Christina

Its Lynn again - would love to hear from you - how are things with Mum - my prayers and wishes are with you and your family.

Take care of yourself as well and keep talking and being there for your Mum.

Hugs and kisses

Lynn xx

Hello everyone,

Thank you for the concern and replies. She finally woke up a few days ago, but unfortunately she is not the same. She cannot get up, or do anything really. She lies in the hospital bed, and looks around... and moves her hands around a lot. There is no recognition in her eyes... and I don't think she understands what I am saying most of the time. Tomorrow she will be transfered to Hospice...Her liver and galbladder isn't doing so well either... I really cannot believe all of this is happening, and it hurts so much. I really don't understand why this had to happen to her. I really hate to see her this way... it does tear me up inside. I know for a fact that she would not want to live with this current mental capacity.

It also turns out they misdignosed her cancer a year ago... it was not ovarian as they had thought, it was pancreatic.

Hang in there....I know it's getting rougher than you thought it would get. There are many support groups out there and alot of caring people who have been or are going through the same thing. Don't give up hope. The human spirit and the will to survive are very strong qualities in every person. I know it sounds trite but it's true......what doesn't break you makes you stronger.

We'll keep your family in our prayers.......
crb