TCoughlan
02-07-2005, 12:27 PM
Hi all,
Just looking for the opinion amongst us with diagnosed children. I have a close friend that is an extremely intelligent and caring person. Last night at a superbowl party she did something ditzy ( it was so insignificant that I cant recall what it was) and she made the comment " Just call me your special friend" in a goofy sort of tone. This immediately bothered me and I said " whats wrong with having a special friend ? " she ignored the comment and I let it go to avoid confrontation around a group of people. My other friends said to let it go that she didnt mean anything by it, but it bothers me thinking that my my friends that know me and my son, think that "special" people are stupid. Am I being overly sensitive. Its been a rough couple of weeks, there are some questions as to if my daughter is showing signs of being on the spectrum, so I have been testy with people, and feeling like I did 18 months ago when we were first dx'd. Not sure if its just me or a combo of things. Thaks in advance for the feedback
Just looking for the opinion amongst us with diagnosed children. I have a close friend that is an extremely intelligent and caring person. Last night at a superbowl party she did something ditzy ( it was so insignificant that I cant recall what it was) and she made the comment " Just call me your special friend" in a goofy sort of tone. This immediately bothered me and I said " whats wrong with having a special friend ? " she ignored the comment and I let it go to avoid confrontation around a group of people. My other friends said to let it go that she didnt mean anything by it, but it bothers me thinking that my my friends that know me and my son, think that "special" people are stupid. Am I being overly sensitive. Its been a rough couple of weeks, there are some questions as to if my daughter is showing signs of being on the spectrum, so I have been testy with people, and feeling like I did 18 months ago when we were first dx'd. Not sure if its just me or a combo of things. Thaks in advance for the feedback
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sarahrose
02-07-2005, 01:39 PM
That word "special" used to bug me too, but after hearing it for 3 years, I just kind of let it go. You'll get used to it, and some of the other dumb things that seem to just float out of peoples mouths. :p
grace19
02-07-2005, 02:05 PM
It sounds like you have a lot of stress in your life right now and the words your friend said just added to the stress. So I think anybody in your situation might react the same way you did last night.
I have a very close friend that does the same thing. She says dumb things without thinking before she speaks. The first few times she did this I was really hurt by it not because of the words she said but because she was such a close friend almost like a family member. She's just a blunt person!
Don't let it get you down. Hang in there.
I have a very close friend that does the same thing. She says dumb things without thinking before she speaks. The first few times she did this I was really hurt by it not because of the words she said but because she was such a close friend almost like a family member. She's just a blunt person!
Don't let it get you down. Hang in there.
Annee
02-07-2005, 02:06 PM
I remember a few years back when people would make fun of one another by asking, "When you were a kid, did you ride the big bus or the little bus?" Ha. Ha. Well, the little bus made it's way to my house every school day for many years, and I never found anything funny about it.
I think the best we can do is point out to people that they're being hurtful. Maybe we can be an influence now, so that the world will be kinder to our children in the future. As for the anger, I think we all make remarks without thinking. And if you think back far enough, you may recall something you accidentally said that hurt someone. We're only human.
I think the best we can do is point out to people that they're being hurtful. Maybe we can be an influence now, so that the world will be kinder to our children in the future. As for the anger, I think we all make remarks without thinking. And if you think back far enough, you may recall something you accidentally said that hurt someone. We're only human.
grace19
02-07-2005, 02:19 PM
good point Anee! We all say hurtful things sometimes. Some people do it more often than others.
Starter7777
02-07-2005, 05:44 PM
I enjoy being unique, and though I've never been diagnosed with autism, or asperger's, I would wager an imeasurable amount of currency against me not having it.
When people utilize words that settle with you in an uneasy fashion, ask them, what they are proud of? I'm sure you posses some unique abilites that you are proud of, relish in them and love yourself.
When people utilize words that settle with you in an uneasy fashion, ask them, what they are proud of? I'm sure you posses some unique abilites that you are proud of, relish in them and love yourself.
grace19
02-09-2005, 12:38 AM
PDD-NOS mom,
Are these the co workers at the Childrens hospital you work at saying the "slips"?
If so I would think that is really insensitive of them since they work with kids who are sick and have disabilities.
Are these the co workers at the Childrens hospital you work at saying the "slips"?
If so I would think that is really insensitive of them since they work with kids who are sick and have disabilities.