south249
02-08-2005, 01:45 PM
My Daughter Recently Had A Miscarriage, And Has Been Depressed, She Was Wondering If This Could Be Post Partum Depression Can You Get That Even Though You Have Miscarried?
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MissChicopea
02-08-2005, 02:50 PM
I think she is simply going through the grieving process of having lost her child. While she may be and probably is depressed, postpartum depression is more related to having a child. Here are some symptoms of postpartum depression. I direct your attention to the symptoms that are directly related to interacting with the baby. This is not to take away from her depression whatosever. She may need to seek help during this time and will go through a rough patch undoubtly. Some women really never get over miscarrying. Particularly if they have been trying for a long time to conceive. She lost a child. She's depressed. I'm so sorry she has to go through that. My thoughts are with her.
Feeling restless or irritable.
Feeling sad, depressed or crying a lot.
Having no energy.
Having headaches, chest pains, heart palpitations (the heart being fast and feeling like it is skipping beats), numbness, or hyperventilation (fast and shallow breathing).
Not being able to sleep or being very tired, or both.
Not being able to eat and weight loss.
Overeating and weight gain.
Trouble focusing, remembering, or making decisions.
Being overly worried about the baby.
Not having any interest in the baby.
Feeling worthless and guilty.
Being afraid of hurting the baby or yourself.
No interest or pleasure in activities, including sex.
Feeling restless or irritable.
Feeling sad, depressed or crying a lot.
Having no energy.
Having headaches, chest pains, heart palpitations (the heart being fast and feeling like it is skipping beats), numbness, or hyperventilation (fast and shallow breathing).
Not being able to sleep or being very tired, or both.
Not being able to eat and weight loss.
Overeating and weight gain.
Trouble focusing, remembering, or making decisions.
Being overly worried about the baby.
Not having any interest in the baby.
Feeling worthless and guilty.
Being afraid of hurting the baby or yourself.
No interest or pleasure in activities, including sex.
siren1024
02-08-2005, 02:53 PM
I would say it is perfectly natural and normal for her to be depressed. Not only is she greiving her lost baby, but her body is going through all the hormonal changes that occur after a pregnancy ends. The above poster had a lot of good info. I just wanted to say I agree with her and I'm so sorry she's having to go through this.
Hope2Heal
02-08-2005, 03:06 PM
HI
Your daughter is grieving, though often that can lead to depression. She is lucky to have you to help her out.
I have just lost my firstborn son at 36 weeks. He died at birth. That was almost a month ago and I am terrilby upset and devastated still. I cry everyday. Hormones do play a role as well.
I understand that a lot of women do not put a proper closure on their childs death in the case of a miscarriage. Since there was no baby to hold and many people may not even have known she was pregnant, she may have been feeling all alone with this. What she is going through is normal, but she may need some help. When my sister years ago had a misscarriage, I bought her a little child angel figurine for Christmas. She was touched that I actually remembered her child. She has named that child as well.
Many people see a miscarriage as "natures way of getting rid of a mistake" or just a little embryo, a blob of tissue or whatever. But the embryo gets a little heartbeat very early on, like around 6 weeks. You daughter did not just miscarry, she lost her child, and all the hopes and dreams and expectations that come with it.
I would encourage her to talk about it. Refer to her loss as her baby. See if she is willing to go to a support group for women who have lost babies? I will be going to one next week. There are a lot of great books out there too.
If she is thinking of trying again in the future, a good book I am currently reading is "Pregnancy after a loss" A guide to pregnancy after a miscarriage, stillbirth or infant death. by Carol Cirulli Lanham. It gives you something to look toward in the future, some possibilities. And there are a lot of stories about women who have gone through this and survived. There are a lot of other book about pregnancy loss out there as well as online support groups, just do a search under infant loss grief support.
Best of luck to your daughter.
hope this helped.
Your daughter is grieving, though often that can lead to depression. She is lucky to have you to help her out.
I have just lost my firstborn son at 36 weeks. He died at birth. That was almost a month ago and I am terrilby upset and devastated still. I cry everyday. Hormones do play a role as well.
I understand that a lot of women do not put a proper closure on their childs death in the case of a miscarriage. Since there was no baby to hold and many people may not even have known she was pregnant, she may have been feeling all alone with this. What she is going through is normal, but she may need some help. When my sister years ago had a misscarriage, I bought her a little child angel figurine for Christmas. She was touched that I actually remembered her child. She has named that child as well.
Many people see a miscarriage as "natures way of getting rid of a mistake" or just a little embryo, a blob of tissue or whatever. But the embryo gets a little heartbeat very early on, like around 6 weeks. You daughter did not just miscarry, she lost her child, and all the hopes and dreams and expectations that come with it.
I would encourage her to talk about it. Refer to her loss as her baby. See if she is willing to go to a support group for women who have lost babies? I will be going to one next week. There are a lot of great books out there too.
If she is thinking of trying again in the future, a good book I am currently reading is "Pregnancy after a loss" A guide to pregnancy after a miscarriage, stillbirth or infant death. by Carol Cirulli Lanham. It gives you something to look toward in the future, some possibilities. And there are a lot of stories about women who have gone through this and survived. There are a lot of other book about pregnancy loss out there as well as online support groups, just do a search under infant loss grief support.
Best of luck to your daughter.
hope this helped.
south249
02-08-2005, 03:13 PM
God Bless You For Taking The Time To Read My Post And Reply. My Prayers Go Out To You For The Lost Of Your Child, I Can't Even Imagine Having To Go Thru That. I Will Have Her Get That Book And Try To Get Her To Get Into A Counseling Group. I Will Pray For You And God Will Help Thru You This Terrible Time And I Believe When The Time Is Right God Will Bless You Again With A New Child. Take Care Of Yourself And God Bles You.
Hugs
Gale
Hugs
Gale
agk1999
02-10-2005, 03:30 AM
Hello South,
Im So Sorry The Lose Your Daughter Went Through. It Is Normal To Feel Depression And It Is A Form Of Postpartum. I Suffered From Ppd After My First Daughter And It Was A Nightmare.
I Found A Great Board On Line That Cares,supports And Helps Women That Go Through This, I Am Very Active On This Board If You Have The Time Look It Up It Is Very Helpful To See Others Feel And Understand What Your Daughter Is Going Through.
It Is Karen Kleiman Postpartum Board. You Can Ask As Many Questions As You Wish. I Hope This Helped If You Want To Find Me On The Board I Am Under Kissgenmom22. I Hope You Can See It.
God Bless You And Your Daughter Be Strong
Agk'swife
Im So Sorry The Lose Your Daughter Went Through. It Is Normal To Feel Depression And It Is A Form Of Postpartum. I Suffered From Ppd After My First Daughter And It Was A Nightmare.
I Found A Great Board On Line That Cares,supports And Helps Women That Go Through This, I Am Very Active On This Board If You Have The Time Look It Up It Is Very Helpful To See Others Feel And Understand What Your Daughter Is Going Through.
It Is Karen Kleiman Postpartum Board. You Can Ask As Many Questions As You Wish. I Hope This Helped If You Want To Find Me On The Board I Am Under Kissgenmom22. I Hope You Can See It.
God Bless You And Your Daughter Be Strong
Agk'swife
jackiehill1973
02-10-2006, 05:28 AM
I am sorry for your daughters loss, I lost my son aged 3 days old, there is nothing worse than loosing the hope or the want of a baby.
She is lucky to have you.
My love to your daughter
jackie :angel:
She is lucky to have you.
My love to your daughter
jackie :angel: