julie39180
02-15-2005, 07:01 PM
hello,
i have a 13 yr old that weighs 140 and is a very picky eater. he doent go outside much and mainly plays his video games and doesnt do any exercixes. he eats alot of junk food, nothing else. he wont try things and when he does he dont like them. he will not eat veg. or fruits. i cant make him eat what he dont wont to eat and i dont want to starve him either. i know his weight is really bothing him.
me and husband are both overweight. when i try to diet or watch what i eat, after about a week i give up. i have no will power. SO if i cant help myself, HOW DO I HELP MY CHILD????? I JUST DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO... any advise? anyone else going through this and if so what r u doing???
thnks,
julie
i have a 13 yr old that weighs 140 and is a very picky eater. he doent go outside much and mainly plays his video games and doesnt do any exercixes. he eats alot of junk food, nothing else. he wont try things and when he does he dont like them. he will not eat veg. or fruits. i cant make him eat what he dont wont to eat and i dont want to starve him either. i know his weight is really bothing him.
me and husband are both overweight. when i try to diet or watch what i eat, after about a week i give up. i have no will power. SO if i cant help myself, HOW DO I HELP MY CHILD????? I JUST DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO... any advise? anyone else going through this and if so what r u doing???
thnks,
julie
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joekerr30
02-15-2005, 09:45 PM
sounds like your child is mimicing the lifestyle you and your husband lead.
my advice would be to change how you and your husband approach your own health and he will also. That doesnt mean he'll catch on right away. But if a year from now you and your husband are trim and slim, and if he is bothered by being over weight, odds are he will say to himself 'hmmm, mom and dad did, i can do it also."
People only change when they have internal motivation to do so. I think the only thing you can do is be an inspiration to him so that he develops that internal motivation to change.
btw, if he's 13 where is he getting the money to buy all the junk that he's eating? I'm assuming you aren't buying it right? If you are buying it then its a little silly asking folks here how to help your kid lose weight - stop buying junk food!
J
my advice would be to change how you and your husband approach your own health and he will also. That doesnt mean he'll catch on right away. But if a year from now you and your husband are trim and slim, and if he is bothered by being over weight, odds are he will say to himself 'hmmm, mom and dad did, i can do it also."
People only change when they have internal motivation to do so. I think the only thing you can do is be an inspiration to him so that he develops that internal motivation to change.
btw, if he's 13 where is he getting the money to buy all the junk that he's eating? I'm assuming you aren't buying it right? If you are buying it then its a little silly asking folks here how to help your kid lose weight - stop buying junk food!
J
wendy67
02-16-2005, 08:54 AM
hello,
i have a 13 yr old that weighs 140 and is a very picky eater. he doent go outside much and mainly plays his video games and doesnt do any exercixes. he eats alot of junk food, nothing else. he wont try things and when he does he dont like them. he will not eat veg. or fruits. i cant make him eat what he dont wont to eat and i dont want to starve him either. i know his weight is really bothing him.
me and husband are both overweight. when i try to diet or watch what i eat, after about a week i give up. i have no will power. SO if i cant help myself, HOW DO I HELP MY CHILD????? I JUST DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO... any advise? anyone else going through this and if so what r u doing???
thnks,
julie
i have a 13 yr old that weighs 140 and is a very picky eater. he doent go outside much and mainly plays his video games and doesnt do any exercixes. he eats alot of junk food, nothing else. he wont try things and when he does he dont like them. he will not eat veg. or fruits. i cant make him eat what he dont wont to eat and i dont want to starve him either. i know his weight is really bothing him.
me and husband are both overweight. when i try to diet or watch what i eat, after about a week i give up. i have no will power. SO if i cant help myself, HOW DO I HELP MY CHILD????? I JUST DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO... any advise? anyone else going through this and if so what r u doing???
thnks,
julie
Annee
02-16-2005, 04:24 PM
I think that because he's 13, it would be wise to get specific information from your son's doctor. You wouldn't want to cut back on his calories too much, especially if he's entering a growth spurt. Find out how many calories he should be eating daily, and what his minimum nutritional needs are. My son was extremely picky when he was young, and his doctor told me that just one teaspoon of mixed vegetables a day would keep him going until he outgrew his pickiness. It did! :)
lindan
02-16-2005, 05:44 PM
Julie - I know exactly how you feel. My 14 year old son is over 210 lbs. He is tall (5'9") and has a large frame - but is probably 30-40 pounds overweight. It is not as easy as saying - "don't buy junk food." I have NO junk food in my house - ever! "De-junking" your kitchen is the first step but don't expect it to solve his weight problem. Teenagers are bombarded at every church event, school event, social gathering, etc with junk food. Have you ever heard of a teenagers' party with fruit & veggies instead pizza, cookies, chips and cokes??? It's just not realistic to expect him not to ever eat those things. My son has been educated about what is healthy for him but at 13-14, they see themselves are invincible in regard to their health. They really do not understand.
Also - adolescents are trying to become in control of their lives and are becoming more and more independent. They want to assert control over whatever part of their life they can and what they eat is one thing they can control.
I believe that the best thing is to get your son as active as possible. My son quit sports - that makes it much harder. (I try to get my husband to do active things with him - but that's another novel!) When he's at home, make sure his meals are healthy. You can't dictate what he eats when he's away from you so make sure you know he's getting nutritionally sound food at home.
I don't have the answer - I'm still struggling with how to deal with this issue myself. I've even resorted to offering $5 per pound lost to motivate my son. I've actually hoped a little peer pressure would help - he loves the girls - but girls like him and call him "teddy bear."
Good luck. By the way, it is ESSENTIAL that you and your husband get your own eating habits in order before you can do anything about your son.
Also - adolescents are trying to become in control of their lives and are becoming more and more independent. They want to assert control over whatever part of their life they can and what they eat is one thing they can control.
I believe that the best thing is to get your son as active as possible. My son quit sports - that makes it much harder. (I try to get my husband to do active things with him - but that's another novel!) When he's at home, make sure his meals are healthy. You can't dictate what he eats when he's away from you so make sure you know he's getting nutritionally sound food at home.
I don't have the answer - I'm still struggling with how to deal with this issue myself. I've even resorted to offering $5 per pound lost to motivate my son. I've actually hoped a little peer pressure would help - he loves the girls - but girls like him and call him "teddy bear."
Good luck. By the way, it is ESSENTIAL that you and your husband get your own eating habits in order before you can do anything about your son.
kewlgirl
02-17-2005, 09:15 AM
I would stop buying junk food to have in the house. If your son doesn't have access to the food in the first place, he can't eat it right? Good first step.
joekerr30
02-17-2005, 10:09 AM
I think it is worth noting that it's a very rare phenomena to find healthy weight parents with an obese child, you almost never see it. 9 times out of 10 if a child is obese so is one of the parents. This may be genetic, but odds are a lot of it is that the child is modelling the parents lifestyle choices.
Once you conquor the weight, I'm sure he will do so as well. Plus, in conquoring the weight yourself you'll learn all the various things needed to live a healthy lifestyle.
Good luck,
J
Once you conquor the weight, I'm sure he will do so as well. Plus, in conquoring the weight yourself you'll learn all the various things needed to live a healthy lifestyle.
Good luck,
J
jmkuhn
02-18-2005, 02:40 AM
I am 20 years old right now when I was in my pre teens to early teens my grandparents brought me to the doctor and he would always tell me I was a fat child and I needed to go into a hospital to get help that I was fat...and he pressured me and I became an emotion eater...I now weigh in at 280lbs and cant seem to get the right motivation/help/strength to do it. One things for sure, Im pretty darn miserable..But anyway, not to wing off the subject, hes a teenager, nowadays teenagers main thing is video games and junk food..try to put healthier foods into the house so he can make better choices, and also dont pressure him into trying new things, let it come at his own pace, i grew up being a fat kid and know and admit to why i am fat now..Food was my peace because everyone had something to say about me, but when I ate the food made me feel better...it was my way to feel better about the mean things that were said about me..I guess u can say I still am using food as my peace...I can't break the habit...140 at 13 for a boy isn't bad...I was 144 when I took my 4th grade santa pictures...can u imagine them shouting my weight across the room to the people writing the information down....in front of all my peers? Don't reward your son with food...its the worst thing u can do..I was rewarded...I would have rather been rewarded with being able to stay up an extra half hour or something..:(..sorry..ur cry for help made me want to tell a little and make my cry for help :(
justanothagirl
02-19-2005, 04:19 PM
hello,
i have a 13 yr old that weighs 140 and is a very picky eater. he doent go outside much and mainly plays his video games and doesnt do any exercixes. he eats alot of junk food, nothing else. he wont try things and when he does he dont like them. he will not eat veg. or fruits. i cant make him eat what he dont wont to eat and i dont want to starve him either. i know his weight is really bothing him.
me and husband are both overweight. when i try to diet or watch what i eat, after about a week i give up. i have no will power. SO if i cant help myself, HOW DO I HELP MY CHILD????? I JUST DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO... any advise? anyone else going through this and if so what r u doing???
thnks,
julieWow, you're a very good parent that you care about your child's health so much. My mom just let me eat whatever I wanted until I corrected myself... even now she's still buying me pies and cookies (I don't eat them).
Anyway, maybe you could try explaining to your son that if his weight is bothering him so much, he can do something about it! And if he doesn't like healthy foods, just convince him that healthy foods don't have to be nasty. Actually, I enjoy healthy foods a lot. I love to eat salmon with sweetsour or chilli sauce, I love healthy low-cal salads with no added oil or dressings but with only lemon juice and spices. It's delicious. There's tons of low-calorie desserts...Someone posted these low-calorie pancakes on here earlier.
I use 1oz quickrolled oats, half a banana, 1 or 2 egg whites and some lowfat milk (i think like 100 ml but no idea... just whatever feels right, if u put too little it gets very dry, if u put too much in it the pancakes wont become solid).
Just explain to him how this important this is for him and his further life, and if he continues this way it will affect his health very badly, and he will only gain weight.
There's only one way against this. That is discovering new, healthy and delicious foods. Doesn't he like strawberries and everything either? Grapefruit? I find it really delicous...
And don't deprive him from all the delicious snacks. But say if he eats nothing but snacks now, why not try limitting it to one snack a day... at first?
If you have any more questions or needed advice... I mean I'm not a nutritionist but I'm a teenager and know pretty much about the situation your son is in. Actually I started caring for what I'm eating when I was his age. Before that I ate so much junk. But then I saw the light lol... anyway good luck with your son. I think it's great what you're trying to do and there is a way. :) Keep us updated. ;)
i have a 13 yr old that weighs 140 and is a very picky eater. he doent go outside much and mainly plays his video games and doesnt do any exercixes. he eats alot of junk food, nothing else. he wont try things and when he does he dont like them. he will not eat veg. or fruits. i cant make him eat what he dont wont to eat and i dont want to starve him either. i know his weight is really bothing him.
me and husband are both overweight. when i try to diet or watch what i eat, after about a week i give up. i have no will power. SO if i cant help myself, HOW DO I HELP MY CHILD????? I JUST DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO... any advise? anyone else going through this and if so what r u doing???
thnks,
julieWow, you're a very good parent that you care about your child's health so much. My mom just let me eat whatever I wanted until I corrected myself... even now she's still buying me pies and cookies (I don't eat them).
Anyway, maybe you could try explaining to your son that if his weight is bothering him so much, he can do something about it! And if he doesn't like healthy foods, just convince him that healthy foods don't have to be nasty. Actually, I enjoy healthy foods a lot. I love to eat salmon with sweetsour or chilli sauce, I love healthy low-cal salads with no added oil or dressings but with only lemon juice and spices. It's delicious. There's tons of low-calorie desserts...Someone posted these low-calorie pancakes on here earlier.
I use 1oz quickrolled oats, half a banana, 1 or 2 egg whites and some lowfat milk (i think like 100 ml but no idea... just whatever feels right, if u put too little it gets very dry, if u put too much in it the pancakes wont become solid).
Just explain to him how this important this is for him and his further life, and if he continues this way it will affect his health very badly, and he will only gain weight.
There's only one way against this. That is discovering new, healthy and delicious foods. Doesn't he like strawberries and everything either? Grapefruit? I find it really delicous...
And don't deprive him from all the delicious snacks. But say if he eats nothing but snacks now, why not try limitting it to one snack a day... at first?
If you have any more questions or needed advice... I mean I'm not a nutritionist but I'm a teenager and know pretty much about the situation your son is in. Actually I started caring for what I'm eating when I was his age. Before that I ate so much junk. But then I saw the light lol... anyway good luck with your son. I think it's great what you're trying to do and there is a way. :) Keep us updated. ;)
justanothagirl
02-19-2005, 04:24 PM
sounds like your child is mimicing the lifestyle you and your husband lead.Well, maybe but not necessarily. My father has always been overweight and always eating extremely unhealthy and a lot. My mother doesn't eat very healthy either. My sister eats decently healthy but she doesn't mind eating chips and everything as well.
Basically, I'm the only one at home who started really eating healthy... I don't think I'm copying anybody's habits and so I'm just an example but just so you see... it doesn't have to be that way.
Basically, I'm the only one at home who started really eating healthy... I don't think I'm copying anybody's habits and so I'm just an example but just so you see... it doesn't have to be that way.