Hey everyone I am new here and have a question that is always on my mind but scared to tell. My husband who I have been with four almost five years, does not know I have an eating disorder. I want to tell him so much, but am scared he cant handle it. That his wonderful wife, whom he loves so much has this deep dark secret and am scared to let him know. Meanwhile I struggle so much with this thing. I dont know what to do for help. I hate meds and shrinks cant figure me out. So I pray alot for God to take away this disease in my body that I am destroying that he gave me. If anyone has some suggestions, please share with me. Thanks and God Bless. Lisa :angel:

o lisa! i am so glad u came here to these boards...these boards r a blessing! welcome!:wave: well, first of all, ill intorduce myself, i am Sammy (u can just call me sam) i am 14, i have been on these boards for quite sometime now. i have been bulimic for 2 years. haha if u read thru these posts, ull see my history and stuff quite a bit. haha lets just say im on here ALL the time lol. neways, my advice to u is to tell him. i mean, when i told my friends and my family it was a HUGE reliever and one big step to recovery. it would really hurt his feelings if he didnt find out. if he caught u, or starts getting suspicious, he may get concerned. i know it takes a lot of courage, but hes ur man and im shure he loves u to bits! id tell him!

u take care hun! i hope i helped!:)

SammYx0x0x

Hey Sammy, I have read a few of your forums and am I confused or you said you told your family but it seems like your mom does not know ro maybe I am misunderstanding. My mom knew and I seemed to have fooled her that I stopped but I am a grown woman so whether my mom knows or not does not really bother me, but my husband not knowing does. But he has never asked me either, I think if he did I would tell him cause I have never lied to him or least I dont I have. I have had this darn thing since I was in my 20's and have had 2 pregnancies with this thing. I cant remember if I did it with my first but I did it with my second and it was hard to try to keep my food down cause I was always hungry and I gained 60 pounds! Oh it was just awful. Anyways I am here for support but it will be hard to read this thing cause he is usually around and I hate to sneak it! :nono:

hey lisa, yes i told me mom and she is aware, but she isnt aware of the fact i sneak so much food into my room, eat it all, then throw it up. she knows i cant digest meals very well and i am cautious of what i eat. the whole binge and purge thing..she had no idea.

SammYx0x

I understand how you feel. I have a few friends and a guy that I'm currently talking to that know nothing about my ed and am scared to let them know about it. A lot of people think you're vain if you have an ed and that it's all about how you look but it isn't. Others just think that it's disgusting. So what do we do, we keep it to ourselves. I've currently relapsed and am afraid to let my sister know because she just doesn't understand that this will be a lifelong battle. I hope you can find a way to tell him because I can imagine that this is eating you up inside. Please keep us posted. :nono:

Hi Lisalynn
I feel for you! Its such a hard thing to hide such a big part of your life from someone that is such a big part of your life! I wish it was easier...

With my current b/f, I told him right up front... he was so supportive and felt so special that I shared that with him. I understand, though, that you have been hiding this for a while, and every day that passes makes it that much harder. But I think you really need to tell him... at least for yourself. Dealing with this alone makes it very hard... if you had his support and were relieved of the pressure/stress that you're putting on yourself by hiding this from him... I think it would make things alot easier for you.

Its sounds like you guys are very much in love, and if that's the case, I'm sure he'd be more supportive than anything. The thing is, your ed is a part of you (as much as we dont like it), it is. I know it'll be hard... maybe you can make an appointment with a doc/counsellor and go in together and tell him there. Maybe to take some of the pressure off yourself. And the doc or counsellor could maybe help him understand it. I think one thing you'd have to be careful of, especially since you've been together for so long, is that he knows that it isnt because of him (assuming, of course, that it isnt). I know its hard & embarrassing, but the way I see it... my b/f is the most important person in my life... to hide something like that from him would make me feel even worse, and make my ed worse.

I think you need to tell him for YOU!

Take care of yourself, and keep me posted!
Love Becky

I second what becky said!!:) lol.