rosycheeks
02-21-2005, 09:06 AM
I posted a few days ago about slight cramping and a brownish discharge.Well, it lasted about a week, and then stopped last night. I finally breathed a sigh of relif. But when I woke up this morning, I have begun heavy bright red bleeding.
I lost it. I'm only 6 wks.
I am trying to get an appt with ob this am when they open. I know there are a whole lot of you who have had miscarriages. But I'm so worried this will happen again. It was my first pregnacy, I don't drink, smoke, or anything unhealthy. I was on prenatal vitamins for the past 4 months. I thought I was doing everything perfect. I just can't imagine what went wrong. How do you get over this? I just don't think i can do it. It hurts so bad.
I lost it. I'm only 6 wks.
I am trying to get an appt with ob this am when they open. I know there are a whole lot of you who have had miscarriages. But I'm so worried this will happen again. It was my first pregnacy, I don't drink, smoke, or anything unhealthy. I was on prenatal vitamins for the past 4 months. I thought I was doing everything perfect. I just can't imagine what went wrong. How do you get over this? I just don't think i can do it. It hurts so bad.
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Kistal
02-21-2005, 09:18 AM
I know it is hard now but trust me it does get easier. A lot of people eved DH's and SO's dont really understand what a woman goes through after a loss like this. Just remember that your little one is in a better place than they could have ever been in this world, they are in heaven! :angel: I lost a baby in December and it was very hard. My doctor told me that it is normal to have a miscarriage and that it is NOT your fault. He said that sometimes there is something wrong with the baby like as far as their genetic make up. Just trust me it will get better. Try and find comfort in the fact that you are not alone.
mommaboyz
02-21-2005, 10:23 AM
Im so sorry you have to go through this. What a horriable thing for you. I hope you can get some peace and try again without any complications.
wyliemom
02-21-2005, 10:56 AM
I know that you feel like your to blame. But dont, these things happen sometimes and there isnt an explanation. Ive had a miscarriage before and Im now preg with my third baby. SO you can rest assured that you will be able to have a baby too. Im sorry for your pain. I hope that you are ok and you can always talk to us here on the board.
tallgirl1982
02-21-2005, 01:20 PM
I am so sorry to hear that, 3 people i know have had miscarriages with their first pregnancy. And when they tried again they all had a healthy baby with no problems, 1 of them is having her 3rd soon! they all tried again very soon after it happened too.
I can only imagaine how much it hurts but time will heal that and you will have another chance and it will happen and you will be happy! :angel:
I can only imagaine how much it hurts but time will heal that and you will have another chance and it will happen and you will be happy! :angel:
hillaryb
02-21-2005, 01:37 PM
My very first pregnancy resulted in an early miscarriage. I later heard that this may be attributed to the body not being "ready" for the pregnancy, or not quite "getting" it because it is the very first time. For some strange reason, this makes sense to me. Plus, tons of people that I know lost their very first pregnancies, some were so newly pregnant they at first though they were having heavy periods.
I know how it feels, but try not to worry too much. Most of the time you can conceive and have a successful pregnancy quite easily after miscarriage. I will be praying that happens for you. It was not your fault. Dont blame yourself. You couldnt have prevented it and you couldnt have caused it--I know it doesnt help much but we really dont have control over these things. That said, Good luck to you! Everyone who wants a child deserves to have one. By the way, I have 2 children now--no problems having them whatsoever. :angel:
I know how it feels, but try not to worry too much. Most of the time you can conceive and have a successful pregnancy quite easily after miscarriage. I will be praying that happens for you. It was not your fault. Dont blame yourself. You couldnt have prevented it and you couldnt have caused it--I know it doesnt help much but we really dont have control over these things. That said, Good luck to you! Everyone who wants a child deserves to have one. By the way, I have 2 children now--no problems having them whatsoever. :angel:
Frynd1
02-21-2005, 04:13 PM
If it makes you feel any better, I had a miscarriage with my first and am now 7 months pregnant. I did some research on the internet about miscarriages and statistics and I found that if you are healthy, your chances actually decrease for having a second one. Goodluck. There's basically no way to prevent one if it happens and yes, many of us have had to endure this. To be honest with you, time doesn't actually make it better, but you do learn to move on. God bless.
hope5756
02-21-2005, 04:21 PM
Im so sorry to hear of your loss... i have been in your shoes 2 times so far... and its very had to get over... my best friend and i both got prego at the same time and we both had miscarrages 2 days apart... she tried again after 2 months, and i tried a bit later... she had a healthy baby girl, and i fell short once again, but i have never gave up hope even though i can seem to get pregnate again... i beleave it will happen for you... just dont give up hope...
rosycheeks
02-22-2005, 01:24 PM
Thank you so much for your responses. You have no idea how much it means to me to be able to talk with those who have been there. It's so hard because I have wanted to be mama for so long. Everyone I know gets pregnant when they want and pops out a baby with no problem.
I am just so so worried it will happen again. Does this feeling subside? Did you guys worry 10x more with your 2nd pregnancy? Makes me not want to take a test until I am 3 months late. (I will continue to take prenatal vitamins just in case....that's okay, right?) Thank God for you all.
Kari
I am just so so worried it will happen again. Does this feeling subside? Did you guys worry 10x more with your 2nd pregnancy? Makes me not want to take a test until I am 3 months late. (I will continue to take prenatal vitamins just in case....that's okay, right?) Thank God for you all.
Kari