i jsut needed to vent a little.. i wont drag on just give the main point..

My sister works at a restaruant and the owner knows that im her younger sister and she wants me to apply for a job there.. now usually i could jsut turn it down, but my family like my mom and dad and sister are already all wanting to get this job and have been talking about for a while.. I would be bussing tables and then waitressing later on and im absolutely terrified.. Im pretty good with people usually but my biggest fear is disappointing people or messing up when im counted on and thats why i hate school and anything else like that.. so i know if i apply for it and get it that ill be going crazy with nervousness and i dont want to put another thing on me that will me worry.. (how do i know this will happen? well because i tried out for the school play and regret it because im terrified, when im asked to sing the nat. anthem for school i freak out yet for some reason i still agree to these things. and usually in the end im happy i did them but thats not enough to kill the anxiety) Im sick of worrying over everything and this is just something else to add to the list.. and i dont know what to do.. ill be mad at myself if i dont apply but at the same time be totally miserable if i do.

That turned out to be longer than i wanted it to be but oh well.. thanks for reading - Nae Nae

Hey,

You said it yourself that you're always glad you've done stuff afterwards. Which means that you DIDN'T FAIL, you DIDN'T let anyone down and you DID DO WELL!

EVERYONE makes mistakes! EVERYONE! So even if you accidentally chuck a plate of food in someone's lap, it's no biggie. Just an accident.

You are just as capable as anyone else. Just take things in your stride.

Don't try to rush on your first day. You might feel like you need to get everything done as quickly as possible to impress them or keep them happy but DON'T! Do things at a pace you feel comfortable with and are sure you know what's going on. Then when you get more comfortable with the job, you can start to speed up a bit.

It's much better to have a table waiting an extra 5 mins for their food, than getting in a muddle and all stressed out.

If there's anything you're unsure of, don't be afraid to ask, two or three times if you have to to be sure.

It sounds like you already know it yourself, but you'll be so happy when you realise that you're actually really good at your job. Just remember that the people that you work for and serve are only human themselves. I'm sure you'd do great.

Go for it gal!!! :bouncing:

Thank you so much for replying! i had a horrible day at school today and reading what you wrote just made me cry because you made me feel really good about myself. thanks again so much im going to remember everything you told me =)

:) :) I'm really glad I helped. Hope it all goes well for you.. X :) :)