My best friend's mother was diagnosed with breast cancer. I don't know the complete details, but apparently, surgery removed the cancer entirely. She's cancer free. but she's going through chemotherapy (as doctor's precaution)...and my friend does not know what to do. It's a long story, but right now, my friend is the only caretaker. The entire family (who is not bothering to come and pitch in) is pressuring my friend to stay by her side, but my friend has to work. When she gets home, it's a high stress situation. Her mom is experiencing panic attacks and will not get out of her bed. She refuses to eat healthily and just does not want to be alone (she will not go to the bathroom by herself). I understand what a traumatic event this is, but does anyone have any advice? My friend has suggested getting a home nurse, but her mom refuses. It's as if my friend is a prisoner in her own home. I know what it's like to lose a parent to cancer, but her mom is being impossible. Is there anyone that can give insight to this or perhaps have suggestions on how they dealt with caretaking of someone going through this kind of situation? (i hope that this doesn't come of as extremely selfish...)

Thanks in advance.