Hi there :wave:
This last month I've been trying to recover (I'm bulimic), and I’ve been avoiding social gatherings which involve food, so that I can stick to my meal plan and feel settled and less afraid of food. But this weekend is my friend’s birthday and she’s having a gathering with friends, so I’m going to hers for the weekend. I’m starting to feel so scared though :(, as for the first time since trying to recover I’m not going to be in control of when and what I’ll be eating. I’m scared that I could give in to eating junk food (I’m sure there will be plenty around knowing her!) that could lead me into bingeing and mess up this last month where I’ve been doing really well :confused: . What should I do girlies to stay safe, and not feel so stressed about it? Any suggestions would be really appreciated! Thanks ;)

I know what you are going through! It is sooo great that you are making an effort to get better! For me, sometimes a little education can be reassuring...it makes things not as bad as we make them out to be. This thought helps me: Keep in mind that you need an EXCESS of 3600 calories to gain just one pound...that is ON TOP of the +/-1200 you burn naturally throughout the day(and if you active at all it will be more), so you need to eat around 5,000 calories in one day just to gain one pound.... thats a lot of food!

So when you go to this party, eat something healthy before hand and drink lots of water, so when you get there you arent starving and are load up on ice cream and brownies instead...Just focus on portions, eat what looks good, but set limits for yourself before you get there, or at least before you start eating. Anticipate what kind of situations could arise: Like, if pizza is ordered, tell yourself how many slices you will be OK with... And if you break your limit a little, it really is NO BIGGIE. Everyone needs to enjoy a celebration every once and awhile!! :) One night of some skittles and doritos will not change anything, just tell yourself that, and know that tomorrow you will be back into the swing of things with your own diet.

let me know how everything goes! be strong, and have fun!

Also, i learned that its not weird to bring a healthy snack that you would feel comfortable munching on at the party... a vegatable tray, fruit, baby carrots ect. Let us knwo how it turns out we are here for you!!
liza

exactly! wow girls. u give off great advice!! i mean, i am on the same boat. i am trying to recover but i wanna gain weight the healthy way. no junk food. so yah, id bring sum goodeis for u to enjoy! it wont be weird, ppl have their differences in tastes in food!

Thanks so much for your advice, you guys are great :D I'm going up to my friend's house this evening and staying there until sunday. This is a BIG challenge for me, 3 days away from home and not being fully in control of what food I'll be eating. Your advice was really helpful and I think I'll take something with me for tonight. Thanks so much for your support and encouragement, it means the world to me!! I'll let you know how it went when I come back. I'll miss you guys, I so love coming on this board, it helps me so much in my recovery to read all the posts and know that I am not going through this alone.
Thanks to you all ;)
Ciao :wave:

o u can do it!! i went 3 days with food no bignes and i feel great! if u do the same. and just eat healthy and do whats good and healthy for u, u will feel and looks ur best!:)

I had to eat meals over the past three days of this weekend. Now I feel like complete crap. I haven't felt this badly physically or mentally in months. This weekend just made me not want to eat more than ever. Any thoughts of wanting to get better, even the slightest bit are wiped away. If this is what eating feels like I'd rather be hungry.

Ugh i so know what you mean... why cant we just feel normal after we eat something!!!

Hey guys, I'm back :) . Well the weekend went ok despite being a bit stressful. I managed to get away with just saying I had given up on junk food to be more healthy and that way no one got suspicious when I didn't eat all the chocolate, pizza and crisps that were being passed around. I made myself some pasta. It was a bit awkward eating different from anyone else cos it meant I got loads of comments which I hate and make me feel really nervous. But overall I feel proud of myself for putting myself through this and managing ok. Now I can try and get back into my daily routine pfew! Thanks again for all your advice and support, it really helped me to stay strong, I love you guys :D !
Take care :wave:

hey hey purplecat!! i am so glad things worked out for yah! glad 2 hear!:)