Hello my name is Steve. I'm kinda new to this and lost at the same time. I don't have anyone I can talk to around me so I'll start by telling you about my situation.

I have just recently been diagnosed with ADD and I am 20 years old. I take Straterra and it has helped me alot in school. The main thing I want to say is that I am feeling worthless lately. I'm very tired and bored and nothing interesting ever happens. I recently fell in love with an amazing girl. She means the world to me and we have been together for about 6 months. There are many things that she is dealing with. She is a recovering anorexic and she did major damage to her vital organs. Her heart is failing and it is evident. I walked in her house one day and found her collapsed on the floor, passed out. I helped her out, and she was fine, but she often tells me about how these spells happen to her. She recently told me that the left side of her heart is failing and that she only has a limited time left to live. This of course devistates me, and a feeling of helplessness looms in me like a dark cloud of rain over a city. I have never loved anyone, she is the first person I have beared my soul to. She is pretty much giving up and seeing her like this makes me feel so empty. I'm not sure how much time she has left, but I will be with her until the end and forever after that. She is the only person who has ever made me feel whole and I feel like I am losing a part of myself.

I don't know what to do. the situation is collapsing me, my heart and hers at the same time. Anyway, I just needed to vent, so if anyone wants to respond, I would greatly appreciate it.
Thanks
-Steve

o steve. thats horrible. i am so sorry to hear that! i really does break my heart:( i really dont know what to say. i mean. ouch. did u take her to the doc? theres gotta be a way for her to be better. u must stay strong and dont give up hope! life has its ups and downs, and this is definatly a down, but it will go rite back up i promise! if she is in recovery, i give her thumbs up for that! its not easy to be in recovery. im no doctor, but really, id just go to the doc. u prolly already done that, but...i just dont know what to say. i really wish i could help! please, keep us posted!

all my love and support is with u guys! and no matter how bad it gets, things'll always get bettr!

KeeP ur head Up!:)
SaMmyx0x0x

Hi Steve,
I'm so sorry about your situation! :( I couldn't imagine how painful it would be to lose the love of my life. Seriously, in her condition, she should be in a hospital. Does she go to a dr on a regular basis? Is she seeing a therapist? If not, she really needs help now!!! Please Take Care!
~Nova

Hi Steve

I can only imagine what it must be like to be on the other side of anorexia, watching someone you love go through it. The fact that she is in recovery is a great sign as it means she won't be doing further damage to her body, but as you're finding she probably has semi-permanent or permanent damage to her body. I'm presuming that her anorexia must've been quite severe for her to have a weak heart? Can you tell us a bit more about her, ie is she still engaging in anoretic behaviour, or is she eating well? Does she see a therapist/ED specialist/doctor regularly? Anorexia can do a lot of damage to your body but a lot of it is repairable as long as you begin to treat your body with respect. If she's eating well and looking after herself now then it may be that her heart will get stronger.

I think in this situation the most important thing is that you're there for her. It seems like you love her very, very much - in fact you remind me of me and my boyfriend :) I'm also in recovery for anorexia and my boyfriend is the only reason I am still here. It's amazing what love and support can do for anoretics...I expect that you mean an awful lot to your girlfriend. But there is only so much you can do for her yourself, you can't treat her professionally or be a doctor to her, and if things are as serious as they sound then professional intervention is the best thing I can suggest.

I am so, so sorry that you are having to go through this. I can't imagine the pain you must be feeling at the thought of losing her. You have to make her see that if she eats well, takes care of herself and keeps regular appointments with doctors or an eating disorder specialist, she can get better. She may never have ful health but she can get better.

I don't know what else to say except that it's important she stays in recovery. At this stage, her body may not cope with a relapse. Ensure that she eats properly, talk to her about how she's feeling and make sure there is professional intervention where it's needed. There are eating disorder units where she may be able to go and where she will be looked after 24/7. And PLEASE don't feel worthless - it sounds as though you have a really special relationship with your girlfriend and your love and support is probably keeping her going.

Please ask more questions if you need to, we're here to help you :wave:
J*L xxx