I have always been told that a woman's cervix hurts if directly stimulated. However, I've noticed that my gf seems to like it when I gently (very gently) rub her cervix with my finger when I'm giving her oral sex. Is this common in women and how far can I go with it? Does this area get MORE sensitive as orgasm approaches? Should I rub harder? I'm so confused! As she approaches orgasm I feel like I'm just making wild stabs in the dark all inside her vagina just to find a part that feels good for her. Seems she likes stimulation on the front wall of her vagina -- where there is a little rough spot. Also her cervix seems to be a good spot - but maybe not always. Then there is a little rotating trick I do with my finger -- and sometimes that works like a rocket -- while other times it doesn't seem to do much. I wish I could feel what she's feeling -- I would probably be much better at this. However, even though she has a couple of "majic spots" -- they're only majic with JUST THE RIGHT amount of pressure applied. Too little -- nothing. Too much -- pain. And the pressure required seems to vary as she gets more and more aroused so this is all a moving target!!!

The cervix isn't sensitive to stimulation *at all* and i don't believe that stimulating the cervix specifically would make your lady feel very good. If anything, your attempt to stimulate her deeply may be affecting her g-spot.

I have always been told that a woman's cervix hurts if directly stimulated. However, I've noticed that my gf seems to like it when I gently (very gently) rub her cervix with my finger when I'm giving her oral sex. Is this common in women and how far can I go with it? Does this area get MORE sensitive as orgasm approaches? Should I rub harder? I'm so confused! As she approaches orgasm I feel like I'm just making wild stabs in the dark all inside her vagina just to find a part that feels good for her. Seems she likes stimulation on the front wall of her vagina -- where there is a little rough spot. Also her cervix seems to be a good spot - but maybe not always. Then there is a little rotating trick I do with my finger -- and sometimes that works like a rocket -- while other times it doesn't seem to do much. I wish I could feel what she's feeling -- I would probably be much better at this. However, even though she has a couple of "majic spots" -- they're only majic with JUST THE RIGHT amount of pressure applied. Too little -- nothing. Too much -- pain. And the pressure required seems to vary as she gets more and more aroused so this is all a moving target!!!


I think that you're confusing the cervix and the clitoris. It would be very difficult to massage her cervix, considering it's at the base of the uterus. The clitoris is the small button-like feature at the top of the vaginal lips. Make sure you know which one you're talking about.

It is not very difficult at all to massage the cervix from the inside of the vagina, since a typical female vagina is only eight to ten centimeters long, with the cervix being a protruding structure.

The rough spot you're feeling is probably her G-Spot. Good work! :D

I personally like cervical stimulation, and deep penetration, but you're right when you say too much pressure = pain, which is a lot of the basis for the "Size doesn't matter" argument -- large penises = more cervical pressure which can equal pain.

According to gynaecological textbooks, the cervix actually theoretically has no pain receptors (which is why a pap smear is not supposed to hurt,) though I will admit to having felt a twinge in there once or twice. I find if you rub on it like you're playing eskimo kisses with your finger, just bumping back and forth, instead of pressing, tends to ensure you don't get too much pressure. Though keep your fingernails trimmed for this, since scratches in there hurt.

Also, since it's kind of cone-shaped, sometimes rubbing it root to tip helps keep maximum stimulation for minimal pressure and pain.

No, rubbing it harder is not a good idea, and I have not noticed that it gets more sensitive with handling, rather, the opposite can be true.

All I can say bout this is...you must have an awfully long finger???

8-10cm is not that deep. And if she positions herself in a certain way (usually bent forward,) it pushes the cervix closer to the front of the vagina, making it easier to reach. 10 cm is a little less than 4 inches. 8 cm is a little more than 3 inches.

No you dont need a long finger... my uterus is 'tilted' (at least this is what the gyne has told me) and mine is apparently closer to the vaginal opening than most women.

I am pretty sure also that the cervix doesnt really feel anything. However, the front wall you referred to, the ridged or bumped spot, definitely is a good spot :) I read somewhere one time that the clitoris is actually something like nine inches long, and that when you are rubbing that ribbed/ridged/bumpy spot that you referred to as the front wall that you are actually stimulating the clitoris further up inside the body.

Good for you for trying to please your woman:)

Wow, I'm a woman and had no idea that some women's cervixes are close enough to touch! Mine must be very far back b/c I've never felt it and my b/f says he rarely hits my cervix and he's 8.5 inches. Hmmm... learn something new everyday.

Oh yeah, and I've had a biopsy done on my cervix and it DEFINITELY hurt ALOT. There must be at least some pain receptors there.

My cervix seems to be fairly low so it often hurts during sex, I was wondering (even though this is a bit off topic) During sex does your cervix go to one side. Like i can feel my cervix but then my vagina feels like its stretched up one side where his penis was. Like when your inserting a tampon your meant to put it either side of your cervix so does that mean that that part of your vagina stretches during sex. My cervix hardly ever goes very far up in my vagina is this normal??? Ive seen so many different pictures of what a cervix is meant to look like and in some of them it looks impossible for this to happen.

I've never purposely shoved it to one side but sometimes I will manipulate my pelvis so my rather-large boyfriend can get in a position where he is not bumping it head on but rather glancing it down one side (since as mentioned before lots of stimulation can be painful.)

I don't know what to say about him having never touched your cervix, tictac, other than that perhaps he didn't know what he was feeling for? Since speculums only come in so long, and eight and a half inches is far longer than the longest speculum, and your gyno seems to have no trouble finding it...