My gran died over 7 months ago and i STILL can't get ova it. some days i just wana cry my eyes and and yearn to be hugged. i'm only 15 and we were quite close. i don't feel i can talk to my friend bout it n e more or they'll think i'm obsessed with it and am boring. why aren't i over it yet?

We don't really "get over it"... it just gets easier. You need to remember that she would not want you to be sad. She would want for you to get on with living. You will never forget the love she gave you and that is only right. Remember the good times. Life really is short and if you believe in heaven you know she is happy and in good hands.

Believe me it will get easier, I promise!

Another Gran :angel:

thanks so much!!

thats how i feel im like c rying right now ...my nana died in dec. and it sucks really bad bc we were very close and i miss her so much. i think im becoming clynically depressed... idk i am always like sad not when im w/ my friends though, like when im at home (im at college right now) but like when i see people that remind me of her and songs and stuff . idk what to do. i cry all the time. :(

No. Everyone grieves in their own unique way. I've lost alot of people that i've loved in my life, and I don't think I will ever get over it. To me, the longer a person grieves, just shows how much they really did love that person, and misses them. Give yourself the rest of your life if you need to, and don't let ANYONE tell you that you should be over it. :)

I agree that everyone grieves in their own way. I ljust lost my younger brother and I celebrate his life. He was schizophrenic and he had a sad life so I think of him in Heavan and happy at last. It is what gets me through it all. Do whatever you have to do to get through it and do not let anyone tell you when to get over it. When you love someone and they are gone, you never really get OVER it, you just learn to deal with it the best way you can. I wish you PEACE......Kahlia

My gran died over 7 months ago and i STILL can't get ova it. some days i just wana cry my eyes and and yearn to be hugged. i'm only 15 and we were quite close. i don't feel i can talk to my friend bout it n e more or they'll think i'm obsessed with it and am boring. why aren't i over it yet?
Most people get over grief within 4-6months. Those that don't and remain persistently, debilitatingly sad, are clinically depressed. Pretty much all such people fall out of the depressive episode within 8 months. Diagnosis and treatment can accelerate that to 6 weeks.

Answer to your question is yes you should be over it in terms of day to day sadness over the loss and the general effectives of overwhelming melancholy. Of course that's not to say, you should have forgotten about it or it should have had no effect. If you're not, the next question is how much does it affect you? Does it affect your work, relationships and/or social life negatively? If yes, you should consider help for depression. If not, just try and cope with it - it is guaranteed to leave you eventually, at most within a year from now. Good luck.

I'm at a loss as to why you think you should be 'over' it in seven months! Of course you're not. You may never get 'over' it, you will learn to deal with it. My dad died four years ago and I'm no where near getting over it and you know what, I don't even expect to. I've found it easier to live with the pain as something that I will carry round with me for many years to come, perhaps for the rest of my life. But that doesn't stop me having a life. The first year was hell and now it's manageable, keep the faith, it will be manageable for you too.