beanie_1122
03-19-2005, 01:20 AM
Just curious how many women out there are planning on trying again soon!?
This was my 2nd miscarriage...Had my 1st miscarriage on 12-17-98 had a healthy son on 11-22-99 and suffered another miscarriage on 12-15-04. Had testing done and discovered why I miscarried (folic acid defiency). I can not try to conceive again for another 2 months since I'm on RX folic acid pills and I need to build up folic acid in my system. I can start tryin again on May 16th and right now I'm still so scared to even try! Maybe once May 16th gets here I'll be ready, but who knows! Anyone else scared to try again? Or has anyone been in this situation, but overcame their fears?...If so how did you make it easier on yourself? Thanks!!!!
This was my 2nd miscarriage...Had my 1st miscarriage on 12-17-98 had a healthy son on 11-22-99 and suffered another miscarriage on 12-15-04. Had testing done and discovered why I miscarried (folic acid defiency). I can not try to conceive again for another 2 months since I'm on RX folic acid pills and I need to build up folic acid in my system. I can start tryin again on May 16th and right now I'm still so scared to even try! Maybe once May 16th gets here I'll be ready, but who knows! Anyone else scared to try again? Or has anyone been in this situation, but overcame their fears?...If so how did you make it easier on yourself? Thanks!!!!
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off kilter
03-19-2005, 08:38 AM
I lost 2 babies in a row but felt a need to try as soon as possible because I was a few months shy of turning 40 and new my time was running out. my Dr. said I could resume trying 6 weeks after the miscarrige. I also started on thyroid suppliments because they found I had hypothyroid which can cause miscarriages. I got pregnant right away and my Dr. was supper about helping me deal with my fear. I had vaginal ultrasounds every few weeks till you could get the heartbest on dopler just to make sure I didn't worry as much about losing the baby. although it was hard not knowing inbetween. Go with your heart.
tamaraheiner
03-21-2005, 12:08 PM
I have felt the same terrible fear that i will miscarry again. but just yesterday a friend told me, "there is no joy w/out risk" and i took that to heart. There is a risk in getting pregnant again, but the same risk exists two months from now, six months from now, five years from now. i won't wait forever. my husband and i decided to take the plunge and just see what happens. we trust the Lord and believe that eventually it will work out. if i need special medication or something, we want to find out now rather than later.
Hoping76
04-22-2005, 12:51 AM
I just miscarried my son, whom I was 15 wks. pregnant with. To me, it was more like premature labor because I literally was in labor with and gave birth to him. He was so tiny, and I was so afraid to even think of having sex. After talking with my fiance and telling him all my fears, we've decided to try again when we get the ok from my doctor. This doctor seems wonderful. He said when we do conceive again, he'll do ultrasounds and all the testing we need. If there's a problem, he'll try to fix it so we can have another child. He's still testing the baby and my placenta, and will test me for things when my hcg level goes back to 0. I'm still afraid of going through this again, but now we know the symptoms and can get to the ER before I go through the trauma of giving birth alone on my toliet. My fiance believes that God will help us though this, and has a plan for us. I believe that too, even though it's very hard right now.
brixylake
04-23-2005, 03:24 PM
After 3 days of cramping and bleeding and finally having the D&C just yesterday I am not so sure I want to try again right away. Originally I was sure I wanted to try as soon as we can. I know that my chances of a healthy pregnancy are good next time, I just can't imagine going through this again. I was 10 weeks, it was our first. It has been harder than either of us ever expected. DH is taking it especially hard. I have to trust something must've been really wrong for the baby not to make it. I have a good relationship with God and I just pray for Him to lead me in the right direction. I'm pretty sure we will try again soon. My doctor suggested waiting at least 2-3 cycles. Good luck to you all hope we can chat on the pregnancy boards soon....
ASDGRMama
04-23-2005, 06:04 PM
I just had my third miscarriage in a row (I've had two previous losses but I conceived immediatly after each one and had a healthy pregnancy). My OB hasn't done any testing yet but my regular doctor said that my FT4 levels are low normal (I have a strong family history of hypothyroidism) so we're doing a trial run of thyroid hormones to see if that'll help (I have other symptoms besides miscarrying).
I'm really hoping for August or September. I think that if I didn't have other things going on I would try right away.
Love and Prayers, Kelly
I'm really hoping for August or September. I think that if I didn't have other things going on I would try right away.
Love and Prayers, Kelly
brixylake
04-23-2005, 08:18 PM
My birthday is August 29th, I'm hoping to be pregnant by then. I figure that's a fair amount of time to wait.
Cupcake3
05-18-2005, 12:46 PM
Hi All,
I miscarried on 4/25 was 13 weeks, was about to have an Amniocentisis (sp). Had really bad cramping and contractions. Had an emergency D&C on 4/27. The bleeding and cramping has finally stopped as of 5/16. I am feeling better but the thoughts of Why? did this happen to me won't go away. It is hard to see folks who have little bumps and I cannot help think that is how I should look.... I was really looking forward to my first as it was a surprise pregnancy.
Well, I am 36 will be 37 in August, BF is 48. I want to try again but am very terrified right about now. I think I will try in the new year.
This was very scary and really leaves a scar on you for sometime...
best of health to everyone......
I miscarried on 4/25 was 13 weeks, was about to have an Amniocentisis (sp). Had really bad cramping and contractions. Had an emergency D&C on 4/27. The bleeding and cramping has finally stopped as of 5/16. I am feeling better but the thoughts of Why? did this happen to me won't go away. It is hard to see folks who have little bumps and I cannot help think that is how I should look.... I was really looking forward to my first as it was a surprise pregnancy.
Well, I am 36 will be 37 in August, BF is 48. I want to try again but am very terrified right about now. I think I will try in the new year.
This was very scary and really leaves a scar on you for sometime...
best of health to everyone......
Hope2Heal
05-18-2005, 10:44 PM
HI everyone
I am planning on trying again in September. Then it will be 8 months since my C-section, 6 months is recommended. I still haven't had a normal period, I did take a progesterone supplement last month to stimulate it to come and it did. But I am waiting to see if it comes on its own next time. I am mentally ready now. The minute I was told my precious baby had died, I was ready to try again. I know I am ready to be a mother, I am in my 30s. I have a closet full of baby clothes and blankets and other things due to the 2 showers I had. The crib and other furniture is ready. My empty arms are ready to hold a live healthy baby. I am willing to take the risk and looking forward to the happiness of being pregnant again. IT was the best 8 months of my life. Wish you all the best.
H2H
I am planning on trying again in September. Then it will be 8 months since my C-section, 6 months is recommended. I still haven't had a normal period, I did take a progesterone supplement last month to stimulate it to come and it did. But I am waiting to see if it comes on its own next time. I am mentally ready now. The minute I was told my precious baby had died, I was ready to try again. I know I am ready to be a mother, I am in my 30s. I have a closet full of baby clothes and blankets and other things due to the 2 showers I had. The crib and other furniture is ready. My empty arms are ready to hold a live healthy baby. I am willing to take the risk and looking forward to the happiness of being pregnant again. IT was the best 8 months of my life. Wish you all the best.
H2H
mag083003
05-27-2005, 08:50 PM
I delivered my twins on May 7, 2005 at 21 1/2 weeks. I too went through labor and delivered vaginally. They each weighed 1 lb and did not survive. My heart is broken and I miss being pregnant (while I was pregnant, I HATED it - swore that I was done after the twins were born - that I would NEVER be pregnant again). Anyways, we want to try ASAP - my doctor said she would like my to get 2 normal periods. I don't want to wait that long, however I'm still bleeding from delivery (I also had a DNC right after delivery). I wish I would get my period so that we could try again. :angel:
Jordyn
05-28-2005, 09:07 AM
I am currently recovering from what we think was a very early miscarriage or chemical pregnancy as I am reading about...(though I am very confused and would love replies to my post 'Miscarriage or Very Late Period).
Because I dont' know exactly what went on I am not sure if I can start trying as soon as I see signs of ovulation or if I have to wait for my next cycle. I think I will probably start trying right away and hope for the best. We have a son who is 2 and had no problems at all getting pregnant or during the pregnancy although delivery was a nightmare.
I live in Canada and have a year of maternity leave paid by the governent (at a much reduced rate of pay). I had wanted to time this baby to have the best effect on this program (I get laid off from my job 3 times a year anyway) and that is now not going to work as well. I can only pray that God will bless at the best time and help us to understand what is happening.
Good luck to you all!!!
Because I dont' know exactly what went on I am not sure if I can start trying as soon as I see signs of ovulation or if I have to wait for my next cycle. I think I will probably start trying right away and hope for the best. We have a son who is 2 and had no problems at all getting pregnant or during the pregnancy although delivery was a nightmare.
I live in Canada and have a year of maternity leave paid by the governent (at a much reduced rate of pay). I had wanted to time this baby to have the best effect on this program (I get laid off from my job 3 times a year anyway) and that is now not going to work as well. I can only pray that God will bless at the best time and help us to understand what is happening.
Good luck to you all!!!
Livie
05-28-2005, 12:44 PM
I had a m/c on April 18 last year & I was pregnant again in May, then my baby was stillborn at 37wks. And now it's been 17wks & I have had two periods, I feel my body has healed from the c-section & I hope to get pregnant this week. (I should be ovulating this week) I think if you and your other half feel it's right for you then you should do it. You've been on the folic acid pills & it's almost June, has your dr tested your folic acid levels (can they do such a test?) I hope everything goes right for you and I will keep you in my prayers. Let me know when you get pregnant. God bless you!
Jordyn
05-30-2005, 06:35 PM
My doctor confirmed today that she does believe I had a miscarriage last week (but I was only 3-3.5 weeks pregnant and won't likely need a D&C) and is sending me for an ultrasound on Friday to make sure that all is well. She is recommending that we wait a couple of months before trying again. I really don't want to wait too long but then again I don't want to go through this again or have a pregnancy full of trouble either.
Anyone have any thoughts, stories, advice on this one???
Anyone have any thoughts, stories, advice on this one???
beanie_1122
05-30-2005, 07:48 PM
She is recommending that we wait a couple of months before trying again. I really don't want to wait too long but then again I don't want to go through this again or have a pregnancy full of trouble either.
Anyone have any thoughts, stories, advice on this one???
I would follow your doctors orders! You don't wanna rush your body into something its not ready to handle yet! Good Luck with everything!
Anyone have any thoughts, stories, advice on this one???
I would follow your doctors orders! You don't wanna rush your body into something its not ready to handle yet! Good Luck with everything!
weepyone
06-09-2005, 08:50 PM
Will start trying in july as long as my period has returned by then. Can't wait to start trying again fingers crossed that everything goes well this time, although I don't think i will tell many people till I have had at least some reassurance of a scan that everything seems ok, can't bear the thought of having to tell everyone the bad news again if their was any. good luck for healthy happy pregnancy and babies and baby dust to all ttc :)
sebring
06-09-2005, 11:53 PM
I delivered a baby boy the second week of May. I was exactly 18 weeks. Earlier that week my husband and I were having the ultrasound to find out the sex of the baby. I had to have another ultrasound at the high risk clinic and found that my baby had cystic hygroma and hydrops. The specialist told me that the baby probably would not live past 24 weeks. I went back to the doctor three days later and he could not find a heartbeat. I had to deliver and it has been a trying time but better day by day. This was my first pregnancy and I was really looking forward to being a mother. However my husband and I have decided to wait a couple of months to try again. We decided to give ourselves time to grieve and have a clear head.
polarized13
06-10-2005, 01:55 AM
I am only waiting for one cycle. I was only 6 weeks along, so I don't think my body needs as much time to recover. I feel like it's kind of like getting back on the horse. Of course I'm scared to do it, and have it fail again, but if I don't I will stay in this state of fear. I think I am recovering emotionally ok, although I tend to want to deny my feelings instead of really dealing with them. More than anything, I just wish I knew what went wrong, so I could do better next time, even though I know it wasn't my fault.
~~heather~~
~~heather~~
Jordyn
06-10-2005, 12:26 PM
I can sympathize Heather. Dh and I discussed it and decided that what happened, happened. We are sort of actively trying...you know...if I have the energy tonight honey we'll do the bd!!! Realistically we are o.k. with waiting abit and I am scared of it happening again. I am scared of the unknown too...mine was just so weird with never having a bfp but just a faint one the day before the m/c. I felt pregnant, have been before and was sure I was but it was still weird all the same. I wish now I'd gone to the Dr. right away and forced the issue of blood work.
Oh well...I am now trying to read my body better so I'll be more aware next time of changes and things like bbt and cm.
I hope you have good luck this time around!!! BABY DUST TO ALL!!!
Oh well...I am now trying to read my body better so I'll be more aware next time of changes and things like bbt and cm.
I hope you have good luck this time around!!! BABY DUST TO ALL!!!