Hi everyone. Hope someone can help. I am the wife of a prostate cancer patient. He has noticed penile shrikage since the surgery. Doctor said nothing to him or I about it. Love life for the birds. Right away the doctors want to push the drugs. Family history says we maybe shouldn't do that. Doctor won't listen. Anything anyone can suggest? I am just glad to have him alive. It was a nasty form of prostate cancer for a man under 60. Thanks all. Tundra.

My husband is still recovering from surgery as well. When he read your posting he went in and checked.

There is a difference now because he still has the tubing in place. Also the blood flow and sensitive nerves have taken a shock. The penis isn't shorter there just isn't as much flow through it.

Yes, the doctor has spoken to us about Viagra. My husband has no history of heart problems we are using this.

Both of our husbands mean the world to us and we have to realize that just like any man with a cronic medical condition we are going to have to use anything at our disposal to make sure we can keep the closeness and the partnership. this is no different then if he was a diabetic or a parapaligic. Both of them have curculartory problems as well.

Greetings, my finance was recently diagnised with BPH, and also is suffering from Peyronie's Disease. He is currently on Flomax, and it affects his libido, and ability to maintain an erection. This is causing him great distress. It has had such a negative impact on his ego. He feels "washed up". I am totally supportive, and sympathetic. But, of course, it doesn't make him better. Did you have to deal with your husband's troubled ego? If so, any advice for me? Thank you.


My husband is still recovering from surgery as well. When he read your posting he went in and checked.

There is a difference now because he still has the tubing in place. Also the blood flow and sensitive nerves have taken a shock. The penis isn't shorter there just isn't as much flow through it.

Yes, the doctor has spoken to us about Viagra. My husband has no history of heart problems we are using this.

Both of our husbands mean the world to us and we have to realize that just like any man with a cronic medical condition we are going to have to use anything at our disposal to make sure we can keep the closeness and the partnership. this is no different then if he was a diabetic or a parapaligic. Both of them have curculartory problems as well.

Hi everyone. Hope someone can help. I am the wife of a prostate cancer patient. He has noticed penile shrikage since the surgery. Doctor said nothing to him or I about it. Love life for the birds. Right away the doctors want to push the drugs. Family history says we maybe shouldn't do that. Doctor won't listen. Anything anyone can suggest? I am just glad to have him alive. It was a nasty form of prostate cancer for a man under 60. Thanks all. Tundra.
:) Tundrawoman,
Penile shrinkage is a side effect of the surgery & yes, the doctors don't talk about it. A walnut sized portion and probably more of the uretha is removed when the prostate is excised, then the urethra is put back together. This naturally shortens the penis since the urethra runs through the penis & has been shortened. Has he tried a vacuum pump?
--Positive4u

I was prepared for the likelihood of impotence, at least in the short term, after surgery, but likewise was unprepared for the apparent shrinkage of my flaccid penis. Your explanation makes sense; it wasn't something I was prepared for. Another minor but unwelcome blow to the fragile male ego. :(

:) I was prepared for the likelihood of impotence, at least in the short term, after surgery, but likewise was unprepared for the apparent shrinkage of my flaccid penis. Your explanation makes sense; it wasn't something I was prepared for. Another minor but unwelcome blow to the fragile male ego. :(
rfj121,
Did you have nerve-sparing surgery? I did in July of 2002 at age 46. I am continent now but still wear a pad at work, but not at home. Doctor at Mayo said to get rid of the pad. Erections returned 28 days after surgery along with a strange orgasm. KEEP THE FAITH!
Positive4U

How are your husband's dealing with this? Are they able to maintain a positive outlook? If lovemaking is out of the question, what can I substitute for that level of intimacy? :confused:

I had a radical prostatectomy 14 months ago. Natural erections are beginning to return. If your husbands had nerve-sparing surgery, chances are very high that erections will return. It may well take up to 2 years, or even more, but unless there is some other reason for impotence, erections will come back. IN THE MEANTIME, IT IS VERY IMPORTANT TO EXCERCISE AND RE-CONDITION THE PENIS. It seems most doctors don't tell you this. Get a prescription-grade vacuum pump and learn to use it effectively. If used right it will produce a rock-hard full-sized erection. Hint: you may have to use 2, 3, or more rings to maintain blood in the penis. It's a little awkward during intimate moments, but it does work And MOST IMPORTANTLY, it will stretch, expand and excercise the penis as well as get blood engorgement going again. You should begin this process as soon as possible after surgery. Also, i'm going to try the injection therapy soon. It's an injection, painless I'm told that within minutes produces a full-sized, hard erection that lasts for a couple of hours.
The longer you wait to start re-habbing the penis, the more atrophy and possible shrinkage you will experience. The good news is that these problems can be reversed by using the pump and/or injections. Think of it as a workout for the penis, or re-hab.
Good luck!!!