I have always struggled with anger. I think I may put to much pressure on myself to make everything perfect. I have seen a counselor, and she suggested anti depressants for me, I tried taking them for two months, but had bad side effects from them. I would like to get over this without the use of medication.
It seems that the smallest incidents put me over the edge. Last week I woke up a little late... I am just so exhausted in the mornings. I was making breakfast and lunch, running late... I went to flip the eggs, and they stuck to the pan, then my toast burnt, then my sandwich was falling apart when I tried putting it in the bag. I got so pissed off... I threw the pan with eggs and toast in the sink, threw my sandwich away and stormed out of the apartment. The worst part is that my boyfriend had to witness all of this. I was so embarrassed when I got to work.

He told me that I need to learn to let things go. That I can't let such small things bother me. Easier said then done of course. I think that I have a deeper anger that boils up, and then small things put it over... it's not that the stuck eggs pissed me off that bad... it's something deeper.

I'm curious if anyone knows any ways to figure out what is really bothering me. How do I go deep inside to know what angers me? What if it is something from my childhood that I don't remember but the anger lingers on? All I know is that something has to change, I am too sensitive and I don't want people to feel like they have to walk on egg shells around me. I don't want tiny things to piss me off.

Thanks for reading, any replies are welcome.

Most likely you will never know what is triggering your deep anger. Usually it is because you have not accepted yourself for who you are. You are no doubt unhappy the way your life is right now. You can rise above this and look for what you really want in life and go for it.

Do an internet search for "anger management" and see if you find suggestions that can be applied to help resolve your problem. Accepting yourself, loving yourself, and making yourself happy rather than hoping someone else will do it for you will go a long ways in changing your anger over little things.

Marie

Marie's right, In the past I've run across all kinds of programs here and there that deal with anger management, you'll just have to search them out, sorry none come to mind right now. Hope you find something that works so you don't have to resort to medicine. Just so you know, I do take antidepressants that do help with my anger. see ya, buck.

Ashlin,
i have the same type of problem but i found it was much deeper than just burnt toast and ruined eggs. i am always highly irritated by stupid comments, judgements and acts of other people. if someone would ask me a question that i thought was stupid id flat out say so. i'd also be irritated by everything my mom and dad would do, even if it was a compliment i took it in the wrong way. everything always seemed to be going wrong in my life.
sometimes it still seems that way but i found the root of my problems came from the growing up sitution my bi polar mother put me thru since i was 6. since that age ive to take care of my lil brother and watch out for my mom.
i was forced to grow up fast and she always acted like a child, very immaturely and asked and did alot of stupid things. the doctors told me that i unconsiously connect her annoying me with other people and their actions.... it was an old rage i had to learn to take care of.
just make sure nothing big is bothering u and try to fix whatever happened in the past. most of the time thats where it comes from.
i hope i helped u.

good luck and wishes,
missy


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u never knew me, so u'll never forget me...

Ashlin,
i have the same type of problem but i found it was much deeper than just burnt toast and ruined eggs. i am always highly irritated by stupid comments, judgements and acts of other people. if someone would ask me a question that i thought was stupid id flat out say so. i'd also be irritated by everything my mom and dad would do, even if it was a compliment i took it in the wrong way. everything always seemed to be going wrong in my life.
sometimes it still seems that way but i found the root of my problems came from the growing up sitution my bi polar mother put me thru since i was 6. since that age ive to take care of my lil brother and watch out for my mom.
i was forced to grow up fast and she always acted like a child, very immaturely and asked and did alot of stupid things. the doctors told me that i unconsiously connect her annoying me with other people and their actions.... it was an old rage i had to learn to take care of.
just make sure nothing big is bothering u and try to fix whatever happened in the past. most of the time thats where it comes from.
i hope i helped u.

good luck and wishes,
missy


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u never knew me, so u'll never forget me...