how does someone deal with uncontrollable anger and hate? i used to be pretty mellow, but anymore i'm like a time bomb, i explode over everything. can be the smallest, dumbest thing, or the biggest, hardest thing, either way i snap. it started slowly, but has turned into something fierce. i can't seem to calm the anger, or the hate.... i can feel it growing inside me. sounds stupid, i know, but i can feel myself changing........ sometimes i feel like i'm losing my mind, other itmes i wonder if i already have lost it. its almost like watching an animal with rabies. everyday he just goes more insane, and finally one day he just snaps... i feel like that animal, and i don't know what to do anymore. have i really gone nuts, or am i on my way???

thanks for the replies guys. 23 read my post but not one even said hi. for others on here like me, who write because they actually need someone elses opinion, go to depression, or bi-polar.... you'll get help on those boards. 5 days, and not a single reply... thats sad. don't even have to be advice, a simple story of your life, or a hi how are ya, or anything is better than nothing. again, those of you looking for some kind of help, go to the depression, or the bi-polar board.... people there will reply and either help you, or at least acknowledge they read your post.

Hi - I just read your posts - I agree, it is very frustrating to see that people read the post, but no one can find the time to respond. I'm not positive, but I think a lot of people that come to the Anger Management Boards are looking for the answers too - and maybe don't have advice or answers for others.

I have always had a BAD temper. I am 35 years old and have a great family and comfortable life. In the last two years, things got so bad with my moods, temper and anxiety, I decided I need to see a doctor. I talked to my physician and he referred me to a psychiatrist - I talked to him three times and he really helped me to see why I am the way I am. But, that didn't help with the mood swings and temper. The smallest things would set me off and I would immediately explode. After I exploded with rage (screaming, punching doors, swearing - all in front of my kids too!)I would feel better. I finally decided I could not do this anymore. I went back to my physician and asked for meds. I have been on Paxil CR (12.5 mg) for almost two months and NO RAGE! I really believe I have a chemical imbalance (runs in my family) and I need this control of the Serantonin in my brain to help me control my temper and moods.

Sorry this is such a long post - these issues are complicated. But, anyway, have you seen a doctor about how you feel?

I know what you mean about people reading but not acknowledging you, Jeez and you're already p*****off!
IHATE DOCTORS so imagine how it felt to drag my sorry a** in for treatment. My rage was scary, the kids would look at me like I was nuts, and they're teenagers, aren't they supposed to be a bit flakey? Anyway, imbalance is the word, some meds make us worse some help, so go to a doc, lay it on the line and hope for the best. I hope for the best for you.
ps wanna know something really sad? the depression board, someone feeling that low and no one responds, so I try to find those in my spare time. Good luck RG

Hi IamsoAngry http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/smile.gif I just read your post. No one usually replies to my threads, so I actually did't even bother to come into this forum for quite some time.
I know what it's like. I'm in the situation now, as you know from my thread. Once I discover what works for me, maybe I can help you out more. I'm clueless myself, unfortunately. I'm goign to chcek out the book which was suggested back in my thread. It's a start, right? http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/wink.gif

I wrote you a long post with some good advice and hopefully a laugh or two last night. I*****out some stuff, do did my post get booted??? Now I'm angry, Ha Ha. When I get home this afternoon, I'll write ya back, wish I could just come sit down at your kitchen table and have a talk and a few laughs, we all need that. Please call a doc and insist on an appointment, everyone reacts differently on antidepressents, but at least I don't scream or throw stuff any more, mine is Zoloft, my mom's is Effexor XR, I also take depakote to bring the mania the Z causes me. Talk to ya later, bye RG
oh another thing about unanswered posts,,check the depression board,like these people really need another rejection

One thing many doctors (especially psychiatrists and primary care MDs) overlook is the physical quality of sleep you are getting every night. It is very difficult to be "balanced," emotionally stable and calm if you are not getting proper, refreshing sleep at night. If you are waking up frequently at night, having insomnia, waking up "more tired than when you went to bed" then you may have a physical sleep problem. All too often doctors attempt to treat (or consider you "treated") anger or emotional instability through the use of SSRIs or other antidepressants without fully investigating if your body is physically "sick."

After proper treatment of sleep disorders, many patients are able to come off their antidepressants and other psychiatric meds (and blood pressure meds too)and begin new lives, happy and healthy and enjoying stable interpersonal relationships for the first time in many years.

Ask your doctor to be screened for sleep disorders. It may be the answer you are looking for.