catluvr4
03-29-2005, 11:34 PM
Molly, it's been ages since I have been here, but if I remember correctly, today is your birthday. So Happy Birthday dear friend.
Peri symproms are still around, but not as bad as last year. Yet still strong enough to make me miserable. Last period was in the middle of January. But, my body is still ovulating and everything else without the period. Plus I'm under lots of stress right now; my mom was diagnosed with cancer.
Talk to you later. :angel:
CAT
Peri symproms are still around, but not as bad as last year. Yet still strong enough to make me miserable. Last period was in the middle of January. But, my body is still ovulating and everything else without the period. Plus I'm under lots of stress right now; my mom was diagnosed with cancer.
Talk to you later. :angel:
CAT
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rmc12
03-30-2005, 12:52 AM
MOLLY.... I too was coming on here to say the same!! Hope you are having a good day!!
rmc
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rmc12
03-30-2005, 01:06 AM
Cat,
I know you left this for Molly, but when I saw your name I remembered talking to you via this board and that you had not posted in awhile. So I was glad to see you and had to respond. hope you do not mind.
I am so sorry to hear about your Mom and know that this has to be a very difficult time. My heart goes out to you.
Last your wrote you were going thru a lot of very hard to deal with peri symptoms and said you were not wanting to post anymore. I don't know if you got to read any of the posts left to you after that but I know we were all concerned. I totally relate as others do as although my worse peri symtpoms were earlier last year...the anxiety has gotten really bad this year too recently for me and i hate it. (same time as last year, like a yearly occurrence for some reason) and I have had a hard time coping lately with it. They may not be as bad as earlier last year but as you said, it is still strong "enough to make me miserable" at times. It is like I am always in a pre period state and with the anxiety being a major thing mainly.
I guess I just wanted to say hello to you and wanted you to know that I have thought of you often and hoped you were doing well and would post again. I know that with what you are going thru with your Mom you are under even more stress along with being in peri which brings its own stress and just want you to know that if you ever want to talk i know we are all here to listen.
Take care,
rmc
I know you left this for Molly, but when I saw your name I remembered talking to you via this board and that you had not posted in awhile. So I was glad to see you and had to respond. hope you do not mind.
I am so sorry to hear about your Mom and know that this has to be a very difficult time. My heart goes out to you.
Last your wrote you were going thru a lot of very hard to deal with peri symptoms and said you were not wanting to post anymore. I don't know if you got to read any of the posts left to you after that but I know we were all concerned. I totally relate as others do as although my worse peri symtpoms were earlier last year...the anxiety has gotten really bad this year too recently for me and i hate it. (same time as last year, like a yearly occurrence for some reason) and I have had a hard time coping lately with it. They may not be as bad as earlier last year but as you said, it is still strong "enough to make me miserable" at times. It is like I am always in a pre period state and with the anxiety being a major thing mainly.
I guess I just wanted to say hello to you and wanted you to know that I have thought of you often and hoped you were doing well and would post again. I know that with what you are going thru with your Mom you are under even more stress along with being in peri which brings its own stress and just want you to know that if you ever want to talk i know we are all here to listen.
Take care,
rmc
molly123
03-30-2005, 01:52 PM
Hey Cat and RMC,
Thank you so much for the birthday greeting! I am really touch and impressed that you remember the date! At least you both know that the old bonker is working! LOL! Anyway, I don't celebrate my birthday (even tho everyone else seems to!), because it reminds me how old I'm getting! yikes!! Anyway, thanks again! :D
Cat - I am so sorry to hear about your mom! A big {{{{{hug }}}}!! Please know that we are here if you need to talk. Hang in there, be strong and be positive! It really seems like us baby boomers are going through a lot of stressful times in our lives now - with our own health issues as well as our parents and other family members. Life can be the pits sometimes! I really miss you! I am glad though that you're feeling a bit better than last year or since your last post. We all left you a post - I'll try to find it and get it back on top of this board. Please stay in touch! I care what is going on with you!!
RMC - please don't feel you can't make a reponse even if a post is address to one of us directly!! We are all friends so join in anytime - don't feel you can't! You should meet Penny who also posts to me - you have always been supportive and encouraging and not afraid to post what you're going through! I really wish there's a way to zap your anxiety!
Hugs to you both,
molly
Thank you so much for the birthday greeting! I am really touch and impressed that you remember the date! At least you both know that the old bonker is working! LOL! Anyway, I don't celebrate my birthday (even tho everyone else seems to!), because it reminds me how old I'm getting! yikes!! Anyway, thanks again! :D
Cat - I am so sorry to hear about your mom! A big {{{{{hug }}}}!! Please know that we are here if you need to talk. Hang in there, be strong and be positive! It really seems like us baby boomers are going through a lot of stressful times in our lives now - with our own health issues as well as our parents and other family members. Life can be the pits sometimes! I really miss you! I am glad though that you're feeling a bit better than last year or since your last post. We all left you a post - I'll try to find it and get it back on top of this board. Please stay in touch! I care what is going on with you!!
RMC - please don't feel you can't make a reponse even if a post is address to one of us directly!! We are all friends so join in anytime - don't feel you can't! You should meet Penny who also posts to me - you have always been supportive and encouraging and not afraid to post what you're going through! I really wish there's a way to zap your anxiety!
Hugs to you both,
molly
rmc12
03-30-2005, 02:11 PM
Hi Molly,
Thanks for your sweet post!! Yes, I did remember your birthday as you mentioned we were both Aries, so yes "the old bonker" does seem to be working well and in my case sometimes...too too overactive!! LOL!! (with the anxiety I mean!! it definitely has been working overtime on that!! LOL!!)
Thanks for telling me to join in anytime even if it is a post just to a particular person. I do feel that everyone is a friend on here also as we all know what we are going thru and either are going thru it or have been there.
You mentioned Penny and I recognize her name from I am sure a few of my posts from last year or this year and she is one of the many , as with you, that have helped out. I know we do not all really "know" each other, but oftentimes I have thought of someone on this board just by name and that they were going thru the same thing and it does help.
I too wish there was someway to "ZAP" my anxiety!! Thanks!! I am doing a bit better this week and trying. I think the thing that upsets me the most is my setback this year after 8 or 9 months of not dealing with all this. Reading posts that I posted from May on last year I seemed to be so much more on the upswing with things. But I also know from reading posts that everyone has had setbacks and also have been going thru this on and off as long as me.
As far as the colonoscopy, I am sure you might have read it is still not even covered fully for routine and although as someone pointed out in that thread one does not want to go just when there is a symptom of course, the fact is it is preventative and a lot of insurance plans do not cover it fully at this age. I talked at great length with someone in the benefits dept at the clinic where I will have it done , when I go, and she said that many come in , in their mid 50s , and that age 50 is a guideline. It is common that insurance companies often do not cover it and it is a lot out of pocket until they do. She also went thru symptoms with me which helped calm me. I know, as a person said, in the thread it is not like one wants to wait till we get one of those of course. But it is helpful to know and also to know that there are alot more people than just me that are fearful of one thing or another and wait till they are more calm or can get a handle on their anxiety better. I know whenever I go I will be anxious for certain as I am with other tests , but this kind of anxiety is not normal for me at all. If it was covered fully I would rather go and just get it over with at times!!
I am trying though as far as th anxiety and seem to be doing a bit better this week with taming it. Hope it continues!!
Thanks again for posting to me, always enjoy hearing from you and you are always a help.
rmc
Thanks for your sweet post!! Yes, I did remember your birthday as you mentioned we were both Aries, so yes "the old bonker" does seem to be working well and in my case sometimes...too too overactive!! LOL!! (with the anxiety I mean!! it definitely has been working overtime on that!! LOL!!)
Thanks for telling me to join in anytime even if it is a post just to a particular person. I do feel that everyone is a friend on here also as we all know what we are going thru and either are going thru it or have been there.
You mentioned Penny and I recognize her name from I am sure a few of my posts from last year or this year and she is one of the many , as with you, that have helped out. I know we do not all really "know" each other, but oftentimes I have thought of someone on this board just by name and that they were going thru the same thing and it does help.
I too wish there was someway to "ZAP" my anxiety!! Thanks!! I am doing a bit better this week and trying. I think the thing that upsets me the most is my setback this year after 8 or 9 months of not dealing with all this. Reading posts that I posted from May on last year I seemed to be so much more on the upswing with things. But I also know from reading posts that everyone has had setbacks and also have been going thru this on and off as long as me.
As far as the colonoscopy, I am sure you might have read it is still not even covered fully for routine and although as someone pointed out in that thread one does not want to go just when there is a symptom of course, the fact is it is preventative and a lot of insurance plans do not cover it fully at this age. I talked at great length with someone in the benefits dept at the clinic where I will have it done , when I go, and she said that many come in , in their mid 50s , and that age 50 is a guideline. It is common that insurance companies often do not cover it and it is a lot out of pocket until they do. She also went thru symptoms with me which helped calm me. I know, as a person said, in the thread it is not like one wants to wait till we get one of those of course. But it is helpful to know and also to know that there are alot more people than just me that are fearful of one thing or another and wait till they are more calm or can get a handle on their anxiety better. I know whenever I go I will be anxious for certain as I am with other tests , but this kind of anxiety is not normal for me at all. If it was covered fully I would rather go and just get it over with at times!!
I am trying though as far as th anxiety and seem to be doing a bit better this week with taming it. Hope it continues!!
Thanks again for posting to me, always enjoy hearing from you and you are always a help.
rmc
molly123
03-30-2005, 03:02 PM
Hey RMC,
Good to hear that your "old bonker" is working! I know of many who are losing it! LOL!!) I'm still pretty good ....haven't done anything to indicate I'm losing it in the memory department!
I know with all these threads, it is sometimes hard to remember who is who and difficult to post our responses from when there are so many going on at the same time. I really enjoy this board because the people are so nice and much more mature and no one gets guffy puffy when there's a difference of opinion. Ok, so now that the decision has been made re your colonscopy - and it's put aside for now - you should no longer have it on your mind! So, we will now go on and talk about other things.
You know, your description about your aches and pain is very similar to mine. It's amazing - it is also around the iliac crest, hip/waist area - right side. It has been better the last couple of days I noticed. Maybe it's the weather...but I have been rubbing Flexall and this Bayer pain reliever more regularly and babying it a bit more. I wake up feeling kind of stiff and achy but once I move, I'm better - but I then notice when I vacuum and bend a lot, it becomes a bit more painful. I feel fine when I'm laying or sitting down now, which is a change from couple of months ago. Overall, how do you feel each morning?
molly
Good to hear that your "old bonker" is working! I know of many who are losing it! LOL!!) I'm still pretty good ....haven't done anything to indicate I'm losing it in the memory department!
I know with all these threads, it is sometimes hard to remember who is who and difficult to post our responses from when there are so many going on at the same time. I really enjoy this board because the people are so nice and much more mature and no one gets guffy puffy when there's a difference of opinion. Ok, so now that the decision has been made re your colonscopy - and it's put aside for now - you should no longer have it on your mind! So, we will now go on and talk about other things.
You know, your description about your aches and pain is very similar to mine. It's amazing - it is also around the iliac crest, hip/waist area - right side. It has been better the last couple of days I noticed. Maybe it's the weather...but I have been rubbing Flexall and this Bayer pain reliever more regularly and babying it a bit more. I wake up feeling kind of stiff and achy but once I move, I'm better - but I then notice when I vacuum and bend a lot, it becomes a bit more painful. I feel fine when I'm laying or sitting down now, which is a change from couple of months ago. Overall, how do you feel each morning?
molly
rmc12
03-30-2005, 03:36 PM
Molly,
Just posted to you in a new Peri anxiety thread as I had seen your note in another!! lol!! I just saw this one and thought I'd respond to something in here ...regarding our similar aches.
Yes, right side and iliac crest is where I usually feel that and hip area and I do have a degenerative situation in my back which the physical therapist said affects that area specifically. I go to my chiropractor appt today and also a massage afterwards. Have been better with that feeling this week. I am taking ibupofren for it and it seems to help me (motrin) where the aches are concerned. A friend of mine told me she was told to take it round the clock for her shoulder and it helped so I thought I'd try it. It seems to be helping.
Vacumning , the physical therapist told me , is the worst for our backs and that area is affected by that. But what can we do ...not vacumn??!! LOL!! When I bend I have to be mindful to bend with my knees or if I reach for something on the floor do a golf reach, my husband calls it the Tiger Woods, it is how a golfer picks up a ball, it is better for our backs that way. I do not feel it when I am laying down usually either, although sometimes I have. It is generally alot better but of course my period is not necessarily due either and when it is nearer to that time I notice it flares up.
I was also told moist heat will help. Need to try that next time it flares up. We do have a hot tub and I find that helps.
I am glad that you are doing better with it and it is good to keep each other posted on it as it is so similar!!
take care,
rmc
Just posted to you in a new Peri anxiety thread as I had seen your note in another!! lol!! I just saw this one and thought I'd respond to something in here ...regarding our similar aches.
Yes, right side and iliac crest is where I usually feel that and hip area and I do have a degenerative situation in my back which the physical therapist said affects that area specifically. I go to my chiropractor appt today and also a massage afterwards. Have been better with that feeling this week. I am taking ibupofren for it and it seems to help me (motrin) where the aches are concerned. A friend of mine told me she was told to take it round the clock for her shoulder and it helped so I thought I'd try it. It seems to be helping.
Vacumning , the physical therapist told me , is the worst for our backs and that area is affected by that. But what can we do ...not vacumn??!! LOL!! When I bend I have to be mindful to bend with my knees or if I reach for something on the floor do a golf reach, my husband calls it the Tiger Woods, it is how a golfer picks up a ball, it is better for our backs that way. I do not feel it when I am laying down usually either, although sometimes I have. It is generally alot better but of course my period is not necessarily due either and when it is nearer to that time I notice it flares up.
I was also told moist heat will help. Need to try that next time it flares up. We do have a hot tub and I find that helps.
I am glad that you are doing better with it and it is good to keep each other posted on it as it is so similar!!
take care,
rmc
catluvr4
06-20-2005, 02:44 AM
Dearest Molly and RMC, :angel: :angel:
Thank you both for your kind words. Once again it took me forever to get back here. Peri symptoms are horrible, and I'm sure all the stress in my life is not helping. My mom was diagnosed in March with Uterine cancer, and last month she passed away. The cancer was in the last stage and no doctor could help her. Mom lived the healthiest lifestyle imaginable and never took any HRT. Yet.......what can I say????
Since April of 2004, it has been one thing or another. My father-in-law passed away, then my mother-in-law was hospitalized, then my dad was in the hospital and is now in a nursing home. An aunt died, and uncle is dying of liver cancer, my mother's death.....it's just too much. I wonder if I will ever be able to feel joy again?
It's been 5 months since my last period, and the anxiety is horrible. Plus, I have developed this depression unlike anything I have ever felt. And let's not forget all those internal shakes and crying spells. Still get some dizziness here and there. Exercising has become difficult since I don't seem to have the strength to even walk at times. Oh yeah, I'm beginning to fill out in the middle even though I do what I can to stay healthy. My doctor says I'm not trying hard enough with my exercise. Gosh, I'm so fed up with those doctors; sometimes I feel like slapping each and every one of them.
Thanks for listening :wave:
CAT
Thank you both for your kind words. Once again it took me forever to get back here. Peri symptoms are horrible, and I'm sure all the stress in my life is not helping. My mom was diagnosed in March with Uterine cancer, and last month she passed away. The cancer was in the last stage and no doctor could help her. Mom lived the healthiest lifestyle imaginable and never took any HRT. Yet.......what can I say????
Since April of 2004, it has been one thing or another. My father-in-law passed away, then my mother-in-law was hospitalized, then my dad was in the hospital and is now in a nursing home. An aunt died, and uncle is dying of liver cancer, my mother's death.....it's just too much. I wonder if I will ever be able to feel joy again?
It's been 5 months since my last period, and the anxiety is horrible. Plus, I have developed this depression unlike anything I have ever felt. And let's not forget all those internal shakes and crying spells. Still get some dizziness here and there. Exercising has become difficult since I don't seem to have the strength to even walk at times. Oh yeah, I'm beginning to fill out in the middle even though I do what I can to stay healthy. My doctor says I'm not trying hard enough with my exercise. Gosh, I'm so fed up with those doctors; sometimes I feel like slapping each and every one of them.
Thanks for listening :wave:
CAT
rmc12
06-20-2005, 04:02 AM
Cat,
I just read your other post and then saw this one. I am so so sorry to hear about your Mom. I lost my mom when she was 57 and I was 22, even though it obviously was a long time ago, I miss her. she was more than a mother, but a friend too. I empathize with your loss.
And you have been thru so much the past year, Cat, with so many losses. No wonder the anxiety and stress have been so bad. It is a lot to deal with on its own , all the losses, without also going thru peri.on top of it all.
Last year within a week I lost 2 aunts that were very dear to me, one like a mother and I was going thru a very bad bout of the peri symptoms. The gyn asked me what was going on in my life stress wise and I told her of the losses and also my mother-in-law has dementia and at the time was on hospice. The gyn said that the peri anxiety was bound to get worse thru this all and she was right.
The losses as you said are so hard and too much. My heart goes out to you.
Since your period was last 5 months ago that is a good sign, perhaps you are on the road to being done with peri and out of all these symptoms, Cat!! That would be helpful. But like I said with all you are dealing with, with the losses and stress it is understandable you are depressed. Just losing your mother alone is such a hard thing to deal with. I hope that you are being gentle and patient with yourself and that you have people around you too that you can lean on and get support from. You need that and to be kind to yourself.
I am so glad you wrote, Cat. I am sorry to read your news about what has been happening in your family but am glad you did write.
I hope you will again if just to vent. We all do and somehow it helps , I truly believe that. Please know we are here to listen . I now that does not change things but I hope it helps to know you are not alone.
Many hugs to you,
rmc
I just read your other post and then saw this one. I am so so sorry to hear about your Mom. I lost my mom when she was 57 and I was 22, even though it obviously was a long time ago, I miss her. she was more than a mother, but a friend too. I empathize with your loss.
And you have been thru so much the past year, Cat, with so many losses. No wonder the anxiety and stress have been so bad. It is a lot to deal with on its own , all the losses, without also going thru peri.on top of it all.
Last year within a week I lost 2 aunts that were very dear to me, one like a mother and I was going thru a very bad bout of the peri symptoms. The gyn asked me what was going on in my life stress wise and I told her of the losses and also my mother-in-law has dementia and at the time was on hospice. The gyn said that the peri anxiety was bound to get worse thru this all and she was right.
The losses as you said are so hard and too much. My heart goes out to you.
Since your period was last 5 months ago that is a good sign, perhaps you are on the road to being done with peri and out of all these symptoms, Cat!! That would be helpful. But like I said with all you are dealing with, with the losses and stress it is understandable you are depressed. Just losing your mother alone is such a hard thing to deal with. I hope that you are being gentle and patient with yourself and that you have people around you too that you can lean on and get support from. You need that and to be kind to yourself.
I am so glad you wrote, Cat. I am sorry to read your news about what has been happening in your family but am glad you did write.
I hope you will again if just to vent. We all do and somehow it helps , I truly believe that. Please know we are here to listen . I now that does not change things but I hope it helps to know you are not alone.
Many hugs to you,
rmc
ainfante
06-20-2005, 11:33 AM
Molly, Happy Birthday!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I Am Glad To See You Here And That You Are Doing Well.
Andrea
Andrea
molly123
06-20-2005, 02:23 PM
Hey Andrea, My birthday was back in March but thanks anyway!!! You are a sweetie to respond! Glad to see you back posting! I hope you are doing well too!!
Catluvr - I made a response to your post in the other thread called "Thanks for all you help but.." so it would be directed to you instead of a birthday thread.
molly
Catluvr - I made a response to your post in the other thread called "Thanks for all you help but.." so it would be directed to you instead of a birthday thread.
molly