HELP!!! my ex husband is a royal pain. he calls my 9 y/o son once a week (he lives out of state), but never visits, says things to my son about me not letting my son visit (ex is violent - arrests, drugs, alcohol, etc...)... anyway, i'm so angry and resentful that my ex has remarried and she puts up with his abuse, she makes lots of $. i struggle, get child support, sometimes (a whopping $200/month)... if i move i have to tell him, 30 days notice. i feel like he still controls my life!! i can't stand the sound of his voice, the thought of him sends me into a bitter, angry, resentful state and i don't know what to do about it!!! this is effecting every aspect of my life. i can't seem to get past it. we've been divorced for 8 years, i feel pathetic. why can't i get past this? ex is still bossy and controlling with me, so i've cut off all contact, he can write. what set me off today is: he didn't call my son last night, so called this morning - normally i have my son take the phone so i don't have to even hear his voice, but he left msg on machine this a.m... anyway, i'm livid that i can't even move in the same town without telling him and he can move from state to state, get married, live with whomever... without ever telling me. this is really ruining my life. everything about him is negative! what can i do? please, i really want some advice. i can't keep living like this.