Hi I read your message and I know how you feel. Are you related to this woman? I had to care for my Grandmother who was dieing from cancer. It was six months before it finally took her. I thought I was going to die it's hard because you get very close. It was 6 mos. of getting mean and she stopped eating , lost weight, And the pain for her was awful. It sounds like to me that she is feeling sorry for her self. They gave my grandmother depression meds and it helped .And it sounds like they need to do the same for her.Try to get her to do more find stuff that she use to be interested in. Make her get out more even if it is just outside. Is the son helping any? There is noway you can do it alone. And when she starts yelling or being mean just tell her that your going out of the room and when she decide to show you some respect then you will come back in .I had to talk to my grandmother that way and beleive me it was the hardest thing I ever did to her. But it has to be done. Make her understand that her life is not over yet. Have you ever tried to get her a gift or something. Try anything to make her open up to you. Don't just be her caregiver be her friend. I know that is a hard thing to say when someone is treating you like dirt. But it may help things. And if she doesn't what to get out of bed. then sit with her and talk to her have breakfast together if that is what it takes. I really don't know any of this will help but if you what to ask me anymore question just reply and I will answer. Or just need someone to talk to. Sometimes take a little time for yourself. That is very important to. I'll keep you in my prayers.Please keep me posted.
Sissyloo