Me and my boyfriend of 1.5 yrs broke up a few weeks ago, it didn't feel real until I found out he started seeing someone 3 days after we broke up, and he took her to a wedding we both we were supposed to go to together. When I found out I went to his work and got violent with him, I was so angry. Ever since then I can't stop crying, he doesn't answer my calls or messages. I called him a million times and when he answered he said to stop calling him, he doesn't like me. I don't know if he was just saying that bc he's mad. It hurts so much, I don't know if I should be strong or let him know how I feel. I see him saturday at class, and I need to know how to act. I'm really depressed, I keep feeling nauseated and can't eat. I keep wanting to call him, but if he doesn't answer I know I'll feel worse. Last night I sent him a message that I miss him, he didn't answer and I was even more sad. He was so great to me when we were together, I was kind of depressed before this, so I guess that hurt our relationship. I need to know how to feel better and how I should act around him. If he doesn't talk to me in class tomorrow I'll die. I don't know if I want to move on, I miss him.

I really need some advice, my friends don't know what I'm going through, and it's hard to know if I should do what I want to do or be strong.

Oh yeah, I'd be pissed!!! Except my ex had a girl on the side for the past 4 years..!! When him and I were together.. I can't tell you how to do anything.. I had to deal with it.. I don't even think I'd go to school, with how pissed I was.. But, I don't know.. I had to get thru it, it was hateful, I wished everything on him.. on my ex that is..

I can't hate him! If he's mean to me I just get even more sad. I miss the good times we had and how sweet he was. I feel so helpless.

Why would he get mean to you..?? I understand missing the good times and how sweet he is..

i know VERY much how u feel! im still sad over the breakup of my gf in jan 2004 :( ill ALWAYS miss her sooo much! but things will get better! please dont feel bad, i know this is hard now, maybe u should leave off for a bit, when me and an ex broke up in 2001 at uni, i hated her!!! sooo much, but now we are the best of friends!! ive grown up a lot and to be honest so has she. so it wont always be like this and u WILL get over him

Good luck and take care

Brett :angel:

This is a hard thing to go through, and so very sad. You may want to allow yourself some time to grieve the loss of this relationship. He has already moved on, from the sounds of it.
Sorry for the sadness you are experiencing. Let me know how things are going ok?
Woodfaery

Sorry to hear how bad you are feeling. I've been on both ends of this situation. To give you some perspective--when I broke up with my b/f of 5 years (wow was that hard) I had to make up my mind and stick with it even though I still felt very bad for him. I tried to let him down easier than he's doing to you though. Your ex may feel bad and not want to deal with it so he is being mean (although he just seems like a jerk all around for what he did. Hope that doesn't piss you off but you'll realize it). By being mean, he is also being honest and you should really listen and respect that, even though the jerk did what he did. (which there is no excuse for). You don't want him to string you along do you?

It is hard to be shut out by someone you love, but all I can say is give it TIME, that's the key...You just have to take it one day at a time and try to distract yourself so you don't call him and make yourself feel worse when he's then mean to you. Keep us posted..(being single actually is fun when you get back into that state of mind!!) :D Take care

that seems almost the same situation as me, im 18. male and my gf broke up with me for someone at work and they went to a wedding together also, and i was of course hurt like hell, almost 2 year relationship and i was miserable for awhile and had trouble at work, this was last august... been awhile, im on lexapro, and has worked great, but latley ive been missing her a lot.. i dont know why? it sucks tho..
but it does get better..
in time
and lots lots lots of time
tons of time.. ;[
but AD'S work great!

I know how breakups are hard. Maybe try to think about how you are better now because of the breakup. How you are single again and can meet new guys. I personally think it was wrong of him to see another girl 3 days after breaking up. So is there anything that you can think of that makes you better off?

hi,
the initial onset of my depression was also because of a breakup. i was with someone on and off for 2+ years, and the breakup was devastating (he was my first love). i went to the doctor, was diagnosed with depression, and was prescribed zoloft. that didn't work, so i was put on effexor, but that made me suicidal, so now i'm on lexapro. recently i feel as though the lexapro isn't working because i've had bad depressive relaspes, but that could also be due to the fact that my ex has recently started dating someone new. (who, might i add, looks exactly like me, which peeves me so much.)
i don't know if this has been a help or not, but sometimes it's good to know that there are other people out there who are going through the same thing that you are. these boards are wonderful and supportive, and i have found many friends here. hopefully we can help each other through these hard times. i'll always be here to lend an ear, and a kind word.
all my best,
mermaid

I feel for everyone here. I too have been on both the giving and receiving end of break-ups, and they are truly painful.

It was mean-spirited fo your boyfriend to go out with another person so soon after the break-up--no question. I agree with the person who wrote that he may be acting in a cruel manner so as to avoid dealing with you; or it may be that he is a jerk.

Either way, I know you are hurting. Still, would you want a person who acted like that in your life? You deserve better: indeed, you deserve a person who will be devoted to you, treat you like the queen you are, and never, ever act in such a blase manner right after a break-up.

I'm so sorry. I wish there were funerals for break-ups, divorces, estrangements and so on; having people offer their condolences would help you grieve. So I offer you my condolences.

Give yourself time and remember that you deserve better. Your pain will pass, and you will be left with a bad memory of the way he acted in the end and, perhaps, some good memories also.

No one deserves to be treated as you have been. My hope is that your heart heals soon.