Hi all - looking for a little advise. I have a nephew that is undergoing some serious problems and we don't know what to do. When he was around 18 he ended up in prison for theft (to buy drugs). He has been out for over 3 years and luckily his probation ended last week. If he would have gotten caught, he could have been sent back at least 4 times that I know of! Last weekend he was at a bar and was extremely intoxicated. His cousin happens to be a bouncer and they were trying to get him out of there and a ride home. He was very belligerent and his cousin was holding him back and trying to calm him down. He ended up biting him so an all out fight began and he ended up in jail. It is so hard because he will talk to us and cry and really seem like he wants to change but his actions are so contradictory. Thinking back to when he was little, it seems that he has always been very angry at something. Has anyone else seen this in someone? Do you think maybe his anger is causing his drinking/drug problems. This is killing his Grandmother not to mention his parents who have done everything possible and are ready to just dis-own him

He sounds like my ex-husband. He has been terribly angry since he was younger. He had a rough childhood so had things to be angry about. He also had a chemical imbalance, which needed to be treated with medicines. While off of his meds he would reach to drugs or alcohol. Always taking them both to extremes. My ex has already been disowned by his family but as in your case it is still killing his grandmother.

If there is any chance of counseling or possible medication it might help.

Drugs and alcohol are a ticket away from reality. A way to make the pain inside go away. My ex used to cry and cry and beg for help. Then the chemicals in his brain would change and he was right back at it.

I wish you the best of luck. Until he is ready to change nothing can help him.

It's hard to say if all this is caused by anger Im an 18 y.o. female and I have to say alot of things I do are influenced by how angry and hurt I am over things from past to present, Ive never had a problem abusing any drugs I used to smoke weed nwo and then but that wasnt because I was angry that was just because I wanted too same with drinking and I really only do those things in social settings.Id say for someone liek your nephew someone should get him to go to a therapist, anger management, anything I would like to get therapy but the problem is i have a problem admitting i have problems and am angry so I dotn even want to bring that up to my mom also she has a big mouth and loves to blab and its annoying as all get out!I dont knwo where my anger comes from but its pretty obvious im an angry negative person.