I have a question. There is an 8 year old boy and about a year ago we found out the he was molested. He seemed ok until recently. My step daughter and niece are around him a lot and we were told by the two little girls which are 3 and 5 that the "little boy took off his panties and then they took off theirs and they sat on top of him" What do you think of this? I am a little confused. I wonder if it is the molestation or if it is just sexual curiosity. What do you think?????

I think the boy is acting out the molestation. In my opinion, with what you know about this boy, you should not have and should not now allow this boy to be with your children except when supervised by yourself.

You need to go talk to this boys parents ASAP to make them aware of the problem. He is demonstrating very dangerous behavior. He needs cousling. If this type of behavior isn't stoped now he could end up just like his molestor. If the boy's parents aren't willing to help i would call social services to see what can be done to force the family to help him. He needs help now while he's still young enough to accept it.

I feel very much for this little boy.
Children learn what they are taught by others. Look at what he was taught. He needs help. He needs to know that what happened was not his fault. He also needs to know that it is wrong to act out what he was taught.
He needs councelling very badly, with a trained specialist. Talk with his parents, but be very discrete and sympathetic or they will feel that you are getting into business that does not concern you. I know I didn't say that right, but I hope you understand what I'm trying to say.
Get him help. Now.

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and God bless and help this innocent child before he harms others like he was harmed.

I really feel for all who are involved. Kids only know what they are taught, and until someone tells them that there is some behavior that is unacceptable, they will contiue. Did you talk to your daughter about the situation?
This happened to someone close to me also.
The counselors advised to talk to the victim one time about the situation, then drop it> you don't want to keep bringing it up, in fear they will think that they are at fault.
You should contact the boys parents or guardian though, so they can get him some help. If his parents are not the type you can talk to then you can contact the children's service dept. in your area. They will set YOU up with a counselor to talk to, because it is hard for a parent or relative to deal with. They will also help with how you can talk to the girls about it.
Hope any of this helps you.

Iam sorry this has happened to your little
ones. I would first of all try to get as much information as you can from your five yr old about what occured as best as you can.
Sometimes its better at their ages to use a
babydoll or a barbie-2 girls and 1 boy to let them show you what happend. You ask them certain questions about areas touched so on so fourth. Based upon my experience working
in a police station any acts like this should
be reported to Child protective services for sexually abused children. For 1. Your children were victims and might need counseling. 2. If this boy has been in fact
molested he is acting out what he considers
normal to him because he has had it done to him. 3. This may be also a way to act out his anger or his feeling of guilt. would
not just cut the 8 yr old boy off from playing with your children completely because he does need friends. I would definitly supervise the playtime with him and not allow him to be behind closed doors with your children. Where were you when this happened? Where were your children? If the boy is allowed to play this gives you the
chance to maybe talk with him, maybe he will
open up to you. I wouldnt suggest going to the parents because what happens if the mom
or dad or both are the molesters. This would place the child in danger! they arent going to get him help, it may make matters worse. Hopefully the 3 yr old will be able to get past this. The 5 yr old may be a different story. Do whats best for the boy and get a hold of a social worker. There is alot of molestation out there that never gets reported and so the molested never gets the help and continues being molested. His traits are going to continue on till he understands what has happened to him and the others he has done it to is wrong. Best of Luck I know its not easy. My 16 yr old was
molested by a 32 yr old ,there was no penetration but just the wrong touching. This guy got off the hook in the courts by saying if I did anything I was not responsible for my actions cause I was asleep. My daughter didnt know this man, she was spending the night with a girlfriend of mine to watch her 2 children early the next am. After he realizes my daughter was on the living room floor asleep and had been since 10pm that he wants to stay because it was to late to go home(2am) says i will crash on the couch. He ends up at some point that night on the floor and my daughter woke up at
4:30 am to go to the bathroom and realizes this man is holding her and caressing her
thigh under her blanket( he wasnt married)
He realizes she is shaking and scared to move and says are you okay? sounded like he was fully awake enough to ask her a question that he knew what he was doing. There was a lot more however she was badgered on the stand and humiliated. Because he said he was asleep there was not enough evidence to convict him. My daughter has had to go through counseling as a result. Emotionally
she has a low self esteem she feels like she
allowed it to happen. She is scared. All because the judge let this guy off the hook with a hand slap. This is why if theres
an act of sexual tendencies it needs to be taken seriously. Let the proper authoritys
investigate. You will be doing him a favor as well as yourself. Hope all goes well. keep me informed please. This is
not going to be easy, but remember your girls
are victims now and he was and still possibly is a victim of continual molestation. My e-mail is luvcarosel@aol.com

Hi, I know how frantic you were to hear about what happened to your 2 children. My
16 yr old went through a depression over molestation by a 36 yr old total stranger. The police dept pressed charges of sexual battery against him. Because he said he must have been asleep the judge couldnt find enough evidence to convict him, even tho he
was sleeping on a couch and got up in the night and crawled beside my daughter and asked her after he touched her and she was
in shock if she was okay. She has suffered emotionally and has depression as a result.
The bad thing is she will probably never
report rape or anything else that she has to go before the court and tell. The guy was laughing at her on the stand. She said its so unfair. Iam sorry I just needed to vent this out. I wanted to give you some advice
about the 8 yr old. I work for the Police Dept and have had experiences with these types of cases. Its traumatic for any child
to be violated by any sexual means. As far as
your 5 yr old she may not forget this and
doesnt understand why this happened. The three yr old hopefully can put this aside and not remember. In this particular case I would not go to the parents because if they were the molestors, or if one of them are this could put the child in danger. You should sit down and talk with your 5 yr old and try to find out exactly if there was any touching of private parts etc... In this age group it can also be helpful if you use 2 baby dolls and 1 boy baby doll or barbies to
ask to have them show you what was done. You
ask the questions and have her demonstrate
what happened. The next thing to do is to call Child protective services for sexually abused children. This boy needs help, he is only acting out what has happened to him who knows how much happend or if he ever got help. He needs to understand what he's doing is wrong. Iam sure he has some built up anger
and maybe this is a way for him to act it out. Get all the facts from your daughter and write them down for a report.Do you know
for a fact he was molested? Do you know the parents very well? Where were your children
when this happened? I would not cut off this child from playing with your children because
he is going to wonder all the sudden why he cant play with them anymore, also if you know him this would give you a chance to talk to him and maybe he will open up to you
and tell you who is doing this to him. I would NOT!! let him be in a secluded area by himself with your children. Remember he has at one time been a victim of molestation. He obviously needs help before he end up growing
up and continuing this trait. Let child protective services investigate. Your 5 yr old also can get counseling as a result of her being the victim. The 3 yr old can be evaluated also and she if perhaps she will need some counseling. Its very difficult to say how much they were affects by what happened. Also kids tend to block out parts they dont want to remember because what happened to them felt nasty. Good Luck!!!
please let me know what the outcome is.
e-mail me at luvcarosel@aol.com
and doesnt understand why