I dont know what kind of a post this really is lol. I guess its maybe me just venting about myself a little bit now/ I feel so guilty that in the next few weeks im going to have another baby. Of course I want this baby but now that we have found out out 2 yr old has autism I have guilt. I also have a 9 and a 1 yr old as well. So my hands are full now and about to get much worse any time now. I think now I wont have the time devoted on helping my son who really needs me more than ever. it maybe a be hormonal thing but now im having such regrets on this new baby comming.

Anyone been though this before? Howd it turn out.

Boy, oh boy do you have your hands full!! Please don't feel guilty, I know that's easier said than done but you will have the time for your son. Do you have family that lives nearby or friends who can help you? In your post you mentioned that your son is 2 and you just found out about the autism, there are services available to him. I live in Ma, so I don't know exactly what you have in your state as far as services for him but there should be Early Intervention. My son was dx a 2.5yrs and started early intervention. Someone came to my house once a week and he also attended a toddler group 2x a week. Then when he turned 3 he started school. You should be able to get him in something like that and that will give you some time for your other kids and you will know that he's getting the attention he needs. I have 2 kids, my son (autistic) he's 12 and my daughter is 10. She is a big help with her brother and tries to play with him and she also helps to keep an "eye" on him because he gets into everything! I'm sorry, I don't know exactly what you are going through, but I think as moms we tend to worry and feel guilty about all our kids. Try to take it one day at a time and not worry about the future. I do that as if I had my own "crystal ball" and let me tell you that my crystal ball doesn't work! LOL. I worry and things usually work out fine. Your son will be fine and congrats on your new baby! ~ Bunny

i think i know what you are going through. i was 6 months pregnant with my third child when my (then 2 year old) son was diagnosed. i had no idea what to expect other than knowing that my autistic son will need a lot of help. i also feel tremendous guilt about not having enough time to spend with all my kids. fortunately for me, my son has been approved for a very generous amount of therapy (some home based) so i do have time to play with my other two kids. the other thing i try to remind myself about is that Nt kids do not need the amount of attention that special needs kids do. my NT 7 year old doesn't want me hovering over him and explaining the obvious. my autistic son on the other hand needs that. i just think the guilt comes with motherhood and our kids really do not notice the "unbalanced" amount of attention. good luck, stay strong. congrats on your pregnancy.

Thank you both for them replys. He is startng therapy now several times a week in my home which will help out. (As slong as the others dont get in the way.) Im thankful for that. Other than that i guess it will all work out somehow I guess it has to right? I just dont want him to suffer anymore than he has to becouse of me. thanks again.