I feel so fat and ugly, even though people say I'm not I can't believe them because I know what I see when I look at myself.

I've never had a boyfriend- guys don't fancy me. I'm starting to wonder what's wrong with me!! Why don't they fancy me?!

I just wanted to vent, sorry

Lots of love

Tamsin
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Hey Tamsin. :wave:

Of course i don't know you, but i am sure you are being hard on yourself. Everybody does it, and i should know as i am very insecure about, well, everything! Physical, my character, you name it i'm not happy about it!

But i'm sure guys do like you. There is more to life than looks anyway, and from my experience of you on here you seem like a friendly, kind, caring person. That counts for a lot.

To say i don't have much luck with women is un understatement. I've had one girlfriend who used me and then hurt me. I often think similar things to what you have described.

Everyone is overly critical of themselves and i'm sure there are guys who are and would be interested in you.

Take care of yourself and try to stay positive. (i know that is a lot easier said than done and hope it didnt come across as too patronizing).
James.

Because you don't think your worthy of their fancy. Your self -esteem sounds low. You need to start saying, " I'm attractive, I've got a great personality, I've got a nice body, etc. Walk tall, be pleasant, sincere, and positive. It's more on the inside that matters than whats on the outside. Good Luck.

Hi :wave:
You will find a guy that loves you for being you. Beauty is not external it comes from within. It matters most what is in your heart. Have you ever seen a beautiful person that you didn't know and when you got to know them they were not what you thought they were? They had the beauty on the outside but when you got to know them they were shallow, mean, arrogant and you didn't even want to be around them.

You are probably being hard on yourself, others must see you as the beautiful and caring person that you really are. I have seen a beautiful and caring person from what you have posted to others.

Just wanted you to know...you are not alone....I understand!

Best wishes and many hugs,
Sam :angel:

Hey :wave: ,

James- thanks for that. Of course it didn't sound patronising :). I'm sure you're a great guy and shouldn't be so insecure, so you should stay positive too. Thanks for being so nice to me- it means a lot right now. You take care too.

luvtocamp- thanks for the advice. Yeah my self esteem is really low at the moment and has been for a while. I'll try and follow you're advice.

Thanks again guys

Lots of love

Tamsin
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Sam,

Thanks so much. It's nice to know that I'm not alone. Thanks for the support and words or kindness.

Lots of love and hugs

Tamsin
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Hi, Tamsin. :) Are you very pro-active about looking for a boyfriend? If you are shy and timid, that could be why guys aren't acting interested, regardless of how sweet and pretty you are. More and more, the women are having to take initiative. I think as far as dating went, the internet was a life saver for me. Have you ever tried to meet anyone that way? It's a great way to kind of get to know somebody before meeting them. If/when you meet the person, if they reject you based on how you look, then that person isn't someone you'd want to be with, anyway. You can meet somewhere public and/or double date, to make sure you are safe. I would never recommend letting an internet date pick you up or know where you live until you've met a couple of times. Anyway, if you have a hard time approaching people physically, then I think the internet could help you find somebody.

You're such a caring and giving person, that any guy would be lucky to be with you. He just doesn't know it, yet.

Take care, sweetie. Hugs--EoR

Because you don't think your worthy of their fancy. Your self -esteem sounds low. You need to start saying, " I'm attractive, I've got a great personality, I've got a nice body, etc. Walk tall, be pleasant, sincere, and positive. It's more on the inside that matters than whats on the outside. Good Luck.

When you have people make fun of the way you look, to your face and without hesitation, that's what causes low self esteem. It's a good sentiment, but it's hard to pretend everything's alright when there are plenty of people more than willing to let you know what they think. It shouldn't matter, but it does because society shapes our opinions of ourselves and others in a big way.