I'm new to this site, so I'm sure this has been covered many times, I am almost through a severe dark 3 hours, family, tv, etc., crying watching crap on the box. Does anybody have a special way out?

I could shower.
Have a ciggy.
Tell myself how wonderful I am (which I am).

What I do not want to do is take medication, or, sleep it off!

Am I missing something, is there something I could do to lift myself out of the holes when they appear?

OR is that it?

P.x.

I'm new too, so i don't know what has been said before...

I don't have a "special way out" but there are things you can try, to distract yourself or to help yourself through it.

There are some suggestions for lots of different ways to beat depression at http://www.thinkyourselfhappy.com/page.php?domain_name=thinkyourselfhappy. com&viewpage=contact

- not all seem useful but it's good for ideas.

It can be something very simple like have a bath with some candles lit. I sometimes find that calms me down a bit if i'm upset.

Or do something creative that will use your mind on other things - art or something. If you can get into it, the activity will help distract you.

go running

Talk to a friend!

I know what it's like when you're at your most down - it can seem like nothing will help, or you don't want to do anything in the first place. But hang on and remember all the previous times, how you felt better in the end.

best wishes

Thanks for your reply, this morning I helped a friend who's decortating (his job), out at 6am, going to do the same in the morning, I'm doing it for 3 hours then back home to turn the computers on for my job!

I know this will help in the long run. Exercise and all that plus a great escape.

I am an artist(graphic) and get a real buzz when it all goes right.

I thought I may have come through this by now, but no.

So, decorating (free-of-charge) for 3 hours, doing my job from 9, making dinner for everyone at 4.

Lots of fun but there's still something going wrong and I hate myself for going down this road. I really don't need to feel so bad... but still do.

I'm great at looking after other people and their problems but don't seem to be able to sort out my own.? Why?

P.x.

u cant take ur own advice because giving advice is much easier than taking it urself, i should know!!! :) the old saying "easier said than done" really rings true with me and my depression. ur right exercise is a great help!

good luck and take care

Brett :angel:

It's started again! I don't understand why, I'm brilliant for everyone else, but not for me.

I get asked what is the 'trigger' and I suppose there usually is one.

I don't like taking the drugs, but wish I had a key to control my head without pumping my body full of c**p.

I truly think I am going to die from this disease.

Anyway, it's good (I suppose) to get it off my chest.

R.x.

I find that running helps me sometimes. Not just jogging, you know, but all out as fast as I can go (while keeping a steady pace) for 20 to 30 minutes without stopping. It kinda helps put you back in your body, if that makes any sense. I found, though I haven't tried it much (classes be expensive), that yoga helps too.

Unfortunately, I'm at that stage where nothing is helping. I can't run (except run away).

I think there's a way out but I can't find it. I've tried physical excerse, it's not working.

Maybe I should just take the 'diazapam and sumontil', and give up.

This can be a very lonely place can't it?

But thanks for your thoughts, IT DOES HELP, I find a lot of comfort in the fact I can open up and be anonymous.

I feel very alone at the moment.

I hate the fact I have to hide the depression, it's quite tricky because I don't want the people around me to see it, I think she does.

R.x.

im trying to get by with out meds too, but every day is as ***** as the last and im not confidant i will or even want to live through this.if it goes on indefinately i just wont be able to cope with the lonly ness that depression has thrown my way,ihardly leave the house any more and carnt think what to do if i did go out either.all my old friends smoke pot all the time and i have had to avoid them,co's it makes me feel worse.hope we get through this

I find that the drugs don't help, I drink, but I avoid a joint, maybe you should tell someone close to you, 'someone you trust', what you are going through.

Hopefully, and usually, if they are real people, you will get support. It won't take anything away, but it really helps to have someone close who will listen and, hopefully, understand.

Otherwise, your crowd needs to change.

I suppose I'm lucky, my proper friends know the disease I have (because I tell them).

Try and find a good friend that you can talk to about this, or just come out with it, there must be someone close who will understand - stick with them.

Everyone has our problem, but to a different extent, I'm at the satge where I just advertise to b***h.

Gets you noticed, funny how the people who aren't friends back off.

R.x.

I can't do this right now, just found out that the last 2 days work I did were a complete waste of time.

R.x.

Take care.

please don't give in, I know you feel terrible and empty now, and like none of this is worth doing. :(

But stick at it and things will improve, I'm sure they will.

I've had the same feeling of wasted days at work, I'm in a new job and there is a big learning curve. just try not to take it personally (everyone makes mistakes or things go wrong out of your control). Try to focus on what you're doing right, even if it's only tiny things, and praise yourself. Feeling satisfied with them will help motivate you to keep trying... and each day get a tiny bit better at it.

also, remember by posting here you're helping us as well as yourself! :)

pitseleh

I agree. The best idea is to just stay occupied. Sweep the floor. Do a couple dishes. Organize your CD collection. Anything. It helps. It creates a sense of accomplishment. It might even trigger a desire to take on a larger task. Keep your mind occupied. It helps!

Thanks guys, I have recently done my CD collection! I AM fighting this problem, but was up at 5am working! Also, I have to admit I took the old diazapam.

My partner does not make me feel bad for taking the drug (only me), I'm hoping to have a good day today (please god).

If I come back here today, it's obviously not happening.

R.x.

I'm off to see the doctor at 6 p.m. totally lost it today, same old thing, sedate, ooor he'el be fine! aye until the 'morra'

I feel a bit s**t for my lass and my kids who live round the road, but I have to say I don't really give a toss.

What is the most painless way to go? Drugs, Knife, in the bath?

R.x.

I have decided the best way is a shotgun, but I don;t own a gun and you probably don;t either, since you are still alive. I did have a point here..........oh yea.......since we don;t have guns and haven;t quite gotten to the point of going out and getting them. Maybe we arent; as far gone as we think? As I told my doc today, I think about it all the time, but I haven;t acted on it this time. As long as I can put it off one more day, I suppose the med might kick in and I will feel better. Maybe that is the only reason any of us on this board is still around.