andrews
05-04-2005, 09:43 PM
My dad, my buddy, "the man" and my mom's truly beloved husband passed away at 3pm on Tuesday May 3rd. He was just coming out of prostrate surgery and was in recovery. The doctors had taken "all" of the cancer out and we were told the surgery was a success. He was 62 yrs of age and very healthy. About 5 minutes post-op is when he stopped breathing. The doctors cpr'd him for a 1/2 hour we were told but he didnt make it. He died. We are all in a state of shock. How can a healthy man that went thru such a common surgery die 5 minutes after a "successfull" surgery ? I feel like the doctors are hiding something. My mom is just broken to pieces. My mom and dad were so crazy about one another. They adored each other so much. My dad had just retired last week. They had so many things planned. My dad just wanted to get throughthe surgery and live another "20 years" like he said....I feel so horrible for my mom. This is such a tragedy...... :confused:
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fairydogmother
05-05-2005, 06:40 PM
Oh andrews, I don't know what to say. I am so sorry about your dad. I can't even imagine what you, your mom, and your family are going through. I'm so sorry.
I just wanted you to know I care.
I just wanted you to know I care.
behindmyshades
05-05-2005, 06:44 PM
Andrews my heart goes out to you and your mom. I have no answer as to how this could happen, only empathy for you.....
PATTYS117
06-06-2005, 01:06 AM
undefinedAndrew,
Losing a parent is VERY difficult. I lost my Dad last year-He was a new grandfather & wanted desperately to be here to see the kids grow...its heartbreaking f or them and me and my Mom etc...I know what you are going through-as my Dads illness was sudden too. Just try to keep the faith and try to stay busy while keeping all the wonderful memories in your heart. I know i was so blessed to have such a great man to call "Dad".
Losing a parent is VERY difficult. I lost my Dad last year-He was a new grandfather & wanted desperately to be here to see the kids grow...its heartbreaking f or them and me and my Mom etc...I know what you are going through-as my Dads illness was sudden too. Just try to keep the faith and try to stay busy while keeping all the wonderful memories in your heart. I know i was so blessed to have such a great man to call "Dad".
tmarie
06-06-2005, 09:11 PM
I am so sorry about your loss...I lost my dad a little over a month ago to cancer at 62 and my mom 5 years ago at 57 which was very unexpected. I feel your pain. ....
CARAT414
06-07-2005, 02:21 AM
Andrew if I could I would wrap my arms around and cry with you. I know the pain you feel and all the questions you have. I have lost both of my parents in the past year. I wish I had the answers to help you understand, but I am still looking for them also. When things get really bad and I am just overwhelmed with grief I just try to remember that they were placed on this earth for a reason, and now that what ever that reason was is complete, they were called back to have eternal peace in a place far better then here.
Bless you and know that you are not alone in your grief or the only one that just doesn't understand.
Casey
Bless you and know that you are not alone in your grief or the only one that just doesn't understand.
Casey
Godiswithyou
06-07-2005, 07:20 AM
I am very sorry for all of the pain that all of you feel during these terrible times of loss. We here on earth will never fully understand why we must endure these times of crisis. But I can promise you....out of everything bad that happens, God turns it around for good according to his will. You may not see what good can come out of your suffering at the time, but you will in time. And you can rest assured that you will see your loved ones again for eternity if you and they have believed. I pray to God to relieve the pain in your hearts and that you will not put the people who have passed behind you, but instead will focus on them in front of you and have the goal to reach the same beautiful place where they are waiting for you. God bless you all!!
Johnsternow
06-07-2005, 11:40 AM
I too have lost both parents just before they retired in the past year. I do agree with all everyone here is saying. I also believe we will meet again one day. This was the hardest cruelest thing anyone can go thru. It may be important to stay close to your mom right now. She needs help and support knowing him even longer and loving him so. Her life and future plans with him you spoke of will change now too.
God Bless and prayers
John
God Bless and prayers
John