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justagirl428
05-12-2005, 09:36 PM
hey, so i was wondering if i could get some fedback on some things i was wondering about. me and my boyfriend are not ready to have real intercourse becuase i am deathly afraid of becoming pregnant before im ready to be.yet no matter how hard we try, it seems we can't ignore sexual urges we have and we fool around almost every time were together. our clothing doesnt come off, ever, and all we ever do consists of dry humping, lap dances, fingering and hand jobs. and i know ive been told before that there is practically no way that sperm could go through his boxers , his jeans, my jeans and then my panties and then get me pregnant. and that i could understand. but my concern is just how well does this hold true if the it isnt always denim and cotton underwear. for instance, we were dry humping today and he was wearing cotton boxers, jeans and i was wearing jeans and mesh underwear. does that make a difference at all? he had changed out of his jeans then because there was a "spot" on them , and he changed into boxers and mesh basetball shorts. and i was still in my jeans and mesh panties. we did some more dry humping then after he had changed. im just concerned that this "mesh" material could change the risks, even with there being four layers technically( my mesh underwear do have a small patch of cotton material in the crotch area , but heck, i imagine if were messing around even in our clothes, that patch isnt gunna stay in place, but would that help protect any?). any advice and comments are greatly appreciated :)

Lance2
05-13-2005, 02:17 AM
Absolutely NO way for any of those little sperms to get there and get the job done through any kind of clothing like what you're describing. There really needs to be skin to skin contact and semen deposited at least very near your vagina for there to be a real scare.

Ron Z
05-13-2005, 08:16 AM
Way back in college (1970's) my girl and I did the same. We did not want to risk pregnancy so we did about everything except intercourse. We used to strip down to just our underwear and dry hump. She bought me some nylon shorts that were great for this. Just in case, I wore a condom for safety and mess control.

enjoy - sex without intercourse can be very creative and fun

Thisby
05-13-2005, 08:22 AM
The difference between the mesh and the cotton undies is insignificant given all the other stuff between you. What matters is whether any semen gets to your vulva and you're just going to have to use common sense to determine if anything is getting through. When he's finished, has his ejaculate seeped through all the clothing and directly on to your vulva? If it hasn't, then you're fine. If it has, then he's got pretty amazing semen!

Anyway, it's hard to get technical about the permeability of fabric but think of it this way: fabric is NOT impermeable to liquid, but on the other hand, try to spit through 4 layers of fabric...

Anyway, my advice is for you to think logically about this and stop obsessing, since you have already posted quite a bit about it. Good luck. :)

justagirl428
05-13-2005, 11:01 PM
so, okay, maybe i do obsess over this, it's just like i said, i am TERRIFIED of becoming pregnant, but we just cant seem to stop fooling around with each other. so all in all, im assuming the fully clothed version of dry humping is pretty safe. thanks to all who comment, you dont know how much relief simple comments and answers are to someone who stresses a lot about a lot, haha :)

sparkleflower
05-14-2005, 07:35 AM
Why not get on the pill, and always use condoms? The pill is like 99.9% effective, and condoms will help prevent transmission of STDs... that way, you won't have this worry, you can relax, and enjoy your sexuality :-)

justagirl428
05-17-2005, 09:02 PM
im gunna sound crazy, but after one of your replies( sorry, i dont remember which one of you posted it), you had said something to the effect of " you cant spit through 4 layers of clothes" in regards of how well semen could go through clothes. so, the crazy girl i am, i took a pair of jeans of mine, placed a pair of panties made of somewhat similar material as the ones i was wearing that day, inside the jeans and then placed a piece of paper inside the panties. I then took another pair of denim and placed some thin cotton pajama shorts inside of them( similar to boxers) and laid them face down on top of the other jeans. i made a concoction of lotion and water and poured some inside the pair with the shorts in them and then waited to see if the concotion seeped through the layers and onto the paper. I checked the paper and it seemed dry. And i tried the experiment a few times , sometimes pouring larger amounts of the concoction and sometimes less. And each time, the paper came out dry, as far as i could tell. So, in conclusion, as far as my experiment went, it doesnt seem that semen would be able to make it through all the layers of clothing. haha, i must sounds nuts, but honestly, sometimes you just hafta find out for yourself.

EricaNicole27
06-03-2005, 11:04 AM
so, okay, maybe i do obsess over this, it's just like i said, i am TERRIFIED of becoming pregnant, but we just cant seem to stop fooling around with each other. so all in all, im assuming the fully clothed version of dry humping is pretty safe. thanks to all who comment, you dont know how much relief simple comments and answers are to someone who stresses a lot about a lot, haha :)

I am in no way meaning this to be rude, BUT with that type of question you seem to be very young and maybe a little too young to be even just "dry humping"..to me, it is past being "cautious", it's a question being asked by a 9 year old...I know that sounded very rude, but I meant that in the non rudest way possible..So NO of course there is no way of becoming pregnant with clothes on.

Longview
06-04-2005, 10:43 AM
me and my boyfriend do immense ammounts of drying humping w/ clothes on too..and never have once became pregnant. if i were you id stop worrying and i know thats hard to do because im a worry wart myself and i use to worry bout your problem too. but try to stay calm..and maybe if u worry so much its not a good idea to engage in anything sexual until u know u are truly ready.

justagirl428
06-09-2005, 02:26 PM
ok, so i've gotten myself to calm down a little and not be so paranoid, but just a quick question. what do think of it as far as wearing shorts goes? if he would ejaculate on my thigh when im wearing shorts, couln'dnt that be more riskier? i mean , you would think maybe, but i really dont know and just wanted some input