poisonfairy
05-16-2005, 09:15 AM
has anyone done this? my uncle just died in spain (im in england) and i had to id the body. i'm having trouble dealing with it and wondered if anyone has done it?
he was all frozen with his eyes half open and ice stuck to half of his face. is this normal?
he was all frozen with his eyes half open and ice stuck to half of his face. is this normal?
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poisonfairy
05-16-2005, 09:26 AM
anyone? feel im going mad
happyelf
05-16-2005, 10:08 AM
Pf;
I'm sorry you had to go through this. I've never had to id a body, so I don't know what the experience "should" be like-but I want you to know someone is out here. Writing your story may be theraputic--thoughts and feelings need to get out, not be bottled up inside. Yopu're not going mad-it just feels that way. And after what you've witnessed, it's totally understandable. Grief can eat you alive. Please use this board to post your feelings. Maybe someone else out there has been in your position and can be of help to you...anyone? I can listen really well...so feel free to vent to me if you need to . I'm on the boards daily. Peace be with you, and know you're not alone.
HappyElf/ USA
I'm sorry you had to go through this. I've never had to id a body, so I don't know what the experience "should" be like-but I want you to know someone is out here. Writing your story may be theraputic--thoughts and feelings need to get out, not be bottled up inside. Yopu're not going mad-it just feels that way. And after what you've witnessed, it's totally understandable. Grief can eat you alive. Please use this board to post your feelings. Maybe someone else out there has been in your position and can be of help to you...anyone? I can listen really well...so feel free to vent to me if you need to . I'm on the boards daily. Peace be with you, and know you're not alone.
HappyElf/ USA
poisonfairy
05-16-2005, 10:27 AM
thank you so much. he was only 42. my dad died at 48 -13 years ago next week. just all comes back to me.
cut my arms real bad last night (self harm) and now scared to work. we wear sleevless tops you see. how do i get out of that one?
cut my arms real bad last night (self harm) and now scared to work. we wear sleevless tops you see. how do i get out of that one?
shawley
05-16-2005, 10:54 AM
I have never ID anyone, But I found my Brother in bed . He choked in his vomit while sleeping, We were camping and drinking. 2 years later my father died . I was there for his last breath, another year later it all stopped. My mother had a massive heart attack and died, But I was not there when that happened. I wonder why it was me everytime ? It was hard but I dealt with it.I dont cut myself. But at times it hurts so bad, all I could do is cry. It still hurts, And I have that picture of my brother in my mind everyday. It still hurts and always will in some way I guess, You need to seek help my friend if your hurting yourself. Good luck
happyelf
05-16-2005, 12:16 PM
Pf--good to see you found the self-injury boards. You're not alone. Please visit them for support. About the scars--a few posters suggested using a scar cream that will lessen the appearance of the scars. As for an immediate solution, maybe a light coat of make-up on your arms? ANY possibility you can wear longer sleeves to work? And are you REALLY ok to go to work today? :( You may need some down time to recuperate from this trauma. I'm so sorry about your uncle--and your father. It's a horrible way to see a loved one, in death, esp if it was not peaceful. My father died 13 yrs ago also-and his last 72 hours haunt me to this day. (He was in the hosp-cancer-when he died.) It is hard to overcome, I know. I'm still p-o'd about it. Do you have any other family? Hang in there.
krazykitten20
05-27-2005, 04:19 PM
I Used To Cut My Self It Feels Good Once You've Done It But Afterwords It Makes You Depressed And Wanting To Do It Again My Advise Is To Find A Different Outlet Try Writing In A Journal I Write Poems Now Now That My Moms Is Dying I've Wrote About 15 Different Poems But I Havent Cut Which Im Proud Of Some People Try Exersising Or Reading Or Drawing Good Luck I Hope You Can Figure Out Your Outlet And Your In My Prayers