Hi all.
I went to the PM the other day, and after telling how I felt and that I was still having pain he told me, You don't look like your having pain? I almost started to cry, but I wasn"t giving him the satisfaction of making me cry. I wanted to know what you all thought of this. StarAngel

I think its disgusting. If i were you i would go back & demand a second opinion, or better still get a new doctor!
Thats like saying to someone who has cancer- "well you dont look like you have cancer"!! Its unbelievable- what is a person in pain supposed to look like, i mean what did he expect you to be looking like??

First let me tell you that I can totally relate with all that you are going through...just pull up my threads and you can read all of the heart ache that I have gone through with docs and what complete uncompassionate idiots they are! If you have an HMO...then go to your PCP and request going to a new PM...or better yet...just get your meds through your PCP if you can....if you have a good relationship with him or her...than I would definetly go that route....most PM docs will think that you are a drug seeker if they don't know your diagnosis yet and you are wanting more meds all the time....instead of being a DOCTOR and trying to keep you out of pain while diagnosing you and fixing you at the same time! Sweety...I know that its a long and winding road to go down...but if you want to get help...you need to not give up and keep trying. Def do not go see that PM again..its obvious that he doesn't care. What is wrong with you by the way....what area hurts...have you been diagnosed with anything??? Have you had any tests done? Let us know so we can offer as much advice as possible to help you get through this tough time. We've all been there so don't feel alone! Glad to see you here on the boards though...anytime you need help, encouragment or advice...jump on a type away...someone is always here to listen!!!
xoxox
Diva~

Sorry about treating you like you are a newbie...I was reading your post along with three others and then went back and replied to each of them...I realized at the end of yours that you haven't just joined...that was one of the others that I was reading from another area!So sorry for telling you of all the great benefits of the board.....you already know it well enough!!! But you are new to me....so thats why all of the questions came about! Well...hope to hear from you soon!! :wave:

Hi Diva,
No problem. I had three back surgeries all on L4-5. The last being a spinal fusion. I still have pain in my lower back, right thigh, calf, and big toe, that is relentless. I almost feel like giving up, it is so hard to deal with the pain, and then to have the doctors and others not believing you too. I am sure you all know what I am going through, and this site has been a great support for me. I cry for the littlest reasons, I guess I just can't deal with it any more. StarAngel

i think i very strange doctors today can tell u how u feel. and how u think u feel is all in ur mind.

That is horrible! I am so sorry about what you went through. How can he possibly KNOW how much pain you are in by HOW you look? That is absurb. Having lupus, I have heard SO many times comments from people "Well, you don't look sick", it is so frustrating. It is ridiculous that anyone think someone's pain can be measured by how they look!! ITA with what Diva recommended find another PM Doctor!! You are in my thoughts. :angel:

-Jo :wave:

Thank You all for replying. StarAngel

Hi Diva,
No problem. I had three back surgeries all on L4-5. The last being a spinal fusion. I still have pain in my lower back, right thigh, calf, and big toe, that is relentless. I almost feel like giving up, it is so hard to deal with the pain, and then to have the doctors and others not believing you too. I am sure you all know what I am going through, and this site has been a great support for me. I cry for the littlest reasons, I guess I just can't deal with it any more. StarAngel
I cry aswell for the littlest reason. I also had three surgeries on L3, 4 and 5 and often imagine ending up in a mental institute coz the pain makes me feel like I am going mad. It is so awful when there is nothing you or your doctors can do to take the pain away. I try my hardest every day to think of positive things or funny things. I know that is virtually impossible alot of the time, but there is nothing else I can do. Next time I`m crying I`ll think of you crying and I will try and send you positive vibes. I sound a bit mental already don`t I? :confused: :nono: :) ;)

Hi, I to have a story to tell. I had my L4-L5-S1 fused with hardware. On 4/15/2003 about 3 or 4 months ago I was starting to get more pain, I had MRI's done they said I had a broad based subligamentous bulge of the L5-S1
The surgeon said he couldnt do anything for me, Time went on, and on, My pain gets worse, They made me feel like I was nuts, Even my wife was upset at me, I couldnt help it, It hurt, Finally after 3 different Doc. My new doctor had me take an X-Ray of me bending, There it was..A broken screw.. Im not crazzy. So I have an appointment with my Surgeon now . I hope you get well. It really stinks in pain. :wave:

Hi All....

Well, I know exactly what ya,ll are talking about, I have been dealing with my back problems for well over a year now, and have been getting paid through my Long Term Disability through my work... Well, MetLife my LTD carrier decided they wanted me to go see one of their doctors for an evaluation, well 4 of my doctors had said I could not work, with my pain, and back problems, and such, I went to this guy and he examined me and so on, and by the end of the examination I was almost in tears I hurt so badly, he basically put his hand on my shoulder said "Go home take your pain meds and go to bed" he said he had to totally agree with my doctors that I could not work.... Well, I requested a copy of the dictation of his notes from my visit that he would be sending MetLife, when I read it I was furious, he stated in his notes that he felt I was over exaggerating my pain, and overreacting, that he did not feel I was in as much pain as I let on that I was, and he felt I could easily work an 8 hr job with no problem........I was just lucky that 4 of my doctors had said I could not work... So MetLife did not discontinue paying me my benefits. Just makes you want to kick them in the you know what... and when they are doubled over in pain, stand and tell them.... "I dont think you are in as much pain and you are letting on, I think your over reacting." Lets see how they feel then.

My best suggestion is go get another doctor.

Best of Luck

TRose :angel: